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Started by Darlene kase. Last reply by Jessica Jul 23.
Started by Jessica. Last reply by Jessica Jul 23.
Started by April. Last reply by Mary Anne Hines Jul 23.
My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. I have not marked the first anniversary of my sister Lisa's passing-that will be November 7th. I am dreading that day as it is just so hard for me to believe it has already been as long as it has. Everyday I write a letter to Lisa about what is going on with the family and in our lives. I talk to her in the letter as if she were here and we were on the phone or texting. I still cannot believe she is not here. Reality forces us to go on but inside I am sure you, like me, has been forever changed. I think we just need to hang on each day and pray for those of us remaining on this side of heaven. I will be thinking about you on the 22nd and praying that you get through the day remembering the wonderful times you had with your sister and the joy she brought to this world.
I know the strength it takes for you to hold yourself together-because I feel the same way. I feel like on the outside I seem perfectly normal and no one can possible understand the pain that is "swimming around inside." I think you described that perfectly because I understand completely. Today marks 10 months since my brother was murdered. Coming up on this horrible "anniversary" I still can't even believe and accept it some days. I still think there is no way that he is dead and I am here. I feel he was cheated just like your sister was- in the prime of their lives. I have flashbacks of little bits and pieces of the day he died and the days following- my mom's phone call, the gathering of our family, my other brother's and my total devastation. Most times I have to block it out by switching my thoughts to something else or busying myself with something. I can't believe it has been 10 months- and I am sure you can't believe it's almost a year. I don't have any advice for you about getting through the year milestones since I have not had to do it yet, but I do want to say that you will get through them somehow. We don't want to and we dread it but the days will come and go and you will have the strength to do it. And just know that there are other people thinking of you and your family as they go through it also. I will be thinking of you, your family and your sister on August 22nd and feel free to write me anytime if you need to say anything.
Today marks 11 months since my sister was taken from us. It is so hard to believe that it has almost been a year since I have talked to her or heard her laugh. I cannot help but think about where she would have been now had she not died. She would have been coming up on her 1 year wedding anniversary in a week and a half and I know she had been thinking about having children so maybe she would have been on her way. I feel so cheated and I feel as though she were cheated out of her life. I feel as though the person responsible for her death has stolen my family's future. I wish that it had never happened and I would give anything for one more day with my sister. The next month is going to be so hard with the last of the "first year" milestones. My dad's birthday on August 2 and then then her wedding anniversary on August 3, the day after. Last year my dad's birthday present was giving his daughter away to the man of her dreams, and this year, it is grieving that daughters death. And finally....August 22, the one year mark. It fills me with dread just thinking about it. I just wish that that day did not exist so that I did not have to remember what happened and how I found out, and the look on my dad's face when he told me, and the sound of my mother weeping and the image of my dad breaking down and the faces of my grandparents who looked lost and unsure of everything around them...and of her husband of 19 days, looking so lost and broken. These are the images that swim through my head one a day to day basis and no one really knows the strength it takes to hold myself together some days, especially in the days leading up to the anniversay of her death. I guess all I can do it pray for strength and hope that myself and my family get through the next month with as much grace and dignity as possible.
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