Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by deborah peck on June 19, 2019 at 8:55am

Francis, yes it is slowely getting cleaned up, my family is coming over Saturday if its dry enough to try to get the flower beds back together. yes I am truly blessed not to have to redo inside of house, so many here in Missouri now have homes underwater, so very sad. Hope you are having a good day today

Comment by Frances C Younger on June 19, 2019 at 7:58am

Aye, Deborah.  Your yard, minus the fish, add little frogs, looks like mine in 1999.  I remember the odor, but it will finally go.  I remember how blessed I felt when others around me actually lost their homes.  When I drank my coffee in the mornings and looked out the window, I had a sense of being on Noah's ark.  We are going to sink or swim.  You got this girl!

Comment by Marsha H on June 18, 2019 at 3:44pm

Mary.Jane ...  Shame on the realtor.  Often they are just over anxious about selling the client's house instead of protecting their client.  I agree with Deborah that once this is over with and you are settled in you will look back on it and have a few laughs.  Know that we're all here for you to help  in any way we can.  

Comment by deborah peck on June 18, 2019 at 8:57am

so sorry Mary Jane that this has all been so hard on you, soon it will all be done and you will be settled in your new home and will look back on all this chaos and laugh at all the craziness, know we are all rooting for you

Comment by Mary. Jane on June 18, 2019 at 7:50am

My daughter has to leave the 23rd..and the buyers r gone until the first. I can’t sign the papers until then as the r gone till then. Thatacwhatcwas written in the contract that I signed and my realtor  lied and said she was sure they would move the date to b4 the 23rd. She was wrong. 


sorry I am typing in the dim light all my lamps r packed. 

Comment by Marsha H on June 17, 2019 at 5:17am

Steve G ...  I am so happy you enjoyed it.  What I like about it is the figure at the end of the bridge you can't tell who or what it is as I didn't want to offend anyone who has a different belief system than myself.  It's beautiful and I feel peace from her paintings.

Comment by Marsha H on June 17, 2019 at 5:15am

Mary.Jane ...  So sorry that things aren't going as planned for you.  Why couldn't you have left the keys with the Realtor and leave with your daughter?  Your Realtor made promises that should have been kept.  Your daughter is truly amazing.  I know your kitty will give you great comfort.  I do feel for you and I know you have various health issues and can't drive and movers are very expensive.  I was thinking of moving as well, but I look around at everything and wouldn't have much help packing so I'm staying where I am.

I believe that he is waiting for you wherever you're going to live so hold onto that thought.

Comment by Marsha H on June 17, 2019 at 5:11am

Deborah ...  Thanks for letting us know that you didn't get much damage to your home.  Thanks for the pictures and it was scary so can see why you were so worried.

Comment by Mary. Jane on June 16, 2019 at 11:12pm

Deborah I am so happy your home didn,t get too much damage. Around here, some folks lost everything.

i May not be on here much the next few weeks. I have sold my house, and it has been a huge nightmare..the buyers are not at all flexible, even after I met their good faith requests with an open heart...they refused to budge n the closing date, that my realtor assured me they,I have to,leave one week later by myself and kitty..without my daughter to assist me with the flight..she has to go back home on the 23rd and I must vacate on the first...the movers are coming on the 29th we are closing on the we are packing everything now...and i don,t the realtor has to take me to the hotel, the airport, and it cost me another $200 to,change the flight has been one thing after another...

Today I got up, and got sick from all the stress...and went back to bed all day while Melinda packed. She is EXTRODINARY!!!  So now I am a week late arriving at my new furniture, no bed...just me and Rudy the wonder kitty. 

Honestly, THIS relocation has been almost worse than when Bob died.

Tomorrow would have been our 52nd anniversary. And, i haven,t been able to feel him here like I used to.

Everything that could possibly go,wrong HAS gone wrong with this move. Since I am old, this move across country is costing me my life savings. Just the movers alone will be around $9000. Thank God for the most wonderful daughter I could have ever hoped for...I am down to a few dishes, toiletries, etc, as I am only 4’9” tall, and disabled, so she has to pack everything now..while I wait one week for the buyers to return from their vacation. 

Thank you for letting me vent. I will have Internet service for another week...then don,t know when I can get WiFi in California.

Comment by Steve G. on June 16, 2019 at 5:36pm

Deborah Peck, relieved that your home was spared and you are ok.

Hugs to you


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