My sister recently passed away at the age of 49. She only had 1 son who is 10 years old. He father passed away when he was about 6 months old. I know I can never replace my sister nor would I ever want to but how can I help him thru this difficult time. I get the feeling he's uncomfortable now that it's me that attends all his school functions & not his mom.

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All you can do for him is let him know you are there for him. Tell him no one can ever take his mother's place and that you're not trying to. Show him how much you love him. When he needs alone time, give it to him. When he's ready to talk, listen. It's so hard trying to be strong for someone else when your heart is breaking. Hang in there. This site really helped me, I hope it will help you. God Bless.

I completely agree with Sue, you need to let him know that you care about him no matter what. I lost my father when I was 12... If he wants to talk about it, show him that you are open to it and are not uncomfortable. For example, when I was with the rest of my family, what I hated the most was when people would swiftly change the subject when someone mentioned anything even remotely related with my father, and then they would all look at me as if checking that I was still ok... It made me feel like talking about him was wrong. Back then, I think I'd hate if anyone forced me to talk about his death, but at the same time almost no one talked about him as a person.
Now, 14 years later (and after I have also lost my mother) I realise how much it would have helped me if someone had just talked to me about my father as a normal person, with memories, with funny stories in his childhood, etc, instead of pretending he hadn't even existed.
All the best for you and your nephew*

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