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Permalink Reply by Shari Soklow on March 11, 2011 at 1:17pm

My Dear Precious Elizabeth,

 

Thank you with all my heart for caring about me...how can I have people around me when all my

people are dead! My mother, my father, my husband and now my son!

Friends, I had two precious girlfriends who were more like sisters to me, so guess what?

They never met each other, didn't know each other, they were just my dear friends and they

both had cancer and they both died! This is about 4-5 years ago. Since then all I have is

false friends! FALSE FRIENDS! That is all I have. I would be a downer to them and they have no

time for me as they have their families!

 

How are you manageing my dear? You are a beatiful kind person and I pray you also get the

answers you need. Are you more peaceful these days? I would like to write a book about my

sad life.

 

Love,

Shari

Permalink Reply by Mollye Self on March 11, 2011 at 2:05pm

Hi Shari, Oh honey I am hugging you right now through cyberspace. God bless your heart. I so know how you feel. My youngest son Jake killed himself June 17 last year so though it has been going on 9 months, it still seems as if I relive that phone call like it was yesterday. I too feel his loss each morning as I open my eyes but his death does not have the sting it had at first, so of course I truly hurt still and believe we as mothers will never "get over" it but we just will learn by the grace of God to live each day without our precious sons. One day at a time. Yes the blow softens over time but we will be forever changed.

Permalink Reply by Shari Soklow on March 12, 2011 at 11:40am

Thank you for that 'hug' dear Mollye, I feel it and your compassion.

I am so sorry to hear about your Beloved Son Jake! Thank you for understanding and I

pray we all find peace and become friends. No one can possibly understand how we as

mothers feel, unless they have also had to live through this devastating tragedy!

It is beyond mere words, a mothers grieving heart!

Hugs to you,

 

Shari

Mollye Self said:

Hi Shari, Oh honey I am hugging you right now through cyberspace. God bless your heart. I so know how you feel. My youngest son Jake killed himself June 17 last year so though it has been going on 9 months, it still seems as if I relive that phone call like it was yesterday. I too feel his loss each morning as I open my eyes but his death does not have the sting it had at first, so of course I truly hurt still and believe we as mothers will never "get over" it but we just will learn by the grace of God to live each day without our precious sons. One day at a time. Yes the blow softens over time but we will be forever changed.

Permalink Reply by Grieving Mom on September 21, 2013 at 1:19am

My son passed July 17 of this year....and I'm struggling too.  I sleep as much as I can, because it, too, provides a temporary relief from my pain.  Waking up in the morning what I find the hardest.  Right now...I'm just noticing this post was from a year ago...I hope it has gotten a little bit better for you.

Permalink Reply by Lynda on October 7, 2013 at 3:49pm

My 16 year old son passed last December 6th, and it's still a daily battle just to get out of bed.  It's strange how sleep is so hard at night, and such an escape during the day.  I don't understand that right now.  I don't feel like this has gotten any easier necessarily, and with holidays coming, I dread it all.  I have a 10 year old son who absolutely adored his brother, and it's hard grieving, moving forward, trying to honor Bryan's memory, letting go, holding on...no wonder we're such a mess.  I'm so tired of hearing, "You're so strong"...no, I'm a house of cards and a whisper away from 52 pickup.

Permalink Reply by Edward Casey on September 19, 2014 at 7:00am

What has helped me is individual counseling, a good psychiatrist that has prescribed for me an effective anti-depressant and I attend a depression counseling group. All of these together as none, on their own will work for me. I am learning to manage my depression; that I will never be cured, but I can live with it. 

Permalink Reply by Blair Alexandria Gorham on September 10, 2015 at 3:03pm

Psalms 34:18 mentions that God is close to the brokenhearted, He saves those who are crushed in spirit. 

Lean upon him when you're feeling down, and throw all your anxieties on him. Doing this doesn't take my problems away but gives me the strength to get through it. Maybe this can help you too.