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I lost my younger brother 4 weeks ago

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Comment by meg on January 2, 2010 at 8:12pm
i want to wish a happy new year to all, i know we all have deeo wounds of our loved ones, and all have mixed emotions on how and why they left us, i am thankful for you all, it is very comforting to know i have people out ther that understand. keep your heads hels high and keep talking and remembering tours loved ones lost, cause is up to all of us to keep y=them alive throgh our memories for them.
Comment by HEIDI L. COLE on December 30, 2009 at 7:32pm
Hi my name is heidi and i lost my brother on july 29th of 2008. His name is stephen and he was my best friend, father figure and always made me laugh. Stephen built the house I live in with my husband and son. My husband and Stephen were best friends and my son adored him. Stephen was diagnosed with esopageal cancer at the age of 49 and put up quite a fight to beat it. The end of Stephens' illness was torture. They told all of us he would be more sedated and more comfortable in a hospice facility, when they admitted him they gave him 24hrs. he lived for 42 days. He was so alert and could hear everything we would say to him. He would always give me a kiss when I would ask for one. I miss him so much. It is hard to visit my sister-in-law who by the way was at his side every moment of his illness. I helped alot to take care of him and we formed a bond that probaly only her and I can understand. Stephen was cremated and the urn is on the table in the living room next to the couch we sat on everyday. There is alot more I want to get out but have to stop right now. The pain is awful!!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by lauren folson on December 28, 2009 at 8:49pm
I lost my little brother on December 10, 2009. He died from injuries he susatianed in an auto accident. He was drinking and driving. He lived for 6 days in ICU, sometimes he was alert and awake, I'd get to hold his hand and just be there with him. He was on a ventilator. After his surgery, he never awoke. I got to talk to him before he went into surgery, as you never know what might happend, and I was glad that i told him I loved him and got to be his sister and he my brother. And to get better and come back to us. I saw them trying to save him, it broke my heart and left me with despair and disbelief. I had a hard time believing it that on Christmas eve I went to his grave and broke down and hugged his cross, crying so loudly that I said why, why did you have to drive. Oh, god! Theres days I think I'm ok, and the next thing I know I'm falling apart. People tell me that it will take time. I haven't lost anyone close to me in a long time. I'm just having a hard time now.
Comment by Jenny Timmons on December 23, 2009 at 1:27am
Hi Everyone, Well this will be my first Christmas without my Dad and sececond one without my sister . I am just in a just a place I am unsure about, I lost a friend today I have worked with her for seven years and now she is gone. I was at work and knew something was wrong she was sick for a few days ,she had called me Saturday and ask me to work her shift on Sunday and then called me Sunday to work for her Monday night as I was talking to her I could tell something was different I asked her if she had gone to the doctors, she said no I told her she needed to go it was then she said if I don't feel better later I will, when I got to work on Monday I asked if anyone had talked to her and I was told no so I called her, I left a message on her machine, again later that night I called again the machine picked up. When I went to work today still no one heard from her I called her again and again well later in the evening her brother had called he did not know what was wrong no one had talked to her, well a few hours he called me and said that she had passed and it looked like it was a few days ago. I don't understand why she didn't go to the doctors why no one checked on her on even knew something was wrong, as for me not sure what to do. I feel lost wish someone could help
Comment by Marti Gallagher on December 21, 2009 at 4:06am
Hi, My name is Marti and I'm glad I found this site. I lost my brother a year ago and other family members before that. I'm at a loss but don't know how to deal with any of this. Sometimes I feel like I'm a zombie and wonder what I am really doing? I don't have time to write much now but I will be back. The holidays are especially difficult and my heart goes out to each and every one of you who have lost someone close to your heart. I know my brother would not want me to be sad, but............
Comment by beth on December 13, 2009 at 7:14pm
i dont know how to deal.... i lost my brother in april 2009. we were so close he was my best friend - we could not speak for a week and when we did it was like we just talked 1 minute ago. my other brothers wife was so mean to him because of the lifesytly he chose to lead and while it was wrong in her eyes i loved him for who he was and didn't care it didn't change him as a person. i cant deal with her anymore she said so many hurtful things to him and i can not let it go even though i know deep in my heart that that is not my fight but i can not find it in my heart to forgive her or even be around her and now she is coming here for the holidays and i dont know what to do she wont even let me even say hi to my own nephew what do i do HELP
Comment by C.J.H. on December 8, 2009 at 10:18am
I am going to see my sister tomorrow she is in one state i another we had hope to bring her home with us but they say that will not happen.........My two adult daughters are going with me. The doctors felt it would be in my two sons 15 and 13, if they did not see her like this,but remember her as they last seen her. They have told me over and over again to brace myself, that she looks very bad............. pray for us a safe trip there in back......... God bless all............................... End Stages of Liver Failure... she is given just weeks....
Comment by C.J.H. on December 5, 2009 at 1:55pm
We lost our Mother two years ago on 12-23-2007, my Sister is in hospital at end stage of liver failure and this is Christmas. :(
Comment by Joanne A. on December 3, 2009 at 2:27pm
I know what all of you are going through... I lost my brother 11months ago..He was just 35yrs and took his own life as he was hurt and upset that his wife and kids left him...They were his life and he could not live without them... It takes all of me to wake up each morning and get on with my life, I feel apart of me is gone..He was one year younger to me and i have a sister who is 5years younger. We cry all the time and sometimes its hard to breath...its like a dream and we never seem to wake up. Only God has given us the strength to move on day by day..we know our darling bro is at Peace now. He was so sensitive and such a loving and kind person. I miss him so very much.My heart breaks..I wish to have him back..just to say how much we care for him and love him and want him to live and not die. I will keep all of you in my daily prayers and ask God to give each one of you the strength to move on and hope for tomorrow. Lots of love.
Comment by suzann on November 29, 2009 at 10:46pm
i am so happy to find this site, i lost my brother john in a car wreck june, 18 2009 five days after my birthday. we were very close 17months apart in age. i was his big sister protector most of his child hood , and for most of our adult life he pretty much always lived with me at one point or another, we fought like siblings . he was my only sibling, he moved back to california a few years ago, and me , my mom and my two boys stayed in texas. we would talk once in awhile for a few seconds mostly around special days (b-days, mothers day , holidays etc) we saw him in april for two weeks, than he decided he missed calif and moved back, we were so sad to see him leave and i cried when i drop him off at busstop, he called a few times after to tell us he having a baby girl and he was so happy he thought he couldn' have kids after 36yrs he was going to be adaddy, he was so happy everything was looking good for him. new beautiful young girlfriend, baby girl on the way, a job he loved and made good money doing it, he was on top of the world. on june 13 he woke me up with a birthday phone call. that was the last time i got to talk to him. we were on vac , he was made we didn;'t go see him for our vac. i told him that next year we had planned on vac with him and the new baby. we had only been home a couple days my first day back to work it was a thursday, it was at 1 in the morining when i heard my mom screaming the scarest scream i ever heard i though someone had broke in and was hurting her thats how she sounded when i came out i saw her on the floor in kitchen with phone tellin me that john was killed, so i took the phone and the sheriff told me what had happen. it was so unreal . him his girlfriend and step daughter were comin back from weaverville heading home when his girlfriend lost control of the car and they went down a 50ft embankment, were the car ended up on its headlights until it hit a tree on my brothers side of the car. girl friend and baby were ok just a few cuts, step daughter in backseat was in a coma for a month with bleedin on the brain, collapsed chest,(she made a full recovery)my brother died on way to hospital. i miss him so much . if i try to talk about him or share how i feeling i get the feeling people think i should move on so i just keep it to my self.

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