It so hard without my mom!

My life started when I met my best friend and soul mate. Soon after we found out I was pregnant, my parents were the first to know they were so excited to become grandparents. They begged us to move closer to them so we packed everything up and went to where they were staying and that was my Aunts house because they were looking for a house at the time. My husband and I stayed in my parent's camper in my Aunt's yard until they found a house then we could look for one close to theirs. They found a home in Opp, Alabama. We moved everything and my husband and I were staying in the camper again while we looked for a house.

2 weeks after buying the house I went in to wake my parents so we all could go to the store my dad answered the door and said he couldn't wake my mom I said "that is okay I will go wake her". I went in their and tried to wake her. She wouldn't move so I moved the pillow away from her face and saw her face was blue I ran out of the house crying and heard my dad screaming. I called the police immediately afterwards. They came and took her body my dad was so upset he didn't want to stay in the house.

My husband and I said he could stay in the camper with us. It was tight with 3 people and 2 dogs but I would have done anything for my dad. I started helping my dad pay his bills and taking him to his doctor's appointments because he was disabled, but my dad and I didn't like go in the house so he put it up for sale.

We found a place in Georgetown, Tennessee. My husband and I bought a trailer and put my dad's camper next to it so I could help take care of him. 3 days after we moved, I went in to labor and had a baby girl on March 30,2011, 10 days after my birthday. It was only 2 months after my mom passed away.

3 months after that, my dad met a women. I was fine with it but he started changing. He started cussing and drinking. I told him more than once to not cuss around my daughter.

July 12, 2011, our house burnt down. we lost everything except our pets which my husband was able to save. All we had was the clothes on our back. The Red Cross came out and helped us with a hotel for 3 nights and then we stayed in some cheap motels for 3 more weeks and then decided to go stay with my brother, but with no car and my brother living so far in the country, it was hard!

My brother used drugs and he did in the bathroom 5 feet away from where my daughter would sleep. One day, him and his friend, who he had JUST met the day this happened, went in the bathroom to smoke weed and we smelt it. We took our daughter out to the living room and he said arguing with us saying it won't hurt you, I said "doesn't matter we don't want us or her around it". He was defending what he was doing which hurt my husband and me.

Soon after that incident, he left his apartment and after a couple nights of him being gone we started looking for a way to get to where my husband's family lived . I walked to the landlord's house and told her what happened and she told me my brother had not been paying his rent and that he was to be evicted in a few weeks. She took me to the store and I said we would be out as soon as possible since we found out the electric bill was not being paid too.

After 2 weeks of my brother being gone, he came back just to get his stuff and said "sorry we don't have a place to stay or we would help you". I thought to myself, "Then why are you taking all of your stuff and your big screen tv you took from the garbage?". My mother in law was able to come and get us but she had to take from our savings her savings.

You can go to the link below and see pictures of our mobile home that burnt down and of our daughter.

http://s924.photobucket.com/albums/ad88/jenmigirl22/

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer on June 6, 2012 at 12:40pm

they say God doesn't give you more then you can handle and when my mom died when I was 6 to 7 months pregnant I questioned a lot why would he do this to me I always pictured my mom in the delivery room with me so I said why would God take my mom before my daughter was born why not wait till she was born it was her first grandchild she was so exited but now I look back and see it made my bond with my husband stronger and at the time my dad because I always relied on my parents for help I was always hard headed and always like I can do this my self but after losing my mom I started relying on my husband more and now I think maybe I got pregnant at the right time so I would have my daughter to make me stronger!

Permalink Reply by Jan Anderson on June 6, 2012 at 3:25pm

HI JENNIFER, I AM SOOO SORRY ABOUT YOUR HOME, ( MY EX-HUSBAND LOST EVERYTHING "AND" HIS DOG IN A MOBILE HOME FIRE.. THEY GO UP IN FLAMES FAST.

I ALSO LOST MY MOM, 6 DAY'S BEFORE MY SON WAS BORN, HE WAS BORN ON DECEMBER 26, ( first thing in am, since no Doctors showed up on Christmas & he was butt first & in distress !! ) HE IS MY FIRST AND ONLY CHILD, AS I WAS DIAGNOSED AT 16 I WOULDN'T BE ABLE TO HAVE KIDS, THAT DR. WANTED TO GIVE ME A COMPLETE HYSTERECTOMY !! (HE NO LONGER PRACTICES MEDICINE THANK GOD) THANKS TO MY MOM SWITCHING DR.'S WAS A BETTER CHOICE.. HAVE HAD 6 LAPOROSCOPIES, AND DURING THE LAST ONE I CAME OUT OF O.R. WITH THE NEWS I WAS PREGNANT & SOON FOUND OUT I WAS DUE ON CHRISTMAS DAY 1990. ON DECEMBER 20, 11:20 P.M.,.. MY MOM PASSED AWAY IN THE HOSPITAL FROM CANCER. THEY CREMATED HER THE DAY HE WAS BORN.. MY WAY TO DEAL WITH ALL THAT ( & AN ALCOHOLIC STEP-DAD WHO DENIED US "ALL" HOSPICE" ) WAS 'GOD GIVES AND GOD TAKES.. HE TOOK MY MOM, BUT GAVE ME MY SON. 'RYAN' IS NOW 21.... I CAN REMEBER WHEN HE WAS 5-7 AND DID NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT "GRANDMA JUDY" AND IT HURT MY FEELINGS SO I ASKED HIM WHY... ( out of the mouth's of babes,I swear..) HE SAID BECAUSE EVERY TIME I TALKED ABOUT HER I 'CRIED' !!!!!, WOW WHAT AN EYE OPENER, SO AFTER THAT I HAD TO BUCK UP AND RESPECT HER LIVING LIFE FOR MY SON!! MY DAD HAS ALSO PASSED AWAY, 5 YEARS AGO..( after finding out he was adopted at the age of 50) I FEEL LIKE AN ORPHIN MYSELF. ALL I CAN SAY IS TIME, TIME, TIME.. IT WONT TAKE AWAY THE LOSS OR PAIN BUT IT DOES SUBSIDE A BIT.. BE PATIENT FOR YOUR WELL BEING AS WELL AS YOUR DAUGHTER & HUSBAND!! AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND GOD-BLESS YOU ALL!!.

P.S. I AM GETTING READY TO HAVE A "ONCE IN MY LIFETIME" YARD SALE NEXT MONTH, I DON'T MEAN TO IMPLY YOU NEED DONATIONS... BUT I DO HAVE A LOT OF NICE THINGS AND TOY'S THAT ARE IN ORIGINAL BOXES & WELL PRESERVED! CLOTHES RANGE FROM MY MATERNITY TO MY FRIENDS BEAUTIFUL CLOTHES IN SMALL/TALL, TO MED/TALL. ( I AM THE LARGE/TALL ONE) PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF YOU NEED JACKETS,TOYS,HOUSEHOLD ITEMS AND I WILL BE GLAD TO SEND THEM TO YOU.. IF YOU LIKE I CAN PHOTO GRAPH SOME THINGS BEFORE YOU DECIDE

BEST WISHES "JANDY"

Permalink Reply by Jennifer on June 6, 2012 at 10:57pm

Wow Jandy

I thought I was alone I know there are tons of people in situations like you and I but don't realize it untill you talk to other people this is the first time I have talked about it online to people! Is there a way to add you or do you have a facebook? My facebook is http://www.facebook.com/Tonysbabyforever

Thank you for the offer to send stuff a lot of people wouldn't the main thing we need is clothing for my husband and I we have been so busy making sure our daughter has stuff we forgot about us!

Permalink Reply by Deborah Parker on June 9, 2012 at 8:00am

I still cry from the death of my mother in March 2010 from leukemia. Yet she still spiritually parents me!

Check out my blog post here on legacy where I talk about what it was like in her final days.

http://connect.legacy.com/profiles/blogs/sorrow-sands-trekking-my-m...

Permalink Reply by Jennifer on June 16, 2012 at 10:24pm

I have started having panic attacks from everything I have been through it really sucks and haven't been able to work and can't get my daughter's medication!

Permalink Reply by Jan Anderson on June 18, 2012 at 4:20am

Hopefully you got a personal note from me, just sent it ... Jennifer... your friend,

Jandy

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