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Comment by joyce on October 5, 2009 at 8:17am
Oh Jerryette, You don't sound greedy at all by saying " Why Her" I think it's perfectly normal. At least I hope so because that's what Iv'e been saying since my younger brother overdosed on drugs. He went to sleep and never woke up,he was 19yrs old. I look around at his friends STILL getting high and I say "why Jake? why not one of them?"His death is breaking my heart! Sometimes I don't think I'm gonna make it through the day.I realize it's only been 6months and in time I'll accept it a little better but for now, it just sucks. My older brother died 2yrs ago and I'm still hurting over that so I don;t know how I'm gonna get through this. One day at a Time I guess. Thank You All for being here, Joyce
Comment by Polly on October 3, 2009 at 11:38am
Just found this site and was reading your stories. Thank you, everyone! My sister, Kathy, died on 12/28/08, and I miss her so very much. But it seems as though others want me to move on and I am not ready yet. So this gives me a peaceful feeling that I can share things about Kathy and the hurt and sadness caused by her death with others that truly understand. My two sisters have been my world. Having lost our parents when I was 12 & 17, my big sisters have been my rocks of life. People comment how as the youngest it seems strange that I have the role of family leader. But it took Kathy's death for me to realize that she was the one who really took care of me. Now that is gone and I am so lost. Kathy died suddenly of a heart attack at age 61. I am 56 and as I said, my sisters have been my life. There have always been 3 and now the one in the middle, our balance, is gone. Both Lee and I are hanging on by the edges of the board we shared that kept us together. Lee is the oldest sister. We were to all grow older together. Now I just cry and cry. The grief doesn't end. Oh, it's a little better, but not much after 9 months. So I look forward to being part of this sibling loss support group. Thanks so much. Polly
Comment by Penny Timmerman on October 2, 2009 at 2:52pm
I was reading all of your stories, i cried. It is so sad that we lose those we love to many different things.I felt so alone and im glad we have this web site. It is making a difference for me. The pain is still there but when i read what all you have loss i dont feel so alone. Than youall god bless may we beable to go on another day.
Comment by Laura on October 2, 2009 at 1:54pm
I don't let go of my beautiful sister by forgetting her and the catastrophic way in which she died. I try to accept her death by rembering every little detail I can about her life. I created a site for her on Legacy.com which helped me a lot. Her name is Diana E. Hatch. Perhaps if you look at this site you will see what I mean. I share in my heart what each of you who have lost a sibling shares--a loss limb that will never be recovered. I have to live with that forever. It is a one-day-at-a-time journey through grief that I have no idea how to do most of the time.
Comment by Jerryette Vigil on October 1, 2009 at 1:16pm
Hello to everyone that reads this....
I am very thankful for having the opportunity to find this site....10 months ago i lost my Beautiful Sister, and i'm having a hard time letting go!!!!!!
She was the most awesome person i know....her sense of humor, and her addicting Laugh. She was so full of Life, thats why i find it hard to realize "Why Her"!!!!!! I know that sounds so greedy of me, i just thought i had her for another 40 years, not fair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Still cry for her so much.....Her loving Sister..Jerryette
Comment by BARBARA K. FELLER on September 30, 2009 at 3:09am
hi everyone: I am here to get support and to give it, also.
I've lost my husband-best friend & soul mate-heart mate to suicide 11-29-07, then my oldest brother & my favorite 07-16-08 unexpectedly, then my father died 07-23-08. I lost my condo to foreclosure, my 1st home, have had to move almost 1000 miles away & leave many wonderful memories. I've been through a lot in my life. I'm retired from fed'l govt-SSA-almost 28 yrs, b4 my hubby survived emotional neglect from my mother, a wonderful dad growing up whom I was very close to plus other stuff. My dad-unhappy w/himself/his choices became violent alcoholic 1983, then I survived abusive relationship almost being killed 11 times by a maniac. I retired 2004, got gastric bypass 052907 then my husband started losing his mind & killed himself. I feel I've survived many things to help others. I'm loving, kind, empathetic, psychic, spirit filled Christian but very tough love. We r here to help each other through everything we experience. Don't ever give up! :)
Comment by Lisa W on September 29, 2009 at 4:56pm
We are all in this together and don't forget that.
Times will be rocky ,sad , sometimes just bearable ,sometimes helpless, sometimes you might feel like your going to crack into pieces. We will get through this together. We have to ! Hang in there this is a place to vent and chat with people that frankly get it .
Comment by Celia on September 28, 2009 at 12:59am
My sister who was 29 years old and 8 1/2 months pregnant died one month ago in a car accident. The baby also died. Her only daughter who is 6 years old is now taken away from us by her "father" who has not been involved in her life and does not let us see her. I feel like I lost a whole entire family and it hurts so much. There is an emptiness inside that I know will never be filled again. The pain, sadness and disbelief takes over me often but all I do is cry and pray. My faith in God is very strong and I continue to pray for God to give me the strength to go on everyday.
Comment by amy on September 25, 2009 at 6:49pm
I lost my boyfriend when I was 19, my grandma when I was 20, my grandfather - I found him dead when I was 23, and now I have lost my sister, who was 27 on 8/31/07. When is He going to stop taking from me? I was in a relationship for 3 months, but he broke up with me. Probably because I am so depressed and he couldn't handle it. When am I ever going to be okay again? I have missed 4 days of work in the past 2 weeks. My boss' can only be so kind, they have a business to run. I want to be happy but right now it's not possible.
Comment by CherylHarper on September 25, 2009 at 11:17am
I have lost my mother in 2000, my big brother in 2005, my favourite aunt in 2008, and now my sweet man just in August 2009. I've recently learned my father is going in for surgery next week - for colon cancer. If God only sends us what we can take - how much more is there for me.

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