HI JENNIFER, I AM SOOO SORRY ABOUT YOUR HOME, ( MY EX-HUSBAND LOST EVERYTHING "AND" HIS DOG IN A MOBILE HOME FIRE.. THEY GO UP IN FLAMES FAST.
I ALSO LOST MY MOM, 6 DAY'S BEFORE MY SON WAS BORN, HE WAS BORN ON DECEMBER 26, ( first thing in am, since no Doctors showed up on Christmas & he was butt first & in distress !! ) HE IS MY FIRST AND ONLY CHILD, AS I WAS DIAGNOSED AT 16 I WOULDN'T BE ABLE TO HAVE KIDS, THAT DR. WANTED TO GIVE ME A COMPLETE HYSTERECTOMY !! (HE NO LONGER PRACTICES MEDICINE THANK GOD) THANKS TO MY MOM SWITCHING DR.'S WAS A BETTER CHOICE.. HAVE HAD 6 LAPOROSCOPIES, AND DURING THE LAST ONE I CAME OUT OF O.R. WITH THE NEWS I WAS PREGNANT & SOON FOUND OUT I WAS DUE ON CHRISTMAS DAY 1990. ON DECEMBER 20, 11:20 P.M.,.. MY MOM PASSED AWAY IN THE HOSPITAL FROM CANCER. THEY CREMATED HER THE DAY HE WAS BORN.. MY WAY TO DEAL WITH ALL THAT ( & AN ALCOHOLIC STEP-DAD WHO DENIED US "ALL" HOSPICE" ) WAS 'GOD GIVES AND GOD TAKES.. HE TOOK MY MOM, BUT GAVE ME MY SON. 'RYAN' IS NOW 21.... I CAN REMEBER WHEN HE WAS 5-7 AND DID NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT "GRANDMA JUDY" AND IT HURT MY FEELINGS SO I ASKED HIM WHY... ( out of the mouth's of babes,I swear..) HE SAID BECAUSE EVERY TIME I TALKED ABOUT HER I 'CRIED' !!!!!, WOW WHAT AN EYE OPENER, SO AFTER THAT I HAD TO BUCK UP AND RESPECT HER LIVING LIFE FOR MY SON!! MY DAD HAS ALSO PASSED AWAY, 5 YEARS AGO..( after finding out he was adopted at the age of 50) I FEEL LIKE AN ORPHIN MYSELF. ALL I CAN SAY IS TIME, TIME, TIME.. IT WONT TAKE AWAY THE LOSS OR PAIN BUT IT DOES SUBSIDE A BIT.. BE PATIENT FOR YOUR WELL BEING AS WELL AS YOUR DAUGHTER & HUSBAND!! AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND GOD-BLESS YOU ALL!!.
P.S. I AM GETTING READY TO HAVE A "ONCE IN MY LIFETIME" YARD SALE NEXT MONTH, I DON'T MEAN TO IMPLY YOU NEED DONATIONS... BUT I DO HAVE A LOT OF NICE THINGS AND TOY'S THAT ARE IN ORIGINAL BOXES & WELL PRESERVED! CLOTHES RANGE FROM MY MATERNITY TO MY FRIENDS BEAUTIFUL CLOTHES IN SMALL/TALL, TO MED/TALL. ( I AM THE LARGE/TALL ONE) PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF YOU NEED JACKETS,TOYS,HOUSEHOLD ITEMS AND I WILL BE GLAD TO SEND THEM TO YOU.. IF YOU LIKE I CAN PHOTO GRAPH SOME THINGS BEFORE YOU DECIDE
BEST WISHES "JANDY"
I thought I was alone I know there are tons of people in situations like you and I but don't realize it untill you talk to other people this is the first time I have talked about it online to people! Is there a way to add you or do you have a facebook? My facebook is http://www.facebook.com/Tonysbabyforever
Thank you for the offer to send stuff a lot of people wouldn't the main thing we need is clothing for my husband and I we have been so busy making sure our daughter has stuff we forgot about us!
I still cry from the death of my mother in March 2010 from leukemia. Yet she still spiritually parents me!
Check out my blog post here on legacy where I talk about what it was like in her final days.
I have started having panic attacks from everything I have been through it really sucks and haven't been able to work and can't get my daughter's medication!
Hopefully you got a personal note from me, just sent it ... Jennifer... your friend,