Let me start off by telling you a little bit about my sister and I's relationship. We grew up not ever really getting along. We didnt have that close sister relationship. We loved each other, but didnt really have to much to do with each other. We spent every single Summer together in Vancouver at our Aunts place until I was 15 and she was 12 and normally thats when we got along the best. My sister was very quiet and reserved and had some anger issues due to some unfortunate events in her life. As we grew older my sister got involved in terrible relationships which would cause her to stay away from family. As a result of these bad relationships it put a strain on our relationship because I could not understand why she would stay with a person who is abusive. I still loved her and she loved me we just didnt speak very often. In July 2011 My sister contacted my Husband and I. She was very upset and told us she had, had enough of her 5 year abusive relationship. She asked if we could come and get her and her 4 children. We of course went and we thought it was the beginning of a new life for her and the start of a brand new relationship for the 2 of us. My sister had been sick for a while feeling tired and generally not well. My sister was not a drinker, smoker, or drug user, so we worried a little with the stomach pains she was complaining of. My sister also had a fear of Dr's. called White Coat Syndrome so when she started going to the Dr all the time thats when we all started to panic a little more. She was told that she had Ovarian Cysts and that when they burst thats why she would feel pain. Unfortunately in January of this year she was diagnosed with Cervical Cancer. It was a blow to our hearts like you could not even imagine, but the prognosis was good, Stage 0 pre cancer cell. PHEEW!. She was booked for a full Hysterectomy in Vancouver for May 2012. When she checked into the Hospital the Dr's were shocked at her condition. 35 lbs of weight loss, blood levels around 50 when they should have been at 90-120( this called for an immediate transfusion). After her surgery came the extremely heartbreaking news. The pre cancer cell cancer had just gone from that to stage 4 aggressive. No more surgery was going to help her and she was dying. We were told 6 months to 1 year at the most. My sister came back home after finishing 6 weeks of radiation to continue with chemo as long as her body could handle it. She did complete 2 rounds of chemo but after the 2nd the specialist said no more. She was so so sick from it. She spent from May 2012 - July 2012 at my parents house and then the beginning of July to the second week of July at my aunts place after this we convinced her to enter the Hospice House. She hung on until August 5th when she passed away. My sister was only 34 years old with 4 children under the ages of 12. We are all taking care of her children now and it has been such a roller coaster ride. I feel angry, sad, happy, anxious, and depressed. I wish I could make all this go away and go back to my normal life because I'm not sure how to deal with all of this. I wish I could have my sister back. I wish my nieces and nephews could have their mother back. I wish my parents and my brother could have their daughter and sister back. Most of all I know that this cant happen but wish that I knew how to deal with this loss. Thank you for having this page I really think I needed to just write what I was feeling. Rest In Peace Chelsey We love you 

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