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Sue,
Thank you very much for your taking time to read my post. Thank you for taking the time to reply and your concern for others. So many times it seems we get too busy to slow down and really appreciate all we have in this life. I have realized how I have done this. You certainly brought things to light that had never entered my mind. I had never thought about him doing this in front of her or taking her with him. It sounds so selfish to me to say how thankful I am that this didn't occur. David was a really sweet kid and I will miss him dearly. I still have had no reply from the family but I feel strongly that I must allow her to go to the viewing and funeral. She is still numb and unbelieving that this is reality. My heart aches so badly for everyone that has been thrown into this horrific tragedy. I contacted a local support group and she is going to a meeting Thursday night. Once again, thank you so much.
It may take you're daughter a long time to get thru the quilt.It wasn't her fault, suicide is a sickness, deep inside of people. You can't change the way they think.If they have their minds made up, you can't stop them. I feel sorry for your daughter but I truly understand. On June 10th, 2010 last year. My daughters boyfriend, shot himself while talking on the phone with her. They had been together 10 months, and he didn't have a job, he had no car, no family support. His mom and dad were going thru a divorce. I guess they didn't notice that he had lost 35 lbs. That he was depressed. He would call every five mins.very very depressed, he missed the time he spent with his father. I guess they were like best friends untill the divorce. Then he didn't see much of his dad. Anyway he wouldn't look for a job, he didn't have much ambission, he was.ut just happy to play video games. My daughter got a job.He stayed home and played video games with his friend. I noticed that he would text her every five seconds, or would call and cry to her. He felt like he lost his mom and dad, and was about to loose her. All she wanted was for him to get a job. She decided after a fight over the phone most of the night, that it was time to spend awhile apart. She called him the next day and he said "are you going to come back to me and she said, not right now. He started walking home saying that he was giong to kill himself if she didn't take him back. She said " Mom , I really didn't think he would do it. He would say that every time we had a fight". She said " they fought all the time. But he knew, that they would always get back together." So that day she call and thay started texting back and fourth. He said if she broke up with him, he was going to kill himself.So she talked to him while he walked most the way home. When he got home he called her and said " are you going to take me back and she said "not right now".Then he said"Then this is all you're fault- five, four, three, two, one, bang. She jump in her car, thank god a friend went with her. She was at a girlfriends house and there were other people there. They all heard the gun shot. When she got to his house, they could see thru the curtains that he was sitting in a chair with a gunshot too the head. She has never been the same, she had been 14 months clean from drugs. Well this just push her over the edge,she is using drugs again. I have begged her to get help but she said that she can handle it by herself. She doesn't even look the same,she has lost thirty five pounds. She never smiles, it's like she's in her own world. She writes on her Facebook to him like he is still here. I hope your daughtrer can find someone to help her. I will pray for her. I will ask god to give her strenght to raise her little girl. But my daughter went thru so many rages that we had to ask her to relocate at my aunt house. My husband thought she might take it out on me. I wrote her a note or a poem from the internet and gave her one every single day.I told her I loved her so much. That she could count on me to be there if no one else was there. I'm still see her alot and we talk on the phone. But I'm not sure she will ever forget what he did to her. He took the eazy way out and left her to feel quilty. God bless your daughter.
Vicki,
I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. Suicide is a pain that is so selfish and unexplainable...It has been 18 months and I now have a 9 month old grandson whom will never haver the opportunity to truly know his father. I have such a difficult time dealing with how this baby is to cope/deal with his fathers actions. He was unaware of my daughter being pregnant when this occured. However, he did have a 3 yr. old daughter. I just cannot grasp how you could purposely leave your children in such a manner! Such pain, sorrow, and agony for a child who cannot comprehend. My heart aches every day for these children...and for any one who has to go thru this...God bless you, your family, and your daughter. Suicide expands to so many lives and I don't feel that anyone truly understands the scope of damage until they have had to experience it. I know I didn't.
Vicki said:
It may take you're daughter a long time to get thru the quilt.It wasn't her fault, suicide is a sickness, deep inside of people. You can't change the way they think.If they have their minds made up, you can't stop them. I feel sorry for your daughter but I truly understand. On June 10th, 2010 last year. My daughters boyfriend, shot himself while talking on the phone with her. They had been together 10 months, and he didn't have a job, he had no car, no family support. His mom and dad were going thru a divorce. I guess they didn't notice that he had lost 35 lbs. That he was depressed. He would call every five mins.very very depressed, he missed the time he spent with his father. I guess they were like best friends untill the divorce. Then he didn't see much of his dad. Anyway he wouldn't look for a job, he didn't have much ambission, he was.ut just happy to play video games. My daughter got a job.He stayed home and played video games with his friend. I noticed that he would text her every five seconds, or would call and cry to her. He felt like he lost his mom and dad, and was about to loose her. All she wanted was for him to get a job. She decided after a fight over the phone most of the night, that it was time to spend awhile apart. She called him the next day and he said "are you going to come back to me and she said, not right now. He started walking home saying that he was giong to kill himself if she didn't take him back. She said " Mom , I really didn't think he would do it. He would say that every time we had a fight". She said " they fought all the time. But he knew, that they would always get back together." So that day she call and thay started texting back and fourth. He said if she broke up with him, he was going to kill himself.So she talked to him while he walked most the way home. When he got home he called her and said " are you going to take me back and she said "not right now".Then he said"Then this is all you're fault- five, four, three, two, one, bang. She jump in her car, thank god a friend went with her. She was at a girlfriends house and there were other people there. They all heard the gun shot. When she got to his house, they could see thru the curtains that he was sitting in a chair with a gunshot too the head. She has never been the same, she had been 14 months clean from drugs. Well this just push her over the edge,she is using drugs again. I have begged her to get help but she said that she can handle it by herself. She doesn't even look the same,she has lost thirty five pounds. She never smiles, it's like she's in her own world. She writes on her Facebook to him like he is still here. I hope your daughtrer can find someone to help her. I will pray for her. I will ask god to give her strenght to raise her little girl. But my daughter went thru so many rages that we had to ask her to relocate at my aunt house. My husband thought she might take it out on me. I wrote her a note or a poem from the internet and gave her one every single day.I told her I loved her so much. That she could count on me to be there if no one else was there. I'm still see her alot and we talk on the phone. But I'm not sure she will ever forget what he did to her. He took the eazy way out and left her to feel quilty. God bless your daughter.
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