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Permalink Reply by Tara Coons-Hulett on September 7, 2012 at 8:47pm

I understand how you feel! I lost my dad April 8, 2011 from a 4 week battle with leukemia very unexpected. How did your dad die? I have 3 little kids to take care of. In fact my son was born 4 weeks after my dad died.

Permalink Reply by Cecilia Maxwell on September 7, 2012 at 8:52pm

He got in an accident at work 5 days before.

Permalink Reply by Rhonda PillersRhondapillers on September 8, 2012 at 5:02pm

Cecilia, I lost my mother aug 13, at her house today to start cleaning it out. I cried and cried, everything has her scent and her loving touch all over it. Cecilia, I am 50 and my mom was 90 when she passed away after being ill for a week. I know that the grief we are feeling is to be expected, it's are way of showing how much we loved them. As a friend of mine said after losing her mother over a year ago, it does get easier, we will never forget them and we will always have our moments but this pain will get easier. Keep the faith my dear I am and I will include you in my prayers that god will give us the strength to carry on just like your daddy and my mom would want us to.

Permalink Reply by Cecilia Maxwell on September 8, 2012 at 8:27pm

How do you get over this horribly empty feeling? I can't motivate myself to do anything except I make myself go to work everyday. But then I come home and sleep until I have to make dinner and then go back to sleep? I am so lucky to have a wonderful husband that is an even more amazing father because without him I don't know what I would do. But even though he is so great I still don't feel good and don't wanna do anything. Is this a normal part of everything? Am I the only one who feels like this????

Permalink Reply by TRACY BAGLEY on September 9, 2012 at 3:46pm

Hi Cecillia, I lost my dad on Nov 3, 2011 to advanced prostate cancer that turned into flesh eating. I t is going to be very tough. I am coming up on almost a year and have spent many nights crying when everyone is asleep. My thing that has helped me is grief books and of course the support groups. My mother and sister kept me from my dad while he was sick so i got the bombed dropped on me Halloween night. I am not looking forward to halloween and hate being in the stores. You need to communicate and cry their is no way around it, you must go through it. I am a spiritual person so i talk to my dad everynight sense he was cremated and taken home and i was diswoned  with nothing of his but my tattoos. It is very hard and i am going to be honest, it is going to be hard for awhile, but i am here to talk to you you can friend me if you want

Permalink Reply by Claire on October 13, 2012 at 9:57am

Dear Cecelia,

I am very sorry for your loss.  Losing a loved one to death is never easy to accept.  As you've heard from everyone, what you are experiencing is normal and there are many phases of the grieving process.

I'd like to share some comforting words found at Revelation 21:4, "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes and death will be no more, neither will mourning, nor outcry, nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away."  God promises that he will eliminate our enemy death forever and we will not have to experience the pain of losing a loved one ever again. However, he also promises we will see our loved ones again at John 5:28,29,"Do not marvel at this because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out." You will have the opportunity of being reunited with your father.

In the meantime look to God for comfort for he knows the pain we experience and will help us cope. "Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you." - Psalms 55:22

I hope these words can be of comfort and hope.

My deepest sympathy,

Claire