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Comment by Theresa Sweaney on April 2, 2012 at 6:35pm

Oh Gwamma! How utterly precious!!  When I was down visiting my grand babies, my 8 y/o g-son Patrick asked me to take him on a walk, my 3 y/o g-daughter Kathleen (we call her Kat, or Goo, or Gooey) wanted me to put on and watch together her "Hello Kitty" videos, and Christopher ("Critter") and I played games and read books.  Each were a delight in their own unique ways.  I was happier than I've been in a long while.  My daughter is having another baby next month, and then they will be stopping after that.  They grow so fast... I wish we lived closer so that I could be an every day kind of gwamma (lol :) like you get to be!  You're so lucky!

Comment by Donna Messerly on April 2, 2012 at 4:37pm

Thanks, Theresa.  Time with my grandchildren is also my saving grace. My little 5-year-old granddaughter spent Saturday night with me. On Sunday we went for a walk. The cemetery is next door to my home. It's beautiful and a nice place to walk so we "kicked it" there. (Weird, I know.)  We talked about the different headstones and what they meant and how you could tell how old they are -- some are well over 100 years old.  I flashed back to the things my grandmothers talk about with me and felt so, so glad that she has me to teach her about things no one else is likely to. We don't focus on death or anything . . . but after my father passed away she told me this:

"Grandma, sometimes people get old and they die. I don't want you to get old, and I DON'T want you to die. I want you to stay just the way you are."

Another time she told me, "Oh Gwamma. I just wish I could love you forever."

Comment by Theresa Sweaney on April 2, 2012 at 4:22pm

PS- I consider you guys my 'other significant people' as well.  We depend on each other to survive, and not merely survivors even... to be overcomers, and life giving to others.

Comment by Theresa Sweaney on April 2, 2012 at 4:19pm

Hi all, I'm back home today :)  It's good that we have our children, grandchildren, and/or other significant people as motivation to press on.  For myself, through this last year I was happiest with my g-kids last month.  Being with them brought me such bliss.  Right now I feel like I am still just carrying on for others and not myself.  Their needing me is what keeps me going.  At least till I get my 'land legs' back and be able to stand on my own again.  And like Donna, I feel strongly that we are their role models in overcoming life's hardships, and we have a responsibility to be that.  I’m grateful for the people in our lives who serve as anchors until such time as we get our bearings.

Comment by Carin~ Cody's Mom on April 2, 2012 at 3:56pm
Yes it was a joy to hear my son so happy. Its bitter sweet though :(
Comment by Theresa Sweaney on April 2, 2012 at 2:38pm

Oh Carin!  What a joyous moment!  However, I think being woke up like that would have made me also tear into him for scaring me, Lol!!

That must have done your heart good to see such joy returning to your older son!  I'm so happy for you, and for him!

Comment by Daphne vaughn (Anthony's Mom ) on April 1, 2012 at 11:44am

Congratulations Carin,to you and your family.sounds like you have something to look forword to.blessing to all.Daphne

Comment by Donna Messerly on April 1, 2012 at 10:17am

So happy for you, Carin! Congratulations!

Comment by Carin~ Cody's Mom on April 1, 2012 at 8:18am

My older son woke us up out of bed two nights ago crying and screaming in the phone. My heart just stopped.

He asked me if I was awake of course I said yes I am. He instructed me to wake my husband and put him on speaker phone. All a while still crying.

Well... Cries of JOY! He proposed to his girlfriend of 7 years and said I had to be the first to know that joy and happieness will be back in our lives.

I am so proud of my son and love them both dearly. Cody would have been so excited and happy for them both. He knew his girlfriend like a sister.


Comment by Donna Messerly on March 31, 2012 at 10:49pm


So glad you had a good day! I had a good day with family today too. It's nice to think of something else every once in awhile, isn't it?


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