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Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. It is just unbelievable that these terrible things can happen so often in one's life. My mother went just as suddenly as Cathy did 6 1/2 years ago. She had stomach cramps so Cathy took her to the emergency room. 6 hours later she was gone and I could not get there in time to even say goodbye. I have never really gotten over that. My parents were divorced, but close, they started dating when my mom was 12 and he was 14. He died 9 months later and I swear his broken heart played a big part in that. My sister and I helped each other through that terrible time and every October 26th, which is the date my mom passed, she would come meet me in the city and we would do something fun and the go have dinner because we knew my mom would not want us sitting around moping. This October will be unbearable knowing Cathy will not be with me.
I was with her husband and kids again this weekend and will be with them next weekend too. My brother in law calls me every night when he gets home from work. He just cannot stand walking in that door every night to no Cathy. His two daughters are there and he tries to put on a good face for them, but he can't sustain it for long. I so worry about him.
Thank you again for listening to my agony. I am so sorry for all the pain you have suffered through. I am glad you have your daughter and she has you to help you both through this.
My name is Liz and I just found this website. My dear beloved sister Cathy passed away suddenly on January 17th. Her youngest daughter came home from school and found her on the couch. The only consolation is that it seems like she layed down to take a nap, even put a quilt on her, and never woke up. But beyond that there is no other consolation to be found. I cannot bear to think of her daughter being alone and finding her like that. She has three children, a son who is 27 and married, a daughter who is 25 and lives at home and then the 18 year old. They are just lost. Cathy's poor husband is so bereft that I worry about his health. Cathy had health issues, but nothing that seemed imminent. She was full of vim and vigor just the day before when we spoke and texted each other all day long. The morning of th 17th, she saw her husband and two daughters off to work and school, everything seemed fine. Cathy was my only sibling and our parents died 9 months apart 6 years ago. I am married without children but am very close and always have been to Cathy's children. I feel like the foundation that my life was built upon is just gone. I am surrounded by family and friends, but I feel so alone. I have been spending most of my free time with her family in Brooklyn. I live about an hour away which seems like a million miles sometimes. Cathy and I were as close as two people could be our whole lives. We grew up sharing a bedroom and doing everything together. She was my big sister, my protector and best friend. We spoke several times a day every day. Her youngest daughter is a senior in high school and this is such an important year for her. She will graduate in June, she has her prom coming up that her mom should be there to help her get ready for, she has all her college applications in and is awaiting her acceptance letters. It's so hard to imagine getting through all of this without her mother there. We, of course, will, but it will be such a struggle. The only thing keeping my sanity is focusing on all of them. Her poor husband just called me to wish me a Happy Valentines Day because he does not have his wife at home to say it to. I am sitting here at work as I type this and it is all I can do to not burst into tears. I have a hard time imagining the future now that she is gone. I try to keep moving so I don't dwell too much, but you can't run forever. I had a melt down last night when I went up to bed. My husband doesn't even know it because he was downstairs watching tv. He was very very close to Cathy too. He is trying his best to help me through this, but what can he do or say? I am glad I found this site and hope I can find some solace here.
It's been 8 months since my younger sister passed away. The 1st 3 months were the worst. So my heart ached when I read Luciana 's comment. Still having bad days with crying and sadness, its amazing how those can derail a good day and most of the time can be triggered by the smallest of things!!
I pray for strength and continued courage for all of us who have lost siblings. We are never the same how could we be a part of us is gone.
Margo, those were beautiful words. Thank you so much!
Lisa..thank you so much...When does it ever get better? Why do people scream at me, berate and mock me because of my grief? It does no good...only makes things worse. People keep telling me to "get over it" or "grieving time is over" Why do they do this?
Dearest Brian...I can totally relate to you...It seems that when we grieve we are all alone, even though others around us are grieving for the same person. I have had terrible physical problems because I have kept all my grief in and it has poisoned me. If you want, you can message me your email address and we can correspond about eachother's experiences...if you feel comfortable doing that. Or, we can talk on here...whichever your preference.
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