This is a group for people who are grieving, who have been mocked or ridiculed by friends or family, simply for grieving. I have been mocked ridiculed and screamed at because of my grief.
Latest Conversations: Nov 30, 2018
Started by Debra. Last reply by Jason R May 27, 2014. 2 Replies 1 Like
I have actually had 2 doctors tell me that basically, its been awhile since my son died, and its time I moved on. At the time, on both occasions, I did not respond to what they said. I was shocked.…Continue
When you are told to get over your grief.....people do not know the impact it can have on how a person deals with grief down the road. I was told basically to get over the grief of the death of my mother; now that I have lost my brother - I isolate myself so I can mourn my lost without smiling all day like a clown for the sake of being comforting to others without a sad face.
I isolate myself and it works for me. I do know not everyone can do such., and if I must be in the space of people - my visit is for the purpose and I leave immediately without explaining my grief to anyone.
I've learned that you are given about 2-3 days to get over your grief and then you have to move on. Perhaps you do....but we all have to find a way to navigate around the pain in our life. Our Heavenly Father is love and he expects us to exhibit the same love and patient toward each other.
why shud i get ovr it why shud i get over it i dnt wnt 2 get over it
why shud i be forsed 2 foget abot my dad i cnt i dnt wnt 2 foget thm
why is im not bean ga fair 2 thr fealng
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I have to say that I get tired of people asking me how I am doing. I know that some of them really do care and say it out of love and concern but the truth is, that is not the question to ask someone who has lost a loved one, especially a child. I just tell them that that is probably not a question I need to be asked. I watched a move on UP about a family that lost their son and when a neighbor asked her how she was, she replied, "How do you think I am doing, moron? I am down a child!"
The process of grief/mourning is not the same in everyone. Unfortunately, it is hard for folks to understand. The holidays can be especially hard for some. I don't believe in holding everything in. Seek out friends you can count on( Proverbs 17 :17)
When I was a child I grieved for my mother because she was in so much pain all the time. I walked around like a zombie, but nobody reached out to me. I was totally anti social at the age of 8 and the teachers were angry at me about it. Such a total lack of compassion all these teachers had. If I was male I probably would have been one of those to buy a gun to shoot them.
How sad,people just do not get and they constantly asking How are you doing?I finally told one of my friends(not any more)How in the hell do you think I am!! my son is dead how do you fn think i doing?.Hugs and prayers to you Marsha.
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