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I lost my younger brother 4 weeks ago

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Comment by Hopeful on August 9, 2009 at 3:11pm
For information on my sister that is missing please go to www.helpfindgina.com.
Comment by Hopeful on August 9, 2009 at 3:08pm
I feel so sad for everyone on here, life is not supposed to be lived this way but in reality this is life and God did not make us to live forever. Some go sooner then others and others get to live these long lives full of happiness and sadness. I am 30 years old and in the past 10 months lost both of my sisters. My older sister (33) is actually missing, she has been missing since Oct. 23rd, 2008 and my younger sister (22) was killed just a month and a half later on Dec. 7th, 2008 in a fatal car accident. I was also 6 months pregnant when all this was going on and already had a 2 1/2 year old son and am married to a wonderful man. I look at my life at this moment and see so many happy things but the sad things outweigh everything. I hear people talk about how they look forward to dying because they lost one of their children or a spouse, etc... and I have thought that many times too. But then I also think about my parents, my brother in law, my friends, my grandma, etc. that are all still here and still love me and my kids and husband very much. Everyday is a struggle and the tears never stop. My life and the dynamic of my family has completely changed and I think how much I dont want what it is now, I want what we had 10 months ago. Each day that goes by it is just another day that God gave me. God doesnt decide when we die, we all have a destiny and we are given free will to live out what life we are given. But just remember that this life on earth is nothing compared to the eternal life that our loved ones are living and heaven and we are going to be there with them again. I have to believe that, that is the only thing that gets me through each day. Life will never be the same, there is a saying that I appreciate very much:
grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. -niebuhr

I cannot change the outcome of my sister's lives but I can always make sure that I live everyday for them and never let them be forgotten. Much love to everyone that is hurting, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Never feel that you are alone. God is always watching.
Comment by Dave Lorenzatti on August 8, 2009 at 1:07pm
My sister, Sandy, died in September, 2008. Just nine weeks before her death, she'd diagnosed with pancreatic and liver cancer. That was a huge shock to my youngest sister and me and we'd hardly had time to reconcile the reality of her illness before she was taken from us. While we are grateful that she was spared a long and agonizing ordeal, we are devastated at her passing. It's more difficult for my sister, Judy, since she and Sandy saw a lot of each other but, since my wife and I live in South Carolina, our contact was primarily by phone and e-mail. But we spoke often...now there's this huge void, especially during baseball season when we talked about Yankees games! We have lost a number of family members in the last six years but, as I said at her funeral service, never ever did I think for one moment that either of my siblings would precede me in death, since I'm the oldest. A day rarely passes that I don't spend time thinking about Sandy...memories of family gatherings, phone conversations about this and that, the jokes we'd send each other by e-mail. Judy and I have spent a lot of time consoling each other and our spouses and kids have been wonderful. I have also found comfort in the many bereavement readings I've come across or which were passed on to me. I also find myself talking with Sandy frequently, telling her things I probably would've said in a phone conversation. I miss her terribly.
Comment by marybeth bergin on August 8, 2009 at 9:59am
WoW I didn't know this group existed. I think its great. I'm just coming back to the site after quite a few monthes. Remember me I'm Marybeth Bergin. I lost my brother John 5yrs. ago to the Virius AIDS and hepatitas. He was 41yrs. old we were only 18 months apart. He was my best friend to this day I can't say the things I use to say to him we could finish each others sentences. I just got back from Cape Cod. IT I went to Provincetown. My brother had a condo there for a summer before he left. I could feel and see him him all over there, the overwhelming feeling came over me like it always does when I feel him. It just doesn't seem real. I have been suffering 5 yrs and have not yet moved on with my life. He would be so mad at me. I'm thinkin maybe it is time to move on. Maybe he could help me. What does any one think. Help I need a push
Comment by sandy davis on August 7, 2009 at 11:05pm
laura and lisa, my name is sandy. i lost my younger brother very unexpectedly january 22 of this year. it has been the hardest thing i have ever gone through. even though you would never want anyone to go through this, it is a comfort to hear some of the feelings others are having just so you know you are not losing it. i know my life, physically and emotionally, will probably never be the same. i feel weird physically sometimes. i have fears of losing someone else. i agree that no one really understands until they have personally experienced it. and i would never never wish this on anyone but unfortunately death is a reality of life. but it sucks to lose your younger brother or sister. i miss him a lot. i will pray for you both. sandy
Comment by Laura on August 7, 2009 at 3:49pm
Dear Lisa--I understand as I lost my younger sister three years ago to bacterial meningitis. She was sick for four days. She went from perfectly healthy to dead in this period of time and I wasn't able to either hold her hand to say good-by OR even be at her services as I was in another country when they occurred. Three weeks ago my mom died suddenly and you know what, I am back into the deepest grief ever over . . . my sister . . . I really don't understand . . .

Laura B.
Comment by Lisa W on August 7, 2009 at 1:33pm
I miss my brother it's been almost two years since he died but feels like yesterday it's hard to talk to people because they don't really understand unless they have been through it

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