Lost my dad, my hero

I lost my father on August 28, 2011. I am a true daddy's girl and despite being 38 y/o and married I always felt like his little princess. I can't believe I'm not in a puddle of tears right now writing this...all those prayers must be working. It was so sudden and unexpected and he was a young 62 y/o--full of life. I think I'm still in shock.....I can't imagine my world without him. I just talked to him that morning and the day before that I walked him through putting netflix on the ipad I had just given him in which he asked "what? do you think it's my first day on the job" because he was getting annoyed that I was talking so slowly, he was so funny and quick witted. We found out that he planned to retire after 41 years of work at the beginning of the year, I just wished he could've gotten the chance to sit back relax and enjoy life with my mom, the love of his life, who was also married for 41 years. God, I'm going to miss him. He relished in putting a smile on me and my mom's face. He catered to us and made us feel loved, cherished and protected. So many people especially his coworkers came out to support us at the funeral, everyone spoke so highly of him....they'll never be another one like him. Well there goes the tears, gotta go.

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Permalink Reply by Alysha Yeager on September 17, 2011 at 12:47am

I'm sorry for ur loss. I lost my Dad 7-30-11. Almost a month before u. My dad was also 62yrs old. And I dont know if anyone will really understand what i'm trying to say, but I never saw my Dad age... He never looked old, I always just saw my Dad. My mom I have always seen the difference that age has made on her, but for some reason, I never saw my Dad's age or proof that he did age until the day before he died. I guess I have always been looking through the eyes of that little girl who was inseperbale from her Daddy.

Permalink Reply by Kim Hopkins on September 17, 2011 at 1:15am

I'm so sorry for your loss also Alysha and I do understand what you mean. My dad seemed to have always looked the same as far back as I can remember. And today I was just thinking that the little girl inside me died on August 28th also, I'll never be the same. I just can't believe he's gone. He left to go buy a part for his generator he was working on and never made it back home, he had a heart attack while he was driving, but had enough energy to pull over as to not hurt anyone. I keep thinking, if only I was there, maybe I could've helped him. I would've given him my last breath to save him if I could've. My mom said she was just listening to a radio program that was talking about the special bond between a father and daughter, and we definitely had that.
Alysha Yeager said:

I'm sorry for ur loss. I lost my Dad 7-30-11. Almost a month before u. My dad was also 62yrs old. And I dont know if anyone will really understand what i'm trying to say, but I never saw my Dad age... He never looked old, I always just saw my Dad. My mom I have always seen the difference that age has made on her, but for some reason, I never saw my Dad's age or proof that he did age until the day before he died. I guess I have always been looking through the eyes of that little girl who was inseperbale from her Daddy.

Permalink Reply by Suzie on September 17, 2011 at 11:37am

I'm sorry for you loss. I too lost my dad this summer. June 26 @ 64 y.o

Don't be afraid to let the tears come...

Permalink Reply by Suzie on September 17, 2011 at 11:37am

I'm sorry for you loss. I too lost my dad this summer. June 26 @ 64 y.o

Don't be afraid to let the tears come...

Permalink Reply by Claire on September 30, 2011 at 3:58pm

Dear Kim,

I am very sorry for the loss of your father. Death is an enemy and brings much heartache to us all especially when it comes unexpectedly. But God does promise to get rid of it forever in the near future. Isaiah 25:8 says: "He will actually swallow up death forever" and he goes on to say in 26:19: "Your dead ones will rise up". So you and your mom will have the opportunity to be reunited with your father here on earth under better conditions.

In the meantime, you will suffer the pain of your loss but God promises to help you during this very difficult time. Psalms 55:22:"Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself and he himself will sustain you."

I hope these thoughts can be of comfort to you.

My condolences,

Claire

Permalink Reply by Kim Hopkins on October 2, 2011 at 7:09pm

Thanks Claire, I read your comment to my mom and we both found great comfort in the scriptures that you quoted. Thanks for the encouraging words. My grief is heart-wrenching but God has been good.

Permalink Reply by Francine Ferrara Boyle on October 10, 2011 at 8:35pm

/So sorry for your loss. I know how you feel.. I lost my dad on 9/16.. he was 91 years old.. most people say I was lucky to have him for so long, but I don't feel lucky at all. My 91 year old dad was working up until the week before he went in for open heart surgery. He was reading contracts, visiting clients, solvimg problems and supervising employees. He was being a CEO and a great one at that. And now he is gone.. no retirement, no time at home.. nothing... he is gone .... just like that..unfinished business..

Permalink Reply by Francine Ferrara Boyle on October 10, 2011 at 8:35pm

Permalink Reply by Lori Sherry on October 16, 2011 at 3:37pm

Hi,

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I lost my dad on July 3, 2010. I am true daddy's girl also. I am 33-years-old and I'm single. I always felt like his little girl and I guess that was true in some ways. Oh, I can't believe that I'm not crying as I write this. The prayers have helped but, it has been such a struggle at times and I'm still struggling. It was so sudden and unexpected. He was 67-years-old but, he was sick. Well, it has pretty much settled in but, I still can't believe he's gone. I didn't want to think of how it was going to be without him. I talked to him, took care of him and I visited him in the hospital and the nursing home before he passed away. He was so funny. He had to retire after a few years from his job but, he didn't fully retire. He did have times where he relaxed before he got sick then, it got to where he couldn't do very much of anything. Man, I'm going to miss him. He always put a smile to my face and made me laugh. He made me feel loved, cherished and protected.

People spoke highly of him at the funeral when I thought mainly his co-workers wouldn't as unfortunately he wasn't well liked by some of them.

Lori Sherry

Permalink Reply by Kim Hopkins on October 18, 2011 at 12:16am

Lori,

I am sorry also for your loss. It's just sooooo tough. People say "be thankful that you had such a good relationship" and I think "I am thankful, but I didn't want it to end" I honestly feel like the little girl inside me died that day along with him. He was the only man that ever made me feel that way. I was his "little girl". It's so hard losing a parent especially when they still had a lot of life left to live. I visited my dad's gravesite this weekend and I feel like I just got thrust back into the grief. I'm a 2nd year grad student so school has been keeping me occupied (although I've occasionally broken down in the bathroom, or when I've gotten in my car) but flying back home this past weekend and going to my parent's home and to the gravesite just has me devastated all over again. One minute I'm surprisingly strong and the next I'm in such pain. I've always feared my parents leaving but I wasn't prepared this soon, not that your ever ready for the death of a parent.

So, I do feel your pain and WE will get through this grief, but we can't rush the grief process nor can we stay in it to the point that it interferes with moving on in our lives. Being daddy's girls, I'm sure neither one would've wanted that. And although I don't know you or your dad, I know when fathers love their daughters, they want nothing but the best for them and I'm sure they want us to move through this process and heal. I know that I will see my dad again one day, I just have to believe that, it helps me to stay strong. I was talking to my mom and I told her that I don't know what my purpose in life was, but I'm going to do what I have to do and do it to the best of my ability until it's my time to leave and be with my dad.

Lori, I hope that find some comfort and peace and sunshine again!

Lori Sherry said:

Hi,

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I lost my dad on July 3, 2010. I am true daddy's girl also. I am 33-years-old and I'm single. I always felt like his little girl and I guess that was true in some ways. Oh, I can't believe that I'm not crying as I write this. The prayers have helped but, it has been such a struggle at times and I'm still struggling. It was so sudden and unexpected. He was 67-years-old but, he was sick. Well, it has pretty much settled in but, I still can't believe he's gone. I didn't want to think of how it was going to be without him. I talked to him, took care of him and I visited him in the hospital and the nursing home before he passed away. He was so funny. He had to retire after a few years from his job but, he didn't fully retire. He did have times where he relaxed before he got sick then, it got to where he couldn't do very much of anything. Man, I'm going to miss him. He always put a smile to my face and made me laugh. He made me feel loved, cherished and protected.

People spoke highly of him at the funeral when I thought mainly his co-workers wouldn't as unfortunately he wasn't well liked by some of them.

Lori Sherry