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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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My Dear Family,
Thank you one and all for your positive thoughts and energy, I tend to hold things in until It just comes spilling out. Posting here helped more than me actually telling my biological family and that is sad in a different way. Chuck and I made Christmas cookies yesterday for those within our little circle of friends here in Arlington. Today I am going to make a pear cake (1st time) with a drizzle of icing.
I am actually OK with the procedure because it will make my quality of life much better.
Love to one and all, Merry Christmas and Happy New year!
Steve ... I am so sorry to hear of all the issues you are going through health-wise. It seems even here that so many of my friends are either in hospital or not well and just before Christmas. My brother had prostate surgery and is doing well and so will you. Sometimes just the thought of what they'll be doing surgery-wise is frightening. My brother is also on blood thinners and has been for a long time so no worries for your uncle other than he should be careful not to cut himself accidently and if he should bleed go to ER as soon as possible or call an ambulance. There is hope my friend and you are going to do much better in 2020. I'm praying for you and Chuck.
Speedy recovery in January my dear brother.
Oh Steve..I can promise you it will get better...I don,t mean to diminish your pain and medical issues..but sometimes when things happen during the Christmas season..they seem to get better with the new year.
About 20 years ago, Bob had a very bad time, unable to urinate. He was terrified of seeing a doctor..(lifelong fear of a cancer diagnosis..) so he suffered for almost 8 months, thinking if he relaxed and lied on the bed with a “receptacle” (waaay TMI..sorry..)he would b able to do what needed to be done...he even took a vacation to,Amsterdam with Melinda, in that condition...(it was a free trip, I couldn,t go cuz we had gone the year b4, and my employer wouldn,t give me another two week vacation) Anyway, he FINALLY saw a urologist..and it was so simple...he had his prostrate removed..an easy procedure, that hE kicked himself for delaying. Ironically, that was during the holidays too. (
Someday I will tell y’all about the amazing thing Bob did for me, during this time, while waiting for his surgery, wearing a catheter for a few weeks..) Lemmee know if anyone wants to hear that story,..he did a very awesome, selfless act...I’m still blown away, after all these years.
It sucks that as we age, our bodies fall apart..just when our brains and attitudes are at their best, our parts stop working. Your uncle should b ok on the blood thinners..Bob took them for YEARS..finally had a pacemaker put in, and never looked back. We are fortunate to live when many health issues can be resolved by modern medicine.
Please keep the positive attitude...and I am sorry about the anniversary that none of us want to remember...but you know Mark is still here, watching over you, and always will be.
Wow Steve, you have a lot on your plate right now, so sorry about all the health issues, I hope the New Year is a better one for all of us and you will find peace with your health.
I too am trying to get into the Christmas sprit, this year seems almost as bad as my first Christmas without Mark.
This past November has been full of challenges, Chuck's great Halloween scare, followed by my diagnosis of osteoporosis in the area of my radiation treatments, then my visit to my urologist to find out why my incontinence returned and is not getting better. Surgery was his only option, again tissue weakened by the radiation treatments. I will have an implant placed inside to assist the urethra to open and close as needed and controlled by me. Too much information on that I will leave out. Just before Thanksgiving my uncle fell and was hospitalized until they got his bleeding stopped. He takes blood thinners. Nov 30 was Mark's 5th anniversary of his passing and today I get my infusion shot to help with the osteoporosis, Jan 2nd is surgery, will come home the next day and wait 6 weeks for recovery.
Chuck keeps me laughing even though I see his worry for me.
The only thing i can say is " this to shall pass". Thanks for letting me vent.
I am confident that all will turn out for the better and look forward to a new and better year for all of us.
Love and hugs to all
Trying to get into the Christmas spirit this year but not really feeling it. Every year since Greg passed I try to get my kids and grandkids an Auburn tigers football item as that was Gregs team so I try to incorporate him into our holidays, this year I got all the girls and Auburn charm bracelet and the boys a wallet and a hoodie, just my way of him still being a part of it all.I still put up an Auburn Christmas tree but this year the decorations are on the porch tree as my grandkids asked me to do it this way, maybe its easier for them? Going to finish up the rest of my shopping today (online) then meeting my daughter to go see Meet me in St, Louis, at the movies tonight so that should be fun,its one of our favorite classics, hope you all have a great day
I am so sorry Deborah P. My heart goes out to you and your family. I always wonder why many people choose holidays to leave this life..but they do. In a sense, it seems like a wonderful sort of logistics gift they leave us..as their families are already gathered.
If this sounds horrible, I apologize, but I KNOW Bob chose the timing of his own death. I think your B I L also did. I find it sort of comforting that humans with lengthy illnesses have some control over the end of their lives.
I wish you and your family love and support..as you begin this process of grieving.
Dear Deborah P,
So sorry to hear of the loss of your brother-inlaw, loss of a loved one in anyone's family affects the whole family. Prayers for you and your family. As Marsha said, holidays are the worst time for any of us.
As each year passes, I still tend to withdraw from social activities and from my family. Old habits are hard to overcome.
Hugs to you and your family
Dear Deborah P ..
My deepest condolences on the passing of your brother-in-law. I am so sorry to hear that he has passed away and being so close to Christmas like you and the rest of us we know that terrible journey your sister will be going through. You certainly have my prayers each night.
my family has been going thru a lot this past week, my brother in law was in the hospital and they sent him home on hospice so we were all split up for the holiday and all wanting to be together but my sister has such a small condo we couldn't be but we all took turns going there. Early this morning he passed away and while he is at peace my sister Sheris journey has just begun and we all know how painful that is. So prayers or well wishes sent our way would be great, I too am glad to see everyone posting again, maybe we should all jump on here once a week just to keep everyone updated and say hi.
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