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Started by Jamie Ann. Last reply by Lisa W Jan 31, 2018.
I have lost 5 of my siblings since the end of September. I am the youngest of 12. Three had passed away before this in 2006, 2008 and 2010. There are only four of us left. My sister Eileen passed away the end of Sept last year. My brother George on Thanksgiving, my sister Marie four days before Christmas. My sister Gerri was diagnosed with secondary stage four brain cancer in Oct and she passed away Feb 3rd. She had 7 tumors in her brain. My brother Billy was was found deceased in his apt on April 22. The last two were the closest to me in age, so I grew upwith them. This is way too much. I loved them all dearly and miss them so much. Mybrother Billy was deaf. I hadn't seen him in about 7 years and I regret I was not able to go see him before he passed away. I am a positive person and I know they are all in a better place now. It is just hard to wrap my head around the fact that they are gone. 5 deaths in 7 months is a lot to digest. Except for the last two the rest were all older and had their share of health problems. My sister Gerri was never sick until Oct. She was three years older than me. My brother Billy was two years older than me. He had some ups and downs with health due to heart and diabetes. I guess it all came to much. I have had my share of health problems but I am doing good. I can only hope I stay this way. I have a lot of nieces and nephews and have been making it an effort in the last 5 years to keep in touch with all of them. I try to keep my sisters and brothers spirits alive. they will always have a place in my heart. Some days it just is too much to bear though as I hear of another one of my siblings passing away.
I have been avoiding anything that reminds me of my little brother lately. It hurts and I guess I kinda felt the if I ignored the fact that i'm in pain it would just go away. My other 3 siblings don't seem to be able to talk about it with me and my feelings have been very personal about it. Being that my family has very strong beliefs about death, no matter the cause I feel as if i'm the odd one out. I'm not angry with him for hos choice, like our other brother is, i'm just filled with so much pain that he is not here with us anymore. Being that I was ONLY sibling to not see him in resent months before. The others saw him the night before he died. We were in no way on bad terms, I just lived 600 miles away from everyone and was in a different stage of my life than the rest of my siblings. I often wonder if I had been there that last family dinner, if I would have been able to see how much he was hurting. I know that i'll never actually know, but the thought keeps crossing my mind. The last conversation that we had was on Facebook and that also haunts me....It has not been a year yet and i'm so fearful of June 22nd this year! He was in my eyes the brother that had it all together when the rest of us were struggling. How odd that seems now, when he was hurting more than any of us could see. I finally in some ways can admit that he is really "gone" No matter the pain it has caused I know that he never wanted us to be hurt, he just wanted to stop hurting inside...I can respect that, just not understand it really...I miss you Michael!!
Have not been close wtih my sister since My Mom passed away. She also treated my kids very bad at the funeral. I Have forgiven her.. However we will never be close again. It is What it is. Don't know her motive and it hurts. But I have to go on and the way to do that is to forgive and forget.
Hello Sarah! I am very sorry about the loss of your brother. It had been very hard on your mom and yourself. I am also so sorry to hear how his children are treating you. You loved your brother very much and have suffered a great loss and their behavior is unfair. It is a hard road and to have the added pain they are causing is not right for you. I am very sorry. You brother, your mother and you are in my thoughts.
I lost my only brother 2 months ago,it is hard on me,and I can't understand why his 3 adult children have been nasty to me,even at the funeral they made me feel like I wasnt part of his family,Im his only sister,thats it,me and Matt!!! My mom who is 84 lives with me,and they also didnt included her in the last viewing of my brother either,we werent ask to write a memory for the pastor to read,and who has more memories then my mother??shame,shame on those 3 kids
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