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Yes Theresa LaSalle we are very Lucky.....My Mom were 74 when she passed last year.
Karen...Thanks for your story. My mom Vicky was such a strong woman too...Aren't we lucky..
My mom Vicky passed away on December 24, 2010....She was 88...yes, we were so lucky to have them so long....I still can't grasp she is not here....
Be good to yourself.
Georgeanne, I know your pain. Haven't spoken with my siblings in 2 years. I created a website about grief, created a free audio that's now been heard worldwide and now have a book that will be in bookstores this fall. I help people through grief and back into life. Its all free info.
None of it could have happened without the terribly painful stuff I experienced. Here's a video of me talking about it: http://nextgreatestspeaker.com/profile.cfm?aid=113 OR just get the download @ survivegrief.com
Sending a hug and let me know if I can help you in some way. I'm a good listener as are many here on this site
My mother died four years ago... I took care of her the last four years of her life. I was the youngest daughter and it seemed to all fall on me. I do have two sisters. One was helpful the other was not.
Its very hard to not miss her. The reality is very hard to live with. Cling to any joy in your life ... I am lucky I have adult children and four beautiful granddaughters to focus on. Please email me anytime you need to talk . I have been there and am still living with a heavy heart.
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Theresa here...you can read stuff by me with regard to all my guilt...
mom died while I was getting a manicure and cleaning my house...I long for her.
My sister Annie died in 2005...so I do not have any siblings left...so can't relate equally...I can only imagine how you feel...but the one thing I know for sure..yes, she wouldn't want you to feel guilty...as I'm a mom and would never want my sons to feel guilty...so I try to remember that when I feel guilty about not being there for mom...our stories are not similar at all...but I get the grieving everyday.
What I started is a get together every three months with my cousins..(we were close when we were little than lost touch). So I do this every three months...with my three cousins ...whose dads were my dad's brothers...they miss their dads/my dad/my mother, etc.etc.
we do have fun and sadness and we tell each other stories about all of them and us growing up...we learn new things each time we get together..things we never knew about our own parents, and each others...some funny stuff and touching stuff...perhaps reach out to cousins... (we take turns every three months at someone else's house). My mom, Vicky loved life and it seems your mom did too..We can't dishonor them by turning our back on life...and feeling guilty...As my mom Vicky said, Be strong (she said that meaning when she dies.)...Also, use your mom's name a lot..There is a great
Egyptian saying: "When you say the name of the dead, you give them life again."
Georgeanne, be good to yourself. Theresa
I lost my nephew on July 20 2011,sucide, discharged from the Army in March 2011, On Dec 12 2011 I lost my dad to an infection, on July 12 2012 I lost my favorite uncle to brain cancer,I get started griefing for one person and someone else passes away,how do I copr with all of this? I am trying to be strong for my mom,but it's getting harder to do. I really miss my dad, his b-day is coming Aug 31. Mine is the 28th he always called me first thing in the morning on that day. gotta go thanks for reading this.
I found this site shortly after my beautiful mother died in February of 2010. I was already back at work, numb and stumbling through each day, crying in my car on the drive home.
I read the posts below and recognize the guilt, denial, anger and pain of losing a mother. While time makes it a little easier, I have decided the loss doesn't ever completely heal; it is the dull ache I will carry in my heart for the rest of my life.
Grief is such a lonely journey. NO ONE will grieve the same way you do. Allowing yourself the freedom to feel how you feel without any expectations is the best way to survive. Anyone who loves you should recognize that you are going to feel and be different for a long time, probably much longer than they believe you should. In some ways, you will never be the same. But life will get better again.
Grief is like a big dark pool of pain that you have to cross to find peace on the other side. Don't try to go around it, or get someone else to carry you through it....just wade in! Some days you will feel like you might drown. You won't...just surrender to the tears, take a deep breath and go on.
I miss my mom every day. I try to honor her memory by living my dreams. It is what she wanted for me and I believe everyone who posts here has a mother or father who wanted the same for them.
Keep writing. We are the people who share and truly understand your words and what you are experiencing. You are not alone....
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