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Permalink Reply by Robert Maple on April 2, 2010 at 3:49am

Sorry to hear about your loss. My father passed away on april 4 2009 and I know exactly how you feel. The pain is so deep you dont know where its coming from. I drive by my brothers house and see my dads truck setting there and sometimes it hurts, sometimes its not that bad. Alone time really helped me, sometimes I still go outside by myself for a good cry, it helps. It always helps to think hes watching and grinning. Its hard to get through but time helps the pain. There is a good CD to listen to its called "Three Wooden Crosses" and it really helped me alot.

Permalink Reply by RHONDA on April 3, 2010 at 9:15pm

I to lost my dad on Dec 15th 2007 and it still bothers me and it feels like just yesterday and now I lost my mother to just in March. I was very close to my dad I was indeed a daddys girl. He got very sick at the end and didnt know much of anything but I knew him and knew how much he loved me I remember when the doctors said that he couldnt talk to us but he could hear us finally before he left he said to me and looked right at me and there I was just crying tears falling down my face and he said I love you Rhonda you will always be my baby girl. My mom never got with anyone after he passed away they were together over 40 years. but she did grive in her own way with out letting anyone think she wasnt even though I knew. When my mom passed away I thought it would be like dad and people who were there to call the time. but with my mom we found her and that was so hard no good byes or last words or anything. Your mom did her duty to your dad and like you said maybe she is scared to be alone and doesnt know how to tell you that so she doesnt but I bet if you ask her she would tell you she still loves your dad and that will never change at all either . I hope this helps sometimes I just ramble and I dont mean to but if you ever want to talk you can talk to me thats for sure and my email is metofunny4utooo@aol.com anytime ok my friend and I am so sorry for the loss of your father as well to

Permalink Reply by Kena Kirby on April 8, 2010 at 10:18am

Brenda,
I understand. My father passed away on 3/23/10. I am lost. I see his truck...I cry. I see his puppy...I cry. I sleep with his pillow just hoping to smell him one more time. I see his truck sitting in front of their house...I cry. I can't quit crying. I don't want to be without him. I also feel clueless. I don't know how to go on....

Kena Kirby

Permalink Reply by Nicole on April 9, 2010 at 5:42pm

Hi, I lost my Dad on Dec. 21. It is so hard. And I'm so sorry for your loss. I think that everyone deals with things differently. Your mom sounds sort of like my mom. My mom goes out all of the time. I think she has a very hard time being home where she actually has to deal with the emotions where everything around her is my Dad. I tried to take care of her. It just ended up backfiring. I'm also alot like my dad so maybe that contributes. Not sure. I guess I understand that she needs some space. Right now you are going throug the grieving process just like me. Every day is different. What helps me with this is the fact that he isn't suffering anymore and I was so lucky to have such wonderful memories with him. Still I miss him terribly. I cry just wanting him back. I think family is like a bracelet. It has links to represent each one of us. Now a link is missing. The bracelet is broken and needs to be mended back together again. It is difficult and won't be the same as before but we fix it to be connected again. Link by link this will repeat. But soon we will be together again heaven. And the bracelet will be whole again. I don't know when my bracelet will be fixed. I hope soon. It seems like I also lost my mom in a way. I don't like to say that. But, it seems like she doesn't understand that I lost my Dad. I know though that she is just dealing differently. Just keep an eye on your mom and know that she is lucky to have a daughter like you. It will hit her soon probably. I guess the best thing to do is to let her go through it her own way. That's what I am doing. Take Care. It will get better. I'm ready for better too. Stay strong, Nicole

Permalink Reply by Nicole on April 9, 2010 at 5:48pm

I am also so grateful to have learned beforehand also about sound and touch being the last to go. That really helped me also. I'm glad thay I was able to tell my family that they could talk and say goodbye. That helped all of them. It was just Dec. 21, 2009 when I lost my Dad. I have some really bad days missing him. I wish you the best, Nicole

RHONDA said:

I to lost my dad on Dec 15th 2007 and it still bothers me and it feels like just yesterday and now I lost my mother to just in March. I was very close to my dad I was indeed a daddys girl. He got very sick at the end and didnt know much of anything but I knew him and knew how much he loved me I remember when the doctors said that he couldnt talk to us but he could hear us finally before he left he said to me and looked right at me and there I was just crying tears falling down my face and he said I love you Rhonda you will always be my baby girl. My mom never got with anyone after he passed away they were together over 40 years. but she did grive in her own way with out letting anyone think she wasnt even though I knew. When my mom passed away I thought it would be like dad and people who were there to call the time. but with my mom we found her and that was so hard no good byes or last words or anything. Your mom did her duty to your dad and like you said maybe she is scared to be alone and doesnt know how to tell you that so she doesnt but I bet if you ask her she would tell you she still loves your dad and that will never change at all either . I hope this helps sometimes I just ramble and I dont mean to but if you ever want to talk you can talk to me thats for sure and my email is metofunny4utooo@aol.com anytime ok my friend and I am so sorry for the loss of your father as well to

Permalink Reply by Nicole on April 9, 2010 at 6:00pm

Thank you. I know I ramble way more than you. And don't apologize for anything. I'm also available anytime to talk. I'm sure it would help. Email nicole4success@gmail.com and I'm also on facebook. Nicole Gorno I hope to hear from you. Nicole

Nicole said:

I am also so grateful to have learned beforehand also about sound and touch being the last to go. That really helped me also. I'm glad thay I was able to tell my family that they could talk and say goodbye. That helped all of them. It was just Dec. 21, 2009 when I lost my Dad. I have some really bad days missing him. I wish you the best, Nicole

RHONDA said:

I to lost my dad on Dec 15th 2007 and it still bothers me and it feels like just yesterday and now I lost my mother to just in March. I was very close to my dad I was indeed a daddys girl. He got very sick at the end and didnt know much of anything but I knew him and knew how much he loved me I remember when the doctors said that he couldnt talk to us but he could hear us finally before he left he said to me and looked right at me and there I was just crying tears falling down my face and he said I love you Rhonda you will always be my baby girl. My mom never got with anyone after he passed away they were together over 40 years. but she did grive in her own way with out letting anyone think she wasnt even though I knew. When my mom passed away I thought it would be like dad and people who were there to call the time. but with my mom we found her and that was so hard no good byes or last words or anything. Your mom did her duty to your dad and like you said maybe she is scared to be alone and doesnt know how to tell you that so she doesnt but I bet if you ask her she would tell you she still loves your dad and that will never change at all either . I hope this helps sometimes I just ramble and I dont mean to but if you ever want to talk you can talk to me thats for sure and my email is metofunny4utooo@aol.com anytime ok my friend and I am so sorry for the loss of your father as well to