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If u came across a person with a broken arm, you wouldn't say, Just give it time. Just as broken bones should be properly set to heal and function again, so must the heart. We all know to many people whose hearts remain broken partly because they are waiting for time to heal them, time doesn't. I've learned a hard lesson dealing with grief you can't pinpoint a time frame, you can't just forget about the loved one, and yes life goes on but not the life we once had. My mom passed Dec.13,09 and there isn't a day that goes by that I wish she was still here.Death of the one we love produces emotions that can be described as the feeling of reaching out for someone who has always been there, only to find out when we need them 1 more time, they r no longer there. This thing called "Grief" is the hardest thing in my life, and it's even harder when u can't talk to the people u live with cause they don't understand why u can't just go on. I think it's because some people have more of a heart, where as the ones that say you'll get over it. Well they just don't understand. Not every person can just do that,everyone griefs differently and u can't say when u can just stop grieving. I hope this might help someone. I do understand what all of u are going threw and how u sometimes feel as thow your crazy.
I am so sorry for everything you are going thru, do you have people with you that can be of comfort, I lost my mom at 53 from cancer and she had been sick for over 3 years but the doctors never found the cancer until it was to last, I lost my father this past aug of cancer but he ws 87 and was very unhappy for the past 10 years, then i lost my youngest son less then 2 month later he died on november 19h my father would have been 88 on noember 20th, the grief sometimes is unbearable even though I'm not going thru what you are i can relate to everything happening at one time, I father-in-law died of lung cancer but he lived 6 years after they found it so we will pray that your father can do the treatments and they found it in time. Be there for your grandmother she just lost her daughter and is sick herself let her help you with your grief.
MY MOM PASSED AWAY ON JAN 20,2011 IN IOWA WHERE SHE LIVED WITH MY STEP DAD. HER PASSING CAME TO BE A VERY BIG SHOCK. SHE WAS YOUNG 51. SHE HAS BEEN SICK FOR ALONG TIME NOW. IK SHE IS IN A BETTER PLACE NOW. SENCE SHE PASSED MY GRANDMA HER MOM WAS PUT IN THEN HOSPITAL WITH A LUNG INFECTION. SHE IS DOING BETTER NOW.. I THINK WHY IM HAVING A VERY HARD TIME WITH IT. IS MY DAD IS DYING OF LUNG CANCER AND WE DONT HAVE MUCH TIME LEFT WITH HIM. WE FOUND OUT ABOUT THE CANCER ON 8-12-2010 THE DAY BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY. PLUS MY GRANDMA IS IN HER LAST STAGES OF ALZTMERS AND HER HEALTH IS BAD AND THE DOCTOR DONT THINK SHE WILL BE WITH US MUCH LONGER EITHER. IM REACHING OUT FOR HELP GETTING THROUGH ALL THIS. I HOPE TO HERE FROM SOMEONE WITH ADVISE HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS ALL
Autumn, Hopefully his birthday will be easy for you. I also lost my hubby 1.5 yrs ago, when his birthday came for the first time. I did arrange a family function very similar to what we would have done, had he still been alive. That made it very comfortable for me. But this losing a parent is different, none of us is trying to upset the other. For the last couple of years, my mom & I weren't always on the same page & honestly,it was due to my stubborness & attitude. But I don't feel that events my griefing. We were past that & she understood.She also understood I was very much like her...
Peggy, Thanks My girls have been great thru all of this. The problem being, I'm the youngest in our family,therefore lower in rank. My older sister is forgeting, my mom helped me quite a bit when my girls were born. She had retired by that time & provided childcare for my girls for many years. They were very, very close so the girls have deeply been affected. My sister is choosing to be selfish in her attitude about my girls' emotions. Of course all of us are griefing & in pain. But the girls are younger & feel differently than us adults do. And she's just not making this any easier on me, due to her attitude & selfishness.
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