My sister was killed July 2,2014. She was trying to get her dog who got away from her and was struck by a NYC sanitation truck. The news released her name and was all over the news before any of her family was told. I have been in shock. Horrified to think of her tragic death. Forced to accept the loss. It isn't fair and it hurts so much. I don't know where to turn for guidance. I want to wake from this nightmare, but i know i never will.

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When you lose someone you love so unexpectedly u can help but feel it isnt fair & all you want is to wake up from this endless dream that u just want 2 shut down. I am so sorry for your loss.....ur lost happened so recently & my thoughts & prayers go out to you & your family. U may have heard this before from other people but the beginning is the hardest & it does get a little easier with time. For me it still feels like it happened yesterday even though it was over 10 yrs ago but even though I miss terribly, even though I think its not fair it has gotten a better from when it first happened. 1 thing ive learn dont bottle what or how u feel inside. Talk, scream, cry if u need to u believe it or not it helps. Joining the group was great we understand what its like to lose a sibling & are here for u whenever u need it. Welcome to the group

Darlene...My heart breaks for you. I too, lost my Beloved Sister (my baby only sibling) on 8 June 12 when a man driving a water truck t-boned her. He ran a red light...she didn't know what hit her. He is being charged with Homicide by vehicle, running a red light, reckless driving, and careless driving. We're waiting for his trial (scheduled for August). It was his 4th at-fault accident. This happened a month before not only her 42nd Birthday, but also a month before our Beloved Mom's 5 year anniversary of losing her to Colon Cancer. Although my family and friends (especially my husband) have been my rock, it has been my Faith...leaning on God...that has gotten me through some of my darkest days. You do what you need to. Cry, scream, run, talk...whatever you need to do. What also helped me was seeing a Grief Counselor. I pray you find comfort and peace. Take whatever time you need to grieve. There is no set time for when grieving should stop...or you should be "over it." Time heals nothing. It helps to lessen the pain, but it's always there.

I am so sorry your family is enduring such tragic news in that way.  The news reporters should not be allowed --it should be against the law to do such a thing. 

Take the time to process because as each day goes on, it will only be a new adventure. Your life has changed. Your family will not find a new normal but it will take time-- months, years, or even never really feeling normal. 

I am so sorry for your loss. And the pain you are dealing with now and into the future. Lost my only sister 5/6/2002 and it still grips my heart in words I cannot express. I so needed someone who could understand but we shared a bond that I know only another grieving sister could understand. She taught me how to skip rope, ride a bike, drive a car, and so much more. How could I live without her? Somehow I have managed, but life as I knew it was never the same. It took awhile for me to realize she is with me forever. In my busy times and quiet times I always think of her and how I am the person I am because of her. She loved me with an unconditional love that is in my heart that no one will ever take from me. I thank God for the time he gave her to me, and I will forever wait for that one fine day that I can see her face again. She suffered and fought cancer so hard. She is my hero, and until my dying day I will tell people about her and how lucky I was to have her as part of my life even if it was only for a little while. For you I wish peace and healing. And again, I am so sorry.

It's only been 5 weeks since my brother drowned. I know exactly what you mean about shock and hurt. I still look at his picture every day in disbelief. Our loved ones were quite literally taken in an instant. I'm also aware of the news media. They were at the lake at nearly the same time as some of my family. I'm very sorry about your sister. I know it's excruciating but try at least once a day to focus on the positive memories of her. And talk about it like you're doing right now. It is helping me.

I am so sorry for what you are going through, your story breaks my heart...I think it hurts even more because I really feel all that you said that you are is not just a story to me, but my life as well...the pain is feels like at times that I want to crawl out of my own skin just so I can possibly feel something different-but I can't.  I carry it with me whether I throw myself into a busy day at work, or if I am silent watching television...the feelings are still there.  I am writing this to you not to make you sad, but for you to know that someone is there with you...feeling the same...not understanding when the pain will end or if it will...and can only take the advice of others, that in time, it will get better.  It is hard for me to believe that right now.  I almost laugh at the amount of times I have heard that-but I have decided to TRY to believe that it will.   I encourage you to see a grief counselor.  I have.  It really helped to be able to say ANYTHING to someone not related to you...nor knew your sister...that has no criticism to what you say.  It is an amazing gift one has to LISTEN-and ONLY LISTEN...not telling you HOW to feel.  It has been helpful for me to vent those horrible feelings that I have had that I cannot say to anyone else.  It gave me freedom to know that they have already heard it all...probably worse than what I am nothing phases them.  I also have gone to a few compassionate friends meetings.  This is a national chapter, you can look on their website.  

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