A place for people who are going through loss to support one another .

Members: 639
Latest Conversations: 9 hours ago

Discussion Forum

Life goes on,but does it.....

Started by elyse. Last reply by Karen Liller 9 hours ago. 3 Replies

Loss of my brother

Started by Belle Belden. Last reply by Karen Liller Mar 7. 4 Replies

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of LOSS OF A SIBLING SUPPORT GROUP to add comments!

Comment by Margo powell on April 15, 2012 at 11:36pm
Jennifer, My heart goes out to you! This life can be so difficult.
It often seems as though a domino effect occurs following evil behavior( your brother's molestation). The effect and consequences of ones perpetrating evil, destructive behavior, often brings about devastation in it's wake. When I hear such tragic stories, my thoughts always go back to Jesus Christ. He will make all things right at some point in time. He is also the source you can turn to for peace, hope, and healing. I shall pray that you find understanding and strength to go on. The enemy of our souls, Satan, tries to use EVERY difficult situation in our lives to destroy us. Stay strong your child needs you.
All trials if endured well will be for our greater understanding and goodBlessings!
Comment by Jennifer on April 15, 2012 at 11:05pm

I added my story under another comment so not sure where to post. My little brother passed away 66 days ago.  He was a very bad alcoholic and died suddenly in his bathroom . after 54 days there is no cause of death.  Probably another siezure.  Someone was always there if he had  seizuere and this time - no one was. My dad found him dead. I have been trying to help my brother for 16 years with his drinking.  he died 1 week after his 32 bday.  So young and its just too much to think of sometimes.  At age 5 he was molested by our neighbour fro 3years and he didnt tell us until he was 21 years old.  The pain and shame led himt o booze and it killed him.  I stuggle everyday to think i cant talk to him again.  We were so close and he was such a big part of my life its so hard to not have him in it to be here and the fact that im not dealing with his problems has also left a void.  I dont think you can get over death.  People dont understand the pain im in. the sadness- what it has done to me.  Ive been rocked by death many times. Ive never been so messed up from it before .  I am looking to see how other people are coping as I am back to work and raising a 6 year old and just trying to get through the days.  I have seen a medium. ( this helped restore m spirituality a bit).  i just need to see what ideas anyone has for moving on?? thank you

Comment by Jennifer on April 15, 2012 at 10:53pm

new here

Comment by Gwen H on April 13, 2012 at 3:56pm

I wrote this for my sister, change the she to "he", change the "name" the we to I---I know this is a little bit of what your feeling. Your journey is is unimaginable, all we can do is read and write to you. (((Amanda)))

We can shed tears that Eileen is gone, or we can smile because she has lived. We can close our eyes and pray that she'll come back, or we can open our eyes and see all the memories she's left us. Our hearts can be empty because we can't see her. We can turn our back on tomorrow and live in yesterday, or we can be happy tomorrow, because of all her yesterdays. We can remember only that she is gone, or we... can cherish her memory and let it live on. All we can do is what she would want: ----smile, open our eyes, love and go on...
Comment by Danielle kramer on April 13, 2012 at 12:40pm
Thank you for your words, this journey has been so hard and I am doing my best to be as happy as he would want me to be...it helps to hear from people who are going thru this
Comment by Christine J on April 13, 2012 at 7:45am
I'm so sorry for your loss Danielle. I wish I had words of wisdom for you that would make this unbearable journey easier for you. My older brother and only sibling passed away 5/21/10 and I still cry every day. I can say it's usually not the gut wrenching cry's of the past but crying because I just plain miss him. All I can say Danielle is that you will think of him every day and you will miss him every day for the rest of your life. You are young and have a lot of life ahead of you to live and you need to live it for the both of you. That truly is how you can best honor the memory of your brother. The pain of his loss will ease for you as you begin to remember more of your happy times with him than just his passing. This process doesn't take days or months, but years. Don't beat yourself up for the grief you feel. It's a testament to the connection you will always have to your brother. He truly does live on through you and the memories and stories you have of your life together.
Comment by Danielle kramer on April 13, 2012 at 3:10am
Hi all..i just joined this group and wanted to share my story with u all..my name is danielle and I lost my older brother (he was 27 and I was 24) a little over a year ago. Its taken me some time but now I am here reaching out for help. I definetly have beem avoiding the issue but the pain is just getting worse..i have a half brother who is younger, I love him dearly but he did not grow up in the same home as my older brother than I so the bond is not the same. My brother bruce passed away 5 days after my 24th bday unexpectedly and it just hurts so much, it is getting worse everyday and I just dont know what to do anymore, I dont feel like I have anyone to turn to because I dont wanna upset anyone, I would just please appreciate any advice from someone who knows what I am going through, im afraid if I reach out to ppl close to me they will be upset or just avoid the subject
Comment by Margo powell on March 12, 2012 at 2:16am
Kim, I meant to say I was glad your mom was there for you, as well. I phrased it wrong. These trials can seem too much to bear but if we endure them well we will be blessed and can then serve as a blessing to others. Your loved ones have been taken way too soon, at such young ages, seems to be the case with our losses, as well. I can only believe God needed them more than we did. He has a BIGGER plan, far greater than any of us can imagine and believe it or not we all have a part in it. One day, it will all be made known to us. Hope you are doing alright. Take care of yourself and your mother. Hugs, Margo
Comment by Margo powell on March 12, 2012 at 2:05am
Dear Kim,
I am truly sorry to hear of all your losses, my daughter and I have gone through a period similiar to what you've just shared. Many losses of immediate family members and suicides of friends close to us all within 3 years. Thank goodness you can be there for your mother and you for her. I shall pray for you and your mom.
My only solace during our losses was knowing that God has an eternal plan for us and that we will see our loved ones again, someday.
The Lord, Jesus Christ will provide comfort to ease your pain if you will call upon him with a sincere heart. He loves you and will sustain you through your grieving process. God Bless you! Sincerely, Margo
Comment by K1m on March 11, 2012 at 11:42pm

I am at such a loss. I am the youngest. My last Brother age 49 passed away 3 weeks ago.  I lost my oldest brother age 47 4 years ago, 5 months later my father died, my middle brother age 42 died 7 years. I am so thankful to still have my Mother. 


Members (639)


Latest Conversations

Karen Liller replied to elyse's discussion Life goes on,but does it..... in the group LOSS OF A SIBLING SUPPORT GROUP
9 hours ago
Karen Liller and ALEXANDRA are now friends
9 hours ago
Profile IconPamela Akemon, Karen, Carmen Anderson and 3 more joined LegacyConnect
10 hours ago
Melinda CANDACE Guinn replied to elyse's discussion Life goes on,but does it..... in the group LOSS OF A SIBLING SUPPORT GROUP
22 hours ago

Community Guidelines

Please be respectful of others. For more information, read our Community Guidelines.



Follow Legacy

Follow Legacy.com on PinterestFollow @LegacyConnect on TwitterCircle us on Google+

© 2017   Created by Legacy.com.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service