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A place for people who are going through loss to support one another .

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Comment by Christine J on April 13, 2012 at 7:45am
I'm so sorry for your loss Danielle. I wish I had words of wisdom for you that would make this unbearable journey easier for you. My older brother and only sibling passed away 5/21/10 and I still cry every day. I can say it's usually not the gut wrenching cry's of the past but crying because I just plain miss him. All I can say Danielle is that you will think of him every day and you will miss him every day for the rest of your life. You are young and have a lot of life ahead of you to live and you need to live it for the both of you. That truly is how you can best honor the memory of your brother. The pain of his loss will ease for you as you begin to remember more of your happy times with him than just his passing. This process doesn't take days or months, but years. Don't beat yourself up for the grief you feel. It's a testament to the connection you will always have to your brother. He truly does live on through you and the memories and stories you have of your life together.
Comment by Danielle kramer on April 13, 2012 at 3:10am
Hi all..i just joined this group and wanted to share my story with u all..my name is danielle and I lost my older brother (he was 27 and I was 24) a little over a year ago. Its taken me some time but now I am here reaching out for help. I definetly have beem avoiding the issue but the pain is just getting worse..i have a half brother who is younger, I love him dearly but he did not grow up in the same home as my older brother than I so the bond is not the same. My brother bruce passed away 5 days after my 24th bday unexpectedly and it just hurts so much, it is getting worse everyday and I just dont know what to do anymore, I dont feel like I have anyone to turn to because I dont wanna upset anyone, I would just please appreciate any advice from someone who knows what I am going through, im afraid if I reach out to ppl close to me they will be upset or just avoid the subject
Comment by Margo powell on March 12, 2012 at 2:16am
Kim, I meant to say I was glad your mom was there for you, as well. I phrased it wrong. These trials can seem too much to bear but if we endure them well we will be blessed and can then serve as a blessing to others. Your loved ones have been taken way too soon, at such young ages, seems to be the case with our losses, as well. I can only believe God needed them more than we did. He has a BIGGER plan, far greater than any of us can imagine and believe it or not we all have a part in it. One day, it will all be made known to us. Hope you are doing alright. Take care of yourself and your mother. Hugs, Margo
Comment by Margo powell on March 12, 2012 at 2:05am
Dear Kim,
I am truly sorry to hear of all your losses, my daughter and I have gone through a period similiar to what you've just shared. Many losses of immediate family members and suicides of friends close to us all within 3 years. Thank goodness you can be there for your mother and you for her. I shall pray for you and your mom.
My only solace during our losses was knowing that God has an eternal plan for us and that we will see our loved ones again, someday.
The Lord, Jesus Christ will provide comfort to ease your pain if you will call upon him with a sincere heart. He loves you and will sustain you through your grieving process. God Bless you! Sincerely, Margo
Comment by K1m on March 11, 2012 at 11:42pm

I am at such a loss. I am the youngest. My last Brother age 49 passed away 3 weeks ago.  I lost my oldest brother age 47 4 years ago, 5 months later my father died, my middle brother age 42 died 7 years. I am so thankful to still have my Mother. 

Comment by Lisa W on March 5, 2012 at 12:39am
click on link in email that says view new comment and click link and you will see comment or I sent email to the whole group and maybe it not on comment thread
Comment by Rowe on March 4, 2012 at 11:50pm

When post come to my e mail.. and I come to answer that post I Am not able to find it. What am I doing wrong. And thank you for any help.

 

Comment by Gwen Nesselle on February 27, 2012 at 3:15pm

The death of my precious Sister, Eileen Bonnie. She was born with Downs Syndrome and had lived the last 14 years with us after my Mom's death. We enjoyed evey second she was with us and we watched her grow and bloom into a beautiful young lady.  She developed Alzheimer's and I knew we would lose her, but the pain and loss is so much greater that I ever imagined it could be. I have to try to start moving on with our lives, but I am paralized with loss and pain.

Comment by Liz Reilly on February 21, 2012 at 8:02am

Hi Margo,

 

Thank you so much for sharing your story with me.  It is just unbelievable that these terrible things can happen so often in one's life.  My mother went just as suddenly as Cathy did 6 1/2 years ago.  She had stomach cramps so Cathy took her to the emergency room.  6 hours later she was gone and I could not get there in time to even say goodbye.  I have never really gotten over that.  My parents were divorced, but close, they started dating when my mom was 12 and he was 14.  He died 9 months later and I swear his broken heart played a big part in that.  My sister and I helped each other through that terrible time and every October 26th, which is the date my mom passed, she would come meet me in the city and we would do something fun and the go have dinner because we knew my mom would not want us sitting around moping.  This October will be unbearable knowing Cathy will not be with me.

 

I was with her husband and kids again this weekend and will be with them next weekend too.  My brother in law calls me every night when he gets home from work.  He just cannot stand walking in that door every night to no Cathy.  His two daughters are there and he tries to put on a good face for them, but he can't sustain it for long.  I so worry about him.

 

Thank you again for listening to my agony.  I am so sorry for all the pain you have suffered through.  I am glad you have your daughter and she has you to help you both through this.

 

Regards, Liz

Comment by Margo powell on February 21, 2012 at 1:33am
Hi Liz,

This site isn't always busy with members commenting on a regular basis. Unfortunately, the posting alerts often go in the spam folder.
I felt bad when I read your post and saw it was on Valentines and no one had responded yet. I hope you are feeling better.
My name is Margo and I live in Honolulu. I can really relate to what you are experiencing on two fronts. My daughters father ( my ex) passed away just couple of weeks before my daughter started her senior year. My daughter was a total daddy's girl. We lived within a couple of miles of one another following the divorce so my daughter was constantly jumping back and forth between the two homes which seemed to work well. MY ex was very, very involved in every aspect of my daughters life. In fact, we even attended the same church regularly. Just prior to his passing, my brother was diagnosed with prostate cancer. We thought he would be okay because it seemed like they caught it in time. I took my daughter to visit my family in Utah and spend time with my family. Approx. 2 weeks after we returned to Hawaii, Presley's father passed away. We were devastated!!! Six months after burying my ex, I lost my brother. He was a wonderful man. I felt our whole support system had been yanked out from under us. My parents are deceased. I only have the one daughter and suddenly we felt quite alone.
I am happy to hear you have a husband that can support you during your loss. I am so sorry to hear that your sister's youngest is a senior in H.S. What a tragic time to lose a parent. I lost my father suddenly at age 12 from a heart attack, I was also a daddy's girl( big time)! My dad was only 36 at the time. When I went through the loss of my daughters father with her, I couldn't believe how similar it was and the deep grief it brought up in my soul.
The losses have been many in the last 3 years including several suicides close to us. My emotions became so raw I didn't know how I would go on some days.

My faith in God has been strengthened tremendously. In fact, I truly know that had the Lord not carried me during difficult times, I would have been a casualty,as well.

I shall pray for you and your family. May you find the peace and strength you need to endure this tragic loss of one so beloved.

Their are some really good people on this site who have hearts of
gold. I will keep an eye open for your posts.

God Bless You! Margo
 

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