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I dont know how much longer i can hold on...

Started by Melissa Shuler. Last reply by Angel Jenkins-doyle Mar 11, 2016. 5 Replies

I wasn't ready to say good-bye

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Comment by Blair Alexandria Gorham on July 26, 2015 at 5:37pm

I know this is a forum for those who have loved ones who took their own lives, and i'm so sorry for your loss. I have though been on the other side of this. This time last year I was in a facility for attempting to take my own life. Ever since I was probably about 5 years old I never quite felt like I belonged here. Unfortunately when you give in to those constant thoughts it's hard to really see that there is a way out. I guess what i'm trying to say is that, you can not blame yourselves for your loved ones not wanting to live anymore. Mental Illness is hard to understand and even harder to treat. 

Psalms 34:18 mentions that God is close to the brokenhearted, He saves those who are crushed in spirit. 

Lean upon him when you're feeling down, and throw all your anxieties on him. Doing this doesn't take my problems away but gives me the strength to get through it. Maybe this can help you too.

Comment by Shann Renae Lundquist on June 25, 2015 at 10:46am

It help me MJ

Comment by MJ on June 24, 2015 at 5:22pm

(John 11:24, 25) Martha said to him: “I know he will rise in the resurrection on the last day.” Jesus said to her: “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who exercises faith in me, even though he dies, will come to life"

Hope in the resurrection can comfort us and give us something to look forward to in the future.

Comment by saie on June 17, 2015 at 6:20pm
I am sorry for it loss many hugs
Comment by MJ on June 17, 2015 at 3:15pm

(Isaiah 26:19) “Your dead will live. My corpses will rise up. Awake and shout joyfully, You residents in the dust! For your dew is as the dew of the morning, And the earth will let those powerless in death come to life."

There is going to be a resurrection! - That hope can be a great comfort.

Comment by MJ on June 17, 2015 at 3:12pm

Comment by Sylvia Townsend on May 24, 2015 at 8:37pm

I don't know if anyone is in my position. I don't even know if I am a survivor of suicide. My friend Lisa was found dead in her home by police making a welfare check at the request of her veterinarian. She had been dead for days. Autopsy didn't show much, just ruled out most natural causes. Overdose of alcohol and drugs, whether intentional or accidental, is a distinct possibility. She suffered from bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, Asberger's syndrome, alcoholism and drug addiction and other self-destructive behaviors. Coroner's report says cause and manner of death are undetermined. Due mostly to severe decomposition which makes the toxicological results impossible to interpret. Not knowing is so hard, and knowing I probably never will know. Sometimes I'm not even sure it matters, because I have little doubt that her death was the result (direct or indirect) of her self-loathing and self-destructiveness. I tried so hard for 18 years to help her, but unfortunately I could not.

Comment by MJ on April 9, 2015 at 7:48am

Comforting scripture:

Hosea 13:14

"From the power of the Grave I will redeem them;From death I will recover them."
The Bible promises that our loved ones will come back to life. We have the hope of being able to see them, hug them, and laugh with them again, in the resurrection. (John 5:28, 29)
Comment by Linda Osmon on March 11, 2015 at 9:07pm

Well I guess this is where I start, first time posting hoping this is where I need to be. My name is Linda I am from Gresham, Oregon and I am 58 yrs old. My partner of 24 years Randy took his own life 5 months ago, on November 3rd, 2014. Really struggling with what has happened, lost a big chunk of my life, my best friend someone who told me we would grow old together. On a Sunday we had watch a NASCAR car race, we were big fans, and after that a football game. At 6 pm he said he was going to the store and I never saw him again. I called his cell phone all night with no response. At 7:42 am the next morning, which is time stamped on my phone he called me and told me he was dying. I kept asking him where he was, he wouldn't tell me just told me that I would never find him and once again told me he was dying and hung up the phone. Well they did find him the next day, he had stabbed himself 7 times and slit his wrists in his truck. I am having a hard time wrapping my head around his method of taking his own life, it seems so violent to me and he was not a violent man. I am told though that the method was irrelevant and it was what he had and it was a means to an end. OK?. Also the fact that after 24 years all he could tell me is that he was dying, I struggle with the fact that those were his last words to me, not that he loved me. Everyone keeps telling me that they know how much he loved me. I don't know anything anymore. I'm not going to say he didn't have problems, he was in pain Management for back pain, and he suffered from high blood pressure. He had also had a falling out with his family, nothing that couldn't be fixed. It's all just to much some days, we weren't married which I never cared about. In Oregon though there are no Common-law, laws here to protect me, so every decision was taken out of my hands, and put into the hands of people that weren't even close to him. So not only did I lose him I lost any financial stability I had. That's neither here nor there though , I would give up everything I own just to have him walk back through this door. It's a moment by moment struggle, I know that none of us asked for this unbearable pain, but unfortunately it's ours to bear, I am just still trying to figure out where it belongs and try to find a way back for myself. Thanks for letting me share I need to stop, Take care.

Comment by Carol Mortarotti Mason on March 8, 2015 at 6:26pm

Dear Ellen and others,

I don't think people know what to say to you so they don't say anything. Suicide isn't discussed often and people feel badly for you and just want to cheer you up.  What I do is talk about my ex-husband to friends and family so this opens the door for them to ask questions and help me heal. Unless they've been through it they can't know our pain. It is never ending like an open wound. Don't blame yourself for Kieran's suicide, it was his issues and I am sure he loved you very much. 


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