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Permalink Reply by Caryn Hersh on April 9, 2014 at 8:56am

I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my brother to suicide. I can relate to the pain you are describing and the loneliness. My brother was younger than me. He died in February 2013. I know what you mean by everyone kind of disappearing after a few months, in the beginning everyone is there for you. The 6 month point was probably the worst for me. I thought I'd be feeling better but I was feeling worse. Then slowly I started to emerge from that fog I was in. I started grief counseling with the Grief Recovery Method and it was amazing. It helped me make sense of what I was feeling and why. If you are not in therapy of some kind you should think about it. It does help. I'm not one for group therapy, I'm more of a one on one type but  find what feels right for you. Your brother would probably want you to go on living this life being happy. Something he wasn't able to do.

 

Permalink Reply by Abbi Loper on April 9, 2014 at 9:27am

Yes exactly, this 6 month point has been the absolute worst so far and its so hard. I am going to try to look into some type of therapy today.. Hopefully I find something to start with even if its group!
 
Caryn Hersh said:

I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my brother to suicide. I can relate to the pain you are describing and the loneliness. My brother was younger than me. He died in February 2013. I know what you mean by everyone kind of disappearing after a few months, in the beginning everyone is there for you. The 6 month point was probably the worst for me. I thought I'd be feeling better but I was feeling worse. Then slowly I started to emerge from that fog I was in. I started grief counseling with the Grief Recovery Method and it was amazing. It helped me make sense of what I was feeling and why. If you are not in therapy of some kind you should think about it. It does help. I'm not one for group therapy, I'm more of a one on one type but  find what feels right for you. Your brother would probably want you to go on living this life being happy. Something he wasn't able to do.

 

Permalink Reply by Caryn Hersh on April 9, 2014 at 11:03am

Abbi,

If you can find the Grief Recovery Network I highly recommend it. It worked so well for me I was able to get through the 1st anniversary with out becoming the mess I expected to become. I was able to look back at good times, look through photos, cry have a me day, but it wasn't like the 6 month anniversary.

 

Permalink Reply by Danielle McEwen on April 15, 2014 at 11:02am

I know it is a different situation, but I lost my little sister in a car accident almost 8 months ago on August 22, 2013. The 6 month point was very hard for me as well. I felt so alone and I think that is when the fog began to lift and I began realizing how much I really miss her. I spent a few days just so distraught I could barely function. In the beginning, just a few weeks after she died, I went to a support group put on by a local hospice and also did one on one grienf therapy. I found that it really did help work though those emotions and prepare me for the times that were going to be hard to deal with coming up. They say that the first year is the hardest, with all of the firsts pasing you by, and they are right. But I have realized that as each one passes, I come out the other end stronger. You will get through this. The pain is unbearable at times, I know that feeling all too well, but just know that you are not alone and that everyone in this group is here for you if you need to vent. We are all in it together.

Take care of YOU.

Danielle