loss of a sibling

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Comment by CDJBlue on November 23, 2009 at 6:49am

I lost my sister in 2005. I still have moments of acute longing and pain. Since her passing, I often feel isolated and alone. We shared many of the same emotions and we could relate to each other. Our family background had impacted us differently, but there were enough similarities for us to connect on a level that was unique. We were both close to our neighbor, Gladys, who passed 2 years ago. This morning a commercial for Mario Bros. came on playing the diddy from the original game. Gladys and I had a common "addiction" to this game and jointly strategized and collaborated to "beat" the game. So...this morning I find myself missing Gladys very much. I had known her for almost her entire life and her death made a deep and sorrowful impact. She was only 49. My sister was only 44. It seems like there are so many people who have gone out of my life. It is really unbearable.

Comment by mike perla on November 15, 2009 at 3:35am

hello im mike from encino ca. i lost my beautiful sister in a terrible car accident on march 30th .

Comment by Jenny Timmons on November 9, 2009 at 10:02pm

Well it will be 1year since my sister passed away in about 4 and ahalf hours I keep looking at the clock watching the minutes go by. I just wish I could wake up tomorrow and it has just been a dream rather a nightmare, I hurt so bad the tears just build up and I let go.I am not sure I am going to make it through the day and I guess to be honest not sure I want to.What I remember the most is I never got to say goodbye or tell her for the last time I love her. I do not know what to do. If she only knew. Linda my sister and my best friend I love you so very much and miss you more than you will ever know.Linda Ruth Saine 07/09/51- 11/10/2008
Jenny

Comment by mike perla on November 8, 2009 at 4:00am

hi im mike i lost my sister 5ths ago in a car accident she and her friends were on there way to prom.there was no alcohol or drugs involved.i keep asking my self why her. her name was jennifer perla i miss her so much im a lost sole.

Comment by Tina Louise on November 5, 2009 at 3:29am

I forgot to add that Pam was 16-years old when she died; May 23rd, 1973. Very much a second mother to me. I looked up to her, she took care of me and was my friend.

Comment by Tina Louise on November 5, 2009 at 3:03am

I lost my sister Pam to leukemia when I was 9-years-old. I am now 46-years old and this loss has haunted me my entire life. Part of what made it so difficult for me was that, in 1973, her being terminal was a "secret." My parents did not want her to know that she was dying, and therefore could/did not tell her two younger siblings, my brother and I. I woke up in the middle of the night to my aunt stating matter-of-factly "Pam is dead." My 9-year-old brain could not take this information in or make sense of it. I went into some sort of shock state. At dawn my parents came home and all they ever said to me was "Do you know?" I said "Yes" and from that point forward it was about me comforting them, because "nothing is harder than loosing a child." ~ if I heard it once, I heard it 1000 times. It was always about their grief and no one ever said to me until recent years how hard it must be to loose a sister. I only recently got in touch with "survivor guilt" -which I didn't even know I had! She was a very beautiful, pure soul and a tender heart and elevated to sainthood over the years. I felt like it should have been me instead. A lot of trauma around how the two people that I trust the most in the world could keep something like that a secret; no chance to say "goodbye"; and as a child that I could be sick/dying and they wouldn't tell me; that people you love die; etc, etc.. For years I have felt robbed of the one and only sister I would ever know. It goes through different stages and layers of loss over the years; as I have had my own children, caring for my aging parents, how old would she be today..? It never really goes away. Thank you for letting me share. I would love to hear form anyone with a similar story. I feel like the only one! I appreciate everyone here! Love and peace!

Comment by Celina on November 3, 2009 at 12:16am

I miss my brother Mike. He passed away 2/25/09, he had a brain tumor but passed away quite suddenly. the holidays are right around the corner and i can't stop thinking aboutt him. like right now i just want to talk to him. I want to be able to pick up the phone and call him just to hear his voice.

Comment by Celia on November 2, 2009 at 2:13am

I miss my sister so much and this seems to be the only place that knows and understands how I feel.

My sister and I would always go take our kids treak or treating on halloween, she would come over to my house everyday or we would talk on the phone, but now she is gone. She died two months ago in a car accident and was 8 1/2 months pregnant. The baby did not make it either and died. I feel so sad and hurt, I miss her so much. Instead of celebrating a newborn coming to life and my sister being a mother again, they are both dead now. I would do anything in the world to have my sister back. It feels like a big nightmare that won't stop. I keep praying for God to help me get through one day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time.

Thank you so much to all of you who are sharing your stories. It is your stories and thoughts that help me get through the days. I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless!

Comment by Jerryette Vigil on October 28, 2009 at 4:06pm

Ms. Paulette...
I read your story and just wanted to say how Sorry i am for your losses. Also stay strong and God Bless..Jerryette in Washington

Comment by Paulette on October 27, 2009 at 9:17pm

hello all..i wanted to join this so my brother would know that i'd never 4get him. he was the oldest and had down syndrome. he eventually died of bladder cancer. i feel that if we caight it earlier that he'd still be alive. but i found out after mom died that she didn't want to outlive him because she didn't want us to have 2 stop our lives 2 take care of him. i'd give anything 2 have them both here. it got hard taking care of them both but i miss them so much! no parents by the time i was 30. i feel good knowing that this site is here so people can share their grief. God bless all of you and keep your head up!

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