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Comment by Cindy Scull on June 12, 2012 at 3:33pm

Heather, My Dad passed in 1999 It took me 5yrs. to find Peace within...I would scream Daddy I want you back!!! I was a wreck!!!

I didn't want to hear how other people healed! Or how they passed or there age young or old. I would not even do our favorite things that we enjoyed in life. Like swimming in the ocean, or boating, fishing, going out for icecream. After a long time dreging, I finally swam in the ocean...and it occured to me that I was "His Heart is your Heart, His Soul of his Soul...He had never left me, he had been with me all the time. Finally Peace came to me...I lost my Dear Mother and Best friend May 2010...I'm more at peace knowing there together again!

I find peace in doing things they taught me, and each and every day I think of them both they are my drive and determination. For everyday I live is one more day closer to seeing them again...

But untill you figure things out in "your" mind & heart & soul...it is there where you will find peace...you will connect with him! You will heal the ache in your heart, because he does't want you to be sad.  He was called on, he had to go!  Just as he was born into this world he was born into the next...

Comment by HEather Brennan on June 12, 2012 at 3:19am

My dad (who was truly my maternal grandfather) and I had a  special bond, I can honestly say I believe I will never love, cherish or respect another man the way I did him.  I have a gaping hole in my heart, that can never be filled, nor do I want it filled.  He earned it.  He shalls tay there.  I love u John WIlliam Brennan......... til we meet again, and HOPE we do... xoxoxoo

Comment by HEather Brennan on June 12, 2012 at 3:19am

My dad (who was truly my maternal grandfather) and I had a  special bond, I can honestly say I believe I will never love, cherish or respect another man the way I did him.  I have a gaping hole in my heart, that can never be filled, nor do I want it filled.  He earned it.  He shalls tay there.  I love u John WIlliam Brennan......... til we meet again, and HOPE we do... xoxoxoo

Comment by Sandra E. Byrd on June 11, 2012 at 9:21pm
Brenda I am sorry for your loss of your dad. I lost my mom in August and the sadness comes at unexpected times but I just "ride the wave
" while it lasts. I found her Birthday and Mothers Day to be the worst.It is possible to find joy in good memories.Being part of a support group in my town has helped .I pray God's comfort for you.
Comment by Brenda Rose on June 11, 2012 at 8:51pm

Hello my name is Brenda, I lost my dad on Dec.12 2011. I am having a hard time with dealing with it. My heart aches for my dad, it hurts so bad!! He passed away in a nursing home quietly. He was in alot of pain. I miss him so much. He was my friend too.

Comment by Kathryn Augie's mom on June 5, 2012 at 8:01pm
I lost Daddy Jan 19th 2012 just 13 months after I lost my only child at 18. I try to comfort myself on the fact that they are together. I find no comfort. I miss them. My Dad was always there for me and after my son died the only one I could talk to about him. I hate life now really see no reason to get up.
Comment by Sarah on June 5, 2012 at 6:23pm

My father passed away on January 12, 2012; my heart has never felt so heavy as it did when I watched him take his last breathe. My father was my best friend; the one I went to for everything going on in my life. I feel so alone, and I am not able to express my real feelings to people. It has been almost four months now, and I cry almost every night. I miss his voice, his smile, his smart ass remarks, and most of all I miss him. My father had muscular dystrophy and cancer. The muscular dystrophy he suffered from his whole life; the cancer took over about 4-5 years ago. Last September he was having trouble breathing, and was rushed to the hospital. After being intebated for several weeks on end, we had to make the decision to give him a trache. I never knew that September day would be the last time I ever heard my dad's voice. He remained in the hospital from that point on; going in and out of kidney failure. Suffering through many bouts of pneumonia; until his body had enough. While my brother and I were visting on day the doctor said there was nothing more they can do unless he wanted to try dialysis. We talked it over and I will never forget his words (we read his lips); he said "I can not watch my family suffer anymore. Please just do not let it be painful. No pain. No pain. No pain". That was the last day I saw my father's eyes. He went to sleep, and about one week later we knew he was on his way out. His vitals started to drop, and he was just a vegetable really. The toxins had taken over his body, and the family had to make the choice whether or not to take him off the vent. I could not be a part of this decision, but I said I would support whatever decision they thought was right. That afternoon I said goodbye to my daddy. I still remember the events as they happened yesterday.      

Comment by Sandi Reighard on May 30, 2012 at 3:24am

My dad died on April 12, 2012, and even though he was 83 it was not 

expected. My Dad love to irritate me and argue, and although I don't miss that , I miss him terribly. This past weekend has been really hard seeing all the father's day stuff come out and knowing I have to make it special for my husband and son, but missing my Dad and having that feeling of sadness just hover over me almost immobilizing me....

Comment by HEather Brennan on May 26, 2012 at 6:35pm

My dad died 4/28/12 and some people think I should have "snapped out of it" already.. Honestly, it's getting worse the more the reality of never seeing him, smelling him, or hearing him again, sinks in....  Getting hard to go to work, my daughter irritates me, and I want to implod....

 

Comment by Elizabeth on May 21, 2012 at 4:06am
I lost my Dad April 4th 2012. He was only 53 years old. He had, had cancer the year before and they got it all out because they caught it so early. He was in great health overall. We had talked about how great it was the cancer was gone and that there was nothing else health wise wrong with him. Then wednesday morning (april 4th) he goes to work and never comes home. He was eletrocuted by a machine. I didn't want to believe my husband when he told me. I just yelled no over and over. I had just talked to him the previous monday. We had such a nice long conversation. We talked about seeing each other soon when he and my mother were going to come and visit. It was such a shock and still is. It doesn't seem real. Even though I saw him and I know its real. Just wish I could have one last hug from him. Missing him so much. It's not fair that my daughter will have no memory of him. Its just not fair.
 

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