I have actually had 2 doctors tell me that basically, its been awhile since my son died, and its time I moved on. At the time, on both occasions, I did not respond to what they said. I was shocked. The thing that struck me the most was that they had not lost a close family member, or they would never have said it. There is no time limit on grief. We are allowed to grieve as much as wish. No one can take that away from us. I think sometimes people push us to "get over it" because they have not dealt with their own grief. They cannot bear to hear the loved one's name because they cannot cope with it. And, when I hear those who have not lost a loved one say these things, I offer a pray for them that they never know how it feels. Ever. The guilt, the longing, the absolute and never-waning need to just hear their voice one more time, see their smile one more time, touch their face one more time. The deals we all attempt to make with God. "I will do anything, Lord, just bring them back to me. Just for a little while." These good physicians have never had these thoughts, and for that I am glad. I just wish they wouldn't begrudge me my own grief. 

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I had my own family to tell me to get over it...I will never get over someone that I birth in the world. That is like I don't exist to tell me to give over them.

It can be very disheartening when others don't understand the pain we feel for our loved one.  However, it is comforting to know that our Creator, Jehovah God, understands our grief. More than that, he longs to use his almighty power to restore life to the dead. Notice the hope conveyed in the words of Job, recorded at Job 14:13-15.

You can learn more about this hope by reading the article “You Will Have a Yearning” on JW.ORG


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