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Comment by Theresa Sweaney on April 13, 2012 at 3:54pm

I'm doing it.  Here's my page.  Community walk takes place May 12.

Comment by Donna Messerly on April 13, 2012 at 3:45pm

I see there isn't an event in Arizona. I live in Utah, but might like to do one in Phoenix, AZ where my brother was a prominent member of his community.

Comment by Joyce M Rubacky on April 13, 2012 at 3:41pm   

(American Foundation for Suicide Prevention)

you should be able to find any info via the above site


Comment by Donna Messerly on April 13, 2012 at 3:34pm
Comment by Donna Messerly on April 13, 2012 at 3:31pm

Thanks, Gary. I'll do some research on the organization too and see what I can come up with.

Comment by Gary Williams on April 13, 2012 at 3:28pm

Let's do it!, Let's each contact our church or civic organization and try to get a community sponsored Out of the Darkness Walk.  My idea is to set it up around Independance Day, the day my Charlie left us. May be hard on that day due to other events and being a holiday, but I am enthusiastic that we can make this happen.  Joyce, please email me or post more details about this if you would.

Perhaps we could set a date Nationally for all cities and do it together annually.  We know we are not alone!, there are now over 450 members just on this site and I know thousands more are out there that never heard of this site.  Legacy, if you are reading this please also post suggestions.  Together we are stronger, we are NOT alone!, together we could be heard and comforted by our Lord. (And the more people listening to our questions and how the authorities in some cases have sometimes pushed us aside for the ease of "finishing the paperwork" the better, I personally believe my case was handled too quickly but a lot of that was because I didn't want to accept that he had done it or done it alone.  Others have asked me why there wasn't more investigation and I told them to ask the authorities because I don't want to go back over this again :(

I think I've started two seperate topics here, let's concentrate on organizing a Walk to bring us together and Out of the Darkness,  then once we are together we can discuss each others individual struggles as a group like we do here, and Thank you ALL, and God Bless you ALL!

Comment by Donna Messerly on April 13, 2012 at 2:35pm

Congratulations, Joyce. I wish they would have an "Out of the Darkness Walk" in one of my communities. That sounds like such a wonderful idea.

Comment by Joyce M Rubacky on April 13, 2012 at 1:53pm

Well I did it...yesterday marked one year. I'm still standing!  Lately, I think I have been able to nudge the suicide aside just enough to realize how much I miss him. To me, suicide is like this huge boulder that blocks my way and does not allow me to even look past it, let alone walk past it.  Trying to figure out suicide, for me, is next to impossible and so exhausting.  It consumes my every thought.   I am going to participate in a "Out of the Darkness" community walk on Sunday in the town where David lived.  It's the least I could do.  Maybe it will be a cathartic experience for me.

Comment by Karen Campbell on April 11, 2012 at 8:09pm

@ Gloria,  Its been 13 months since my daughter took her life.  It is getting easier,,,however not better.  It never will be better.  I actually got through Easter services with only a few tears...The tears still come sometimes from no where but that's ok.  Tears are cleansing.  I have read that the grieving process can last as long as 5 or more years.  Some people are less and others longer.  There are not set rules.  We all do what we have to do to get through each day.  I still can't say that my daughter did the "S" is too painful to say that word.  We too have doubts that she did this alone.  There are too many questions that the police did not answer for us.  I have contacted the media to print my story and also have submitted to Dateline.  I am having a very difficult time forgiving certain people, especially her ex husband and his entire family, and a "friend" who she trusted to be executor to her will and her "friend" who she trusted as an attorney.  Her sister and I have had to "buy" her things through an auction,,,we even had difficulty getting clothes for her funeral....loooonngg story!!  But keep your faith in the Lord...he never makes mistakes....there is a reason for everything..and all prayers are answered,,,not always like we want but HIS way....we just have to try to see His reasons.  And sometimes we will never know the reason He does things like he does...Just remember we will see our loved ones again.  Jesus died for all our sins (everyone who proclaims Him as their Lord).  I'll be saying prayers for your healing.....

Comment by Margo powell on April 11, 2012 at 2:26pm
You are all very INSPIRING!!!!!!!

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