Stace: I lost my mother like your mom back in 85 she was only 53 and was in alot of pain, but she was my bestfriend and i wasn't glad she left you will feel numb for a long time, I don't know how old you are I was 21 when my mom past, and i went wild because i was so angry, my dad past this past august at 87 he had cancer we got to bring him home to die he got to be with his grandchildren for almost 2 weeks before he really didn't know anyone anymore, those were the day i treasure so much, he wanted to die he was old and was ready to die a longtime ago, his birthday was november 20 he would have been 88 the day befoe his
birthday my youngest son 17 was killed in a auto accident 500 ft from our house, even though i did relate at one one about your mom I can relate now with you about my dad and my son, its been almost 6 months for my dad and 3 months for my son, and some days go by ok but then other times you feel like you just can't move lean on people around you, you seem to have great family and that will help you also, try not to put that wall up again, I can tell you that even though she isn't here she is still with you and as my son does and now i look back and know my mom did to they will give you signs they are still with you maybe not in body but their spirit is standing by you right now.
Stace so sorry for your loss. I feel your pain. My Dad passed away September 1, 2010 and I still can't get over it. But I try to remember all the good memories I have with him. He was a wonderful Dad and my best friend. Yesterday he would of turned 86 and that was a difficult day for me but I know I will heal in time. I know in my heart he doesn't want me to be sad. He always said Death is a part of life. Celebrate her life and keep your good memories of her close and time will do the rest.
Anna Marie Burg
dear stace ann, i am sitting here, crying with you. i know how you feel about you mom being your best friend and the only person that you could count on, no matter what you did. my mom died in 2008. she had lung cancer. they wouldnt listen to her, and when they decided to, she was stage 4a. we didnt get much time together, but we never discussed the "end". it is very hard to watch them suffering. i had one parent go in seconds out of the blue, and one that suffered. i dont know which is worse. being surprised with a sudden death, or having time to try to "deal" with it. it is amazing how strong our mothers are. they are so amazing. you have to be the "adult" now. we arent the "child" anymore. its a strange adjustment.
i dont know what to say. except that i know how you feel, we all know how you feel. the people here will give you support and love.
let us know when you need some support. you can email me too, if you want.
take care, hang in there,