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I lost my younger brother 4 weeks ago

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Comment by dina l davis on September 8, 2009 at 9:28am
it's only been 3 weeks since my wonderful brother died.he suffered a subdural hemotoma.to be honest we all thought he was going to wake up. i guess just trying to get from one day to the next is the big challenge.does the physical pain ever ease up?
Comment by JOANNE B on September 5, 2009 at 8:29am
Husband passed of esphogus and lung and brain cancer 6 months ago just dont know how i can go on without his love and protection...he was such a wonderful husband and father...now i have to move for the house is too much for me to keep up im overwhelmed by all of this change...please help me with support of this .....joanne
Comment by Valerie on August 29, 2009 at 11:19am
It will be two years this Sept. 8th since I lost my brother. We were only four years apart in age, him being the older one. We shared so much from the time we were children and into our adult lives. He never married, never wanted the responsiblities that would come with having a wife and family. I often would tell him that he needed someone to share his life with so that when he got older, there would always be someone to look after him and he'd never be alone. It made no difference so I made the commitment to be that person who would look after him and see that he was never alone. After he suffered a stroke back in July of 2006, his life was made harder and for a month, I had him come and live with me and my husband so I could take care of him. After the stroke, he stopped driving so again, I would go and take him to run errands or go with him to his doctor appointments. When on Sept. 6, 2007, I couldn't reach him by phone, I knew something was wrong and my husband and I drove into his home to check on him finding him unresponsive on the living room floor. I rushed to the phone, dailed 911 and informed the dispatch woman that I thought my brother had suffered another stroke and he was not responding to me. My brother was taken to St. Marks Hospital and for 2 days I and myself and a cousin sat and watched over my brother making sure he was never alone. When he finally passed on the morning of Sept. 8, 2007, my heart was broken for I not only lost my brother but a friend and confidant as we could talk about anything and everything and did. We enjoyed a good cheeseburger at Crown Burger, good seafood at Red Lobster. A few good M&M's, any kind of chocolate would do along with a diet coke for him and a cherry one for me. We often would be seen eating at the Sizzler in Sugarhouse and then to the park to feed the ducks and geese. What great memories but how do I stop thinking of him and feeling the loss? I cry everyday thinking of him along with the loss of my parents as well. I feel a piece of me was lost the day my brother died and even more so the day I buried him. Thank you all for taking time to read my comment. May the Lord bless each one of you as you deal with your losses.
Comment by pam on August 26, 2009 at 8:53pm
It has been a little over a year since I lost my only sibling, my younger sister from a drug overdose. She was 48. I am still angry with her, but more angry with the system that failed her.
Granted, she was an adult who knew what she was doing, at least that is what she made us think. Since MJ died and all the hoopla that surrounds celebrity deaths, I am more angry. While his death was investigated, my sister was just another toe tag in the morgue from an accidental drug overdose. No one investigated her doctors or pharmacies as I had suggested to the police. She was playing the same game, multiple doctors and pharmacies, overseas drug buying. One of her enabling doctors even had the nerve to pay a condolence call. I wanted to kill him. Instead of putting her in rehab, he just continued to write prescriptions.
In this capitalistic society, money can buy immoral and unethical behavior even from medical professionals whose oath is "first do no harm". I hope one day to forgive her for leaving my elderly parents in such shock and grief, and for my two adult children who lost their only aunt.
Comment by maria Gikas on August 26, 2009 at 7:23am
Hi There,
Today marks 1 year 2months since i lost my amazing brother Tone. He was 31years old and was the most amazing brother and friend to me. I miss him so much that the weight of my loss is deep in my heart,that sometimes it makes it hard to breath. He was trying to call me when his heart gave up and their was just silence on the other end of the phone . Until the unforgettable scream from my mum (The death scream). I never got a chance to tell him he was amazing and he meant so much to me. This I will regret for as long as i am living. My life since then has been as i call it the land of the living dead. I can only feel the pain that you all have experienced as it can only be felt from people who have had a loss. My kids and my husband keep my going and make me get through each day as it comes. I have tried to spend time with his friends who were amazing the first year but realise that life keeps going, makes me sad. How can Tone not be here and life goes on around me. Please tell me how what can help me get out of the darkness!
When i listen to people around me with there petty arguments , I wonder how they think the stupidest little things can mean so much to them. All I Say is enjoy the people close to you while their here. Life as I have found out the hard way is so short.
Thanks from Maria (Mazza)
Comment by ashley on August 24, 2009 at 10:30pm
first off im sorry for everyone losses. My names ashley,im 18 and i lost my brother on December 22nd 07' he was 24 when he passed. It's been two years and i still constantly think of him. It get's harder before it gets easier but soon thinking of your lost sibling will be a joyus thing. When i lost my brother i was so lost he was like a male version of me spunky fun always making everyone laugh. I didn't know what to turn to when i was griefing my mother like to talk about him and my father didn't people have different ways of grieving which we need to respect. The one thing that i can honestly came out of this was my relationship with god grew so strong. Praying to him just asking him to lift me up and help me to get through this really helped.So many people that don't like to talk about what happened feel that there alone, i want you to know your not god is always there to hear your and listen. i know i very much felt alone i felt like my mothers and brothers grief was different then mine but we were all connected By my brother mario, I really think this group is great because i didn't know about it when i was going through it but it's always good to know i can recommend it! IF ANYONE EVER NEEDS ADVICE OR JUST A SIMPLE NEED TO SMILE AND IS HAVIN A ROUGH DAY DONT HESITATE TO MESSAGE ME!
Comment by ann estrada on August 20, 2009 at 5:51pm
hi my name is ann.i lost my older brother on march 5th,2009.i had just found him after 10 years.are famliy lost context with him 10 years ago.i found him in december 2009.i got a call from my sister on feb.27th. that he was in the hospitel and to go see him right away.that he was dieding.when i seen him i started crying and fell to my knees.we his siblings had to let him go.he died from a brain steam bleed on march 5th.five months have gone by and i still feel bad about it.can someone tell me when dose it go away.i catch my self crying sometimes.that could of helped him more.you see my brother was homeless.he didn,t want help from no one.not even me his sister.and thats what hurts the most.can anyone help me please.thank you ann.
Comment by KathyM on August 14, 2009 at 11:45pm
I found my one and only younger sister dead on her couch of a heart attack at 43 three years ago. I went for grief counseling with my youngest son as she was his nanny since he was 5. I still cry when I come down the street and my driveway is empty as she was always here when I came home from work. I pray all the time and its my understanding that the grieving process for siblings is approximately more like 4-6 years. Of course somedays are better and some are not. I cry in my sleep and wake up my son with the crying. She was my best friend. I lost my father when I was 14 but that grief was totally different from this. I feel so alone without her. My mother and I are not close and she is severely depressed but wont go for grief counseling. I often wish that I would of had a warning but I did talk to her on the phone a few hours before she died and told her that I loved her and would talk to her in the morning and the coroner said she died in the night. She must of taken a shower as she was sitting on the couch and she looked so peaceful and her hair was so shiny and beautiful. I sometimes feel peace in finding her looking so beautiful yet the trauma at times haunts me. I know that my faith will carry me thru but what a rough road. I will pray for all of those here that have lost thier sibling/siblings.
Comment by sandy davis on August 14, 2009 at 11:13pm
dear hopeful, your post was so wise and inspiring. it is, i guess, only through God and your faith and maturity, that you can be hopeful. you have such a wonderful and inspiring attitude. it really made me feel some hope to read your words. i lost my brother in january and it has been hard to have hope at times and i don't even know you but i admire you. thank you for your wonderful and hopeful words. love, peace, and prayers, sandy
Comment by Lisa W on August 10, 2009 at 9:03am
Glad to have the support of other people who understand

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