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Comment by RUTH MARGARET BABIN on September 25, 2009 at 4:37pm
My beloved dad passed away 2 years ago after suffering from Alzheimers for almost 5 years. I will forever have fond memories of our cherished times together playing hockey, golfing ... even as a girl!
Comment by Wendy on September 25, 2009 at 12:23pm
Missing my Mom ---- My mother was murdered by my stepfather on January 5, 2009. Supposedly it was supposed to be a murder-suicide, but he survived his well placed shot and is now pleading insanity. My mother would have been 72 in April if she had not been murdered. They were married for 49.9 years. I am having trouble with anger toward him and such deep sorrow missing my mother. She did not deserve to die like she did at his hands - shot in the face with a shot gun. They would not let us see her, I could not say good-bye. Almost 10 months later and I am still on this never ending roller coaster. Have been in therapy, but it only helped with my anger. It seems nothing helps with my sadness
Comment by Vicki on September 24, 2009 at 10:40pm
I lost the most important person in my life on september 18th 2009. My mom fought for most of the summer to come home with my dad and I. My dad is having a tough time losing his soulmate of 54 yrs. I keep thinking that I will wake up and my mom will still be here. I am lucky that i have no regrets with my mom. we are very close and i can't imagine how I am going to get through her birthday and holidays. She died in my arms and It was truely peaceful to see her go home. But I never thought that it would happen just yet. My gram lived for 96yrs. Mom had gotten tired of just existing in the hospital with not much hope.She lived 4 months longer than I think she would have , if not for her great love she has for her family and my dad. I find comfort in holding her purse and just smelling her on it and having her hairbrush on my dresser. The day of her funeral I had to go back in the evening to check on her. I just cleaned her wedding ring tonite because it had so much dirt from the hospital and makeup on her hands that I was talking to her the whole time explaining to her that i was sorry her most important piece of jewelry got to be so dirty. I put it right back in her room waiting for her. I know she won't, but for some reason I want it to remain the same I guess. My dad cut up some cards in her wallet and I almost lost it. It just seems so surreal but yet the pain in my heart is so big at times that I just cry for long periods of time. But I know I will reunite with my mom again and Knowing that she is free of her pain helps me a great deal, along with having my dad still, and a great family & best friend anyone can have.
Comment by Joanne on September 24, 2009 at 2:05pm
Hi, I only just recently found this website, and I'm new to this group.

My Dad passed away Feb 11, 2009 and was quickly followed by my Mom on March 17, 2009. They were married for 62 years, and I guess it was too hard for them to be apart. They were both in their 80's with health issues, but their deaths were unexpected.

I still miss them a great deal. Also, I'm in the healthcare industry, and feel like I get reminded of their passing everytime I see orders that remind me of theirs while they were hospitalized. I hope that part goes away soon.
Comment by tamika belim on September 21, 2009 at 8:22pm
My name is Tamika, I lost my mom on December 24,2008, due to complications from a stroke, she was sick for years, but it still does not make this any easier, everyday is so hard for me, i just dont understand why, she had been through alot, but she always pulled through. I miss her terribly. I know she is in a better place, but i just want to be with her.
Comment by Carey Martinez on September 20, 2009 at 10:37pm
My dad passed away on Sept 5, 2009 from complications of a Stroke! He had been suffering with Diabetes related illnesses for the last year - 5 stents put into his heart, 2 heart attacks, lost his eye, and 2 leg amputations - same leg - within 2 weeks!! So the stroke was the last straw. I spent the last 10 days of his life with him and was able to be there with his last breath. I am still so saddened by his passing that I have a difficult time making each day survivable. I live for MY children and my Mom right now - without them, life would be nothing! I know that there is no time limit on grief, I have lost so many people in my 40 years, but none have affected me like the loss of my Papa! I am restlessly sleeping most of the time, I cannot seem to keep my focus on daily activities. I lost my job because I was spending time with my Dad after the heart attack at the earlier part of the year...so I was able to spend that time with him, but now I need to find a job and get back on track - easier said than done! I am just sick to my stomach when I think that I will not see him again in this lifetime and that I cannot hold his hand or hug him and tell him how much he means to me! Until you have lost a parent, there is NO WAY that you can comfort someone else who has lost theirs! I have many friends who have lost a parent over the last 3 years and I have called each of them and again expressed my condolences, because only now can I truly appreciate their pain. I am glad to have found this website and I hope that it helps bring peace to my aching heart.
Comment by Quilena Brown on September 19, 2009 at 4:36pm
Shortly after this picture of my Dad and I was taken last year in Sept, Dad's health began to fail. By Christmas he had been moved into a Nursing Home for Hospice Care because of a tumor in his throat. I became one of Dad's caregivers and I watched him waste away until He went home to be with God on Feb. 18th. On that morning when my sister called to tell me what the Nursing home told her, I started crying uncontrollably. It seemed like a piece of my heart had fallen out. I left my home to go accompany My Mom, sister and brother to go claim my Dad's body. However, I didn't get to my sisters in time. My heart ached for days because I felt that I had been cheated out of not being able to see my Dad for the last time while at the Nursing Home. Prior to his passing, he complained about being cold. I had brought an Indian blanket several years ago while visiting/living in California and I brought it to him at the Nursing Home. When I gave it to him, he jokingly told me not to worry about the Nurses taking it. He actually said " I'm gonna tie it to the end of the bed." Several days later as I was standing at a bus stop, I heard the Holy Spirit tell me that, when God came for Poppy, he was wrapped up in my blanket, and that he wasn't cold anymore. So don't feel that I was cheated out of telling Poppy that I loved him. My Dad and Mom would have celebrated their 64th wedding anniversary on March 31th. Mom is doing well and I am cherishing each day that I can still spend with her. It's been a lil over six months since Dad passed, and he would have been 90 years old on Sept. 9th. Dad had a great life and left a great legacy. But today wasn't such a good day for me, and I miss him so much. I feel assured that the "Bad, Bad Leon Brown" is resting in Peace.
Comment by Greta Jordan on September 18, 2009 at 10:42pm
My mother and my best friend passed away today at the age of 64 and I'm just sad. I've been her caregiver for the past 8 years as she battled congestive heart failure, diabetes, and high blood pressure. She also had 2 minor strokes during that time period. I knew that this day was coming, but there had been so many close calls in recent years that it just seemed like she'd always hang on and pull through. I was not expecting what happened today. She was an unwed, single mother before it was acceptable (I'm 38), so we really went through some very challenging life experiences together. I am also an only child, so you can imagine how close we were. She believed in me when no one else did and made me the woman I am today. I am trying to stay strong as I know she would want me to, but it is terribly difficult. I miss her so much already and I'm trying to pull the pieces of my life together to get through this. I know that mom is is a much happier place and is no longer suffering, which does give me some comfort right now. I am the luckiest person in the world to have had such a wonderful mother. I love you mom and I miss you - you will always be in my heart and soul.
Comment by Tina Conner on September 17, 2009 at 11:05pm
Hello. My name is Tina Conner. I am a new member. My father died on September 17, 2009 around 2:00p.m. It was unexpectedly. I miss him so much already and it is just starting. I love him very much and will miss him greatly.
Comment by Clare Davis-Roth on September 15, 2009 at 11:03am
Daddy had been gone a year now and I still miss him everyday. I know he is in a better place and I will see him again. I would never want him back like he was but I miss his guidance, his comfort, and his never dying love. He was my rock. I loved my Daddy more than words can say. Does the pain ever get better?
 

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