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Keleigh, I think, from what you've said, that you did the best you could. :) No one ever really knows how to take care of a patient, let alone when it's your own family. You mention guilt, I feel it everyday I sit at this table in my house. I wasn't more than 30 feet from my mother, who was supposed to be in bed sleeping. I sat her for two hours, and didn't think to check on her like I usually did, but that entire two hours I sat here, she was in her room, dying. When I woke up that afternoon, I had a feeling that something bad was going to happen, but I didn't know what, and I struggle everyday, wondering if I could have saved her life, if only I checked on her sooner, or done something different.
Melinda I can't imagne the loss of a child, I don't think there could ever be a greater loss. My ex-husbands grandmother lost all 3 of her sons to just random things and I never understood how she got through that. Danyale, your experience is very similar to mine. My mom passed in June, was also an artist, and we didn't get along very well. I was the only one who stepped up to care for her. I quit my job put everything on hold only for her to tell me I was a bad caregiver and was doing everything wrong. I had never taken care of a dying parent...I did everything the dr's told me to do yet I have guilt b/c I feel like I didn't do enough. Like with your mom I know she loved me, and I loved her, I just feel like I was left with no closure.
My mother passed away in June, and somedays it feels like yesterday, others like it's been years. I never really got along with her, we fought all the time. When I was little I had to grow up really fast. We were in a car accident and she received a TBI, Traumatic Brain Injury, and just wasn't the same again. I had to grow up... had to become the woman of the house, sorta speak. Since then she always hated me. I felt like she blamed me, in a way, for the car accident, or at least hated that she was injured and I wasn't. It was hard. I know she loved me, and I hope she knows I loved her too. The hardest part of the last 7 months has been no being allowed time to grieve, and now I have the time, but its hard to. She was an artist, so every time I drew, or painted, she would watch me, and every time I'd pause, look at her and yell at her for staring at me. I'd give anything to have her watch me draw again. I learned almost everything from watching her do it. I'm not sure what else I should say.. I don't even know if I'm doing this comment thing right... thanks for reading it.
So sorry Keleigh. I lost my daughter who had just turned 30 and was raising her 3 little girls. I lost my Mom a month b/4 my only child. I lost my little brother to P.V.O.D. Sept. 22. My Mom had throat Cancer. You'll start your own family soon and you won't be lonely. You'll have good memorys of those you've lost. You'll never forget but it does get easier. I'm not there yet.
Just joining my first support group. Lost my daddy Sept 2013 then lost mom 9 months later. I took care of both of them and at one point both at the same time. I think losing a parent like that can cause PTSD. I dream almost 3 times a week that I am still caring for my mom. My dad was my best friend and we were able to really say goodbye and have some sort of closure. Cancer had gone to moms brain and we had no closure. One day she was with it and the next she was mentally gone. I am what's left of my family and its a very lonely feeling.
Dale, My mom passed away on December 24, 2010..Yes 4th year without her…Sometimes I can't deal with it…so I go into denial. I wish I had been there more for her…..I could have done better. Be good to yourself. Theresa
I just wanted to let everyone here, know they are in my thoughts and prayers . My mom passed on Dec.10 , 2010 . Its my 4th yr. without her . I am healing , but will never fill the the void . I have turned to God more than ever , and I know he will guide me . God Bless You All .
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