My Mom just died

It's so hard knowing that she's finally gone. My rock, my safety net is gone. No more phone calls, no more shopping, no more smiles, telling me everything is going to be all right. No more reminders to count 'to 10' when life gets complicated. It's so hard to know she's gone. She died this past Saturday. I know it will take time, the tears just keep coming. I feel so lost at this moment.

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Permalink Reply by Megan on February 4, 2010 at 3:44pm

I know how you feel I lost my mom last April I was 13 at the time just make sure you talk because I didn't so I think that's some of my proballem

Permalink Reply by Michelle on February 4, 2010 at 3:47pm

My mom passed 12-20-09. I know exactly how you are feeling. Somedays it will feel somewhat normal but then somdays you still just can't believe it. Hang in there and know you are not alone !!!

Permalink Reply by Judy on February 4, 2010 at 4:39pm

Michelle said:

My mom passed 12-20-09. I know exactly how you are feeling. Somedays it will feel somewhat normal but then somdays you still just can't believe it. Hang in there and know you are not alone !!!

Permalink Reply by Judy on February 4, 2010 at 4:42pm

Thanks, it was rough going back to work today. Tears just come and go. We're having her memorial service this weekend. Another milestone to go through. Thank God for friends & family!

Permalink Reply by Priceless on February 4, 2010 at 5:24pm

Judy, I am so sorry for your loss of your mother. You were brave to go to work today. I do not think I could have done that soon after my parents died, ( 3 1/2 months apart). Know that God has his loving arms around you and is holding you up and is hugging you as you try to rest.
I have pictures from the last time I saw my parents. I did not want to leave Dad side as we said our last goodbye before the Celebration of Life Mass. I grieved and did what was right for me and would allow me to grieve without the "I wish I would have done this or I wish I would have done that" I will never see my parents again on earth and wanted to say my goodbye the way that was right for me. It was my way to grieve since I knew I would NEVER EVER get this moment back. Grieve the way that is right for yourself. Allow yourself to grieve. God bless you. You will be in my prayers.

Permalink Reply by Judy on February 8, 2010 at 11:43am

Thanks, Marianne. The service was beautiful on Sat. On Sunday was my sister's 50th birthday. She wanted to celebrate alone. That made be feel even lonier, we spoke this morning, she wasn't even thinking. I just felt the pain a little more, being left out, and we both just lost our Mother. My Dad died 10 years ago. It's weird now, having neither parent walking about on the planet, yet I know I'll always keep them close in my heart.

Permalink Reply by Tina Clark on February 8, 2010 at 4:16pm

I know how you feel. My mom also died just last Saturday on the 6th and she was 90 yrs old, but I know she lived a happy and fulfilled life. I miss her deeply as she lived with me for the last 5 yrs. of her life. She died at home and Hospice was wonderful. They made her last week very comfortable. I know that she is in a good place with my dad, but there is an emptiness in my heart and not having her physical presence will take a long time to get over. I am with you, because I too feel lost and lonely. The memorial service will take place at our church this Wednesday at 5:30 p.m.

Permalink Reply by Marcella on February 9, 2010 at 12:32pm

I just wanted to say that you are not alone I lost my Mom this past November 13, 2009. She's been gone now for almost three months. It will get better. I promise but you will never stop missing her. She'll always live in your memories and your heart.
Make sure to talk about your loss it truly helps!!!!!!

Marcella

Permalink Reply by Lisa on February 9, 2010 at 12:51pm

Hi Megan, I am so sorry that you lost your mom last April. Teen years are so very hard. If you need to talk to someone, please contact me at lkp0927@yahoo.com. My mom died on December 2, 2009. I miss her everyday. Sometimes, I miss her every minute of every day. Who knows? You've been coping with it longer than I have, maybe you could help me too.

Megan said:

I know how you feel I lost my mom last April I was 13 at the time just make sure you talk because I didn't so I think that's some of my proballem

Permalink Reply by Judy on February 9, 2010 at 2:17pm

Hi Ladies! Talking is so very important. I've been journaling too. Wrote a few poems about what I was feeling. Sure there were a lot tears, but a few smiles too, as I was reminising about things. Took Mom's cat over to my home. It's amazing how George the Siamese got along with my kitten. After a few days they both came running into the kitchen. George was alone while Mom was in the hospital. Now he's got company, and is coming out of his funk.

Permalink Reply by yolanda on February 9, 2010 at 6:59pm

Judy, sudden lost of your mom is hard. It is the memories of her that will keep you going on. My dad died last month thought it was a big mistake. Could not except the fact he was gone. Took two days before the reality of the situtation hit me.... No more early morning phone calls, no more hearing his voice, yet I'm so grateful for all the memories and time we shared. Cherish what you had. So many people don't and didn't have what we had.

Permalink Reply by Judy on February 10, 2010 at 4:19pm

Tina, thank you for your kind words. We had the memorial service on the 6th. It was a very special day, Mom would have been proud! It was great to see all the old friends and family, we even went to a restaurant that had some of her favorite foods. Thank God I was surrounded by family, the aftermath left such a huge whole, wishing that it was under different circumstances. My sister's 50th birthday was a day later. No one wanted to celebrate.