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I wasn't ready to say good-bye

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I dont know how much longer i can hold on...

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Comment by Rosemary on September 8, 2015 at 9:23pm
Sandra, I cannot even begin to imagine that horror. I am very sorry for your loss. There are really no words to comfort you I know. My husband took his own life in May 2013. His was not a violent passing. Still, my heart is shattered beyond belief. I attend the survivors of suicide support group in my area. It has been helpful. I pray you have a good support system to hold you up until you can stand again. You are not alone on this journey. Best wishes, Rosemary
Comment by Sandra Gerencher on September 8, 2015 at 8:52pm

I lost my fiance to suicide on June 22nd of this year.  He shot himself in the heart in our bedroom with my gun, while I was folding laundry in the next room.

Comment by Ellen Sheehan on July 27, 2015 at 4:03pm

Blair I lost my husband to suicide last May the past 14 months has been the hardest  ive ever had to survive and get to where i am today and there were times i nearly didnt. I myself took an overdose 6 weeks after he died as i too didnt see a way out of the pain i was feeling luckily for me and believe me when i say i didnt feel that luckyat the time but a good friend of mine couldnt reach me on the phone that night and called to the house (my neighbour has a key ) so thay entered the house and got me to hospitaI was sectioned for my own safety Well as it is im still here but not a day goes past when i dont think to myself why why why and how could he and im sure every person who has lost someone through suicide asks themselves the same questions.I undertstand that at the time you are making the decision to end your life you feel everyone would be better off if you wasnt around anymore but the truth is we are not we live with that everyday.There is always a way out you just need to say the words I NEED HELP these three words are so important and once you have said them and actually except the help then you can begin to starttrying to live again It is not a easy road sometimes harder than you ever imagined It is not as easy as you think saying not to blame ourselves because we are the ones living with the fact that we didnt see it coming or we didnt do enough I know at the end of the day they made the choice but it doesnt make it any easier for us survivors

Comment by Blair Alexandria Gorham on July 26, 2015 at 5:37pm

I know this is a forum for those who have loved ones who took their own lives, and i'm so sorry for your loss. I have though been on the other side of this. This time last year I was in a facility for attempting to take my own life. Ever since I was probably about 5 years old I never quite felt like I belonged here. Unfortunately when you give in to those constant thoughts it's hard to really see that there is a way out. I guess what i'm trying to say is that, you can not blame yourselves for your loved ones not wanting to live anymore. Mental Illness is hard to understand and even harder to treat. 

Psalms 34:18 mentions that God is close to the brokenhearted, He saves those who are crushed in spirit. 

Lean upon him when you're feeling down, and throw all your anxieties on him. Doing this doesn't take my problems away but gives me the strength to get through it. Maybe this can help you too.

Comment by Shann Renae Lundquist on June 25, 2015 at 10:46am

It help me MJ

Comment by MJ on June 24, 2015 at 5:22pm

(John 11:24, 25) Martha said to him: “I know he will rise in the resurrection on the last day.” Jesus said to her: “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who exercises faith in me, even though he dies, will come to life"

Hope in the resurrection can comfort us and give us something to look forward to in the future.

Comment by saie on June 17, 2015 at 6:20pm
I am sorry for it loss many hugs
Comment by MJ on June 17, 2015 at 3:15pm

(Isaiah 26:19) “Your dead will live. My corpses will rise up. Awake and shout joyfully, You residents in the dust! For your dew is as the dew of the morning, And the earth will let those powerless in death come to life."

There is going to be a resurrection! - That hope can be a great comfort.

Comment by MJ on June 17, 2015 at 3:12pm

Comment by Sylvia Townsend on May 24, 2015 at 8:37pm

I don't know if anyone is in my position. I don't even know if I am a survivor of suicide. My friend Lisa was found dead in her home by police making a welfare check at the request of her veterinarian. She had been dead for days. Autopsy didn't show much, just ruled out most natural causes. Overdose of alcohol and drugs, whether intentional or accidental, is a distinct possibility. She suffered from bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, Asberger's syndrome, alcoholism and drug addiction and other self-destructive behaviors. Coroner's report says cause and manner of death are undetermined. Due mostly to severe decomposition which makes the toxicological results impossible to interpret. Not knowing is so hard, and knowing I probably never will know. Sometimes I'm not even sure it matters, because I have little doubt that her death was the result (direct or indirect) of her self-loathing and self-destructiveness. I tried so hard for 18 years to help her, but unfortunately I could not.


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