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Bereaved Spouses

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.

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Comment by deborah peck on June 18, 2019 at 8:57am

so sorry Mary Jane that this has all been so hard on you, soon it will all be done and you will be settled in your new home and will look back on all this chaos and laugh at all the craziness, know we are all rooting for you

Comment by Mary. Jane on June 18, 2019 at 7:50am

My daughter has to leave the 23rd..and the buyers r gone until the first. I can’t sign the papers until then as the r gone till then. Thatacwhatcwas written in the contract that I signed and my realtor  lied and said she was sure they would move the date to b4 the 23rd. She was wrong. 

NOTE TO EVERYONE. IF IT ISN,T WRITTEN IT ISN,T INFORCEABLE.

sorry I am typing in the dim light all my lamps r packed. 

Comment by Marsha H on June 17, 2019 at 5:17am

Steve G ...  I am so happy you enjoyed it.  What I like about it is the figure at the end of the bridge you can't tell who or what it is as I didn't want to offend anyone who has a different belief system than myself.  It's beautiful and I feel peace from her paintings.

Comment by Marsha H on June 17, 2019 at 5:15am

Mary.Jane ...  So sorry that things aren't going as planned for you.  Why couldn't you have left the keys with the Realtor and leave with your daughter?  Your Realtor made promises that should have been kept.  Your daughter is truly amazing.  I know your kitty will give you great comfort.  I do feel for you and I know you have various health issues and can't drive and movers are very expensive.  I was thinking of moving as well, but I look around at everything and wouldn't have much help packing so I'm staying where I am.

I believe that he is waiting for you wherever you're going to live so hold onto that thought.

Comment by Marsha H on June 17, 2019 at 5:11am

Deborah ...  Thanks for letting us know that you didn't get much damage to your home.  Thanks for the pictures and it was scary so can see why you were so worried.

Comment by Mary. Jane on June 16, 2019 at 11:12pm

Deborah I am so happy your home didn,t get too much damage. Around here, some folks lost everything.

i May not be on here much the next few weeks. I have sold my house, and it has been a huge nightmare..the buyers are not at all flexible, even after I met their good faith requests with an open heart...they refused to budge n the closing date, that my realtor assured me they would...so,I have to,leave one week later by myself and kitty..without my daughter to assist me with the flight..she has to go back home on the 23rd and I must vacate on the first...the movers are coming on the 29th we are closing on the first...so we are packing everything now...and i don,t DRIVE..so the realtor has to take me to the hotel, the airport, and it cost me another $200 to,change the flight reservation...it has been one thing after another...

Today I got up, and got sick from all the stress...and went back to bed all day while Melinda packed. She is EXTRODINARY!!!  So now I am a week late arriving at my new house..no furniture, no bed...just me and Rudy the wonder kitty. 

Honestly, THIS relocation has been almost worse than when Bob died.

Tomorrow would have been our 52nd anniversary. And, i haven,t been able to feel him here like I used to.

Everything that could possibly go,wrong HAS gone wrong with this move. Since I am old, this move across country is costing me my life savings. Just the movers alone will be around $9000. Thank God for the most wonderful daughter I could have ever hoped for...I am down to a few dishes, toiletries, etc, as I am only 4’9” tall, and disabled, so she has to pack everything now..while I wait one week for the buyers to return from their vacation. 

Thank you for letting me vent. I will have Internet service for another week...then don,t know when I can get WiFi in California.

Comment by Steve G. on June 16, 2019 at 5:36pm

Deborah Peck, relieved that your home was spared and you are ok.

Hugs to you

Comment by Steve G. on June 16, 2019 at 5:34pm

Thank you Marsha, she has captured our very essence and the light we look for.

Comment by Marsha H on June 16, 2019 at 3:00pm

Hello my friends ....

This video is about the little Russian girl (now 21 years old) that was blessed with a talent of paintings that are amazing.  I hope it gives you comfort and peace and to know one day we will be with our spouses once again.  Please Google more of this young woman's paintings as it will take your breath away.

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MqjGLFNmorg

Much love & peace

Marsha

Comment by deborah peck on June 16, 2019 at 9:43am

Dear Francis, I am so sorry that you have joined this group of grieving people but know this is a truly caring group who have a lot of good advice and always an ear to listen no matter what you post we don't judge.  I lost my 2nd husband 2 years ago and its still so hard, I still refer to our bedroom as ours, its, his dresser, his sink, and so on. You don't ever have to let go of the love you've shared Its never time to do anything you aren't ready for, I still wear my wedding rings, I still have some of his clothes in our closet, I think its all a personal decision I still go back in forth between yelling at him for not being here and telling him I knw hes at peace. I totally believe they send us signs. my 1st husband did a lot, Greg my 2nd husband not so much but I know when Im at peace hes around more, Please don't fear anything you say on here, Ive poured my heart out to whoever would listen and gotten good advice, have a good day, Debby 

 

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