Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Keeping you and Steve in my thoughts and prayers as your go through this difficult experience.
Sending love to you both and healing vibes to Steve.
Hope Steve's surgery is successful and completes what needs to be done. Stay safe and take care!
Please tell Steve he's in our thoughts and prayers. So sorry both of you have to go through this. I know how emotionally draining it can be. Call if there's anything I can do. Love Jenni
Just letting you all know that Steve is having out-patient surgery this afternoon. This is the second in 2 months, and while there is no major cause for concern, it's still surgery and I hate seeing him go through this again. We are managing, but as you all know this brings up for us all kinds of "background noise" surrounding illnesses, hospitals, etc. I will post again tonight to let you all know how he is - how we both are - and can already feel the support and strength coming our way from everyone who reads this. Hugs and love to all from us both
Steve....Thinking about you on this 6th anniversary. I'm glad you re-posted this poem. I remember reading it before but now I'm going to copy it so I'll have it. It's a nice reminder that our loved ones are right by our side
Thinking of you today and sending you love and prayers as you give thanks for your soulmate and best friend Mark today. He will always be with you.
Me and Mark were together for 26 years, he always saw the silver lining in everything, I was worried about too much. He would always tell me "we will get thru this" and he was right, we always did.
You are welcome and I thank you for sharing,
Thank you Steve G.
in 15 days it will be a year since Bridgett died. I feel her with me most of the time... standing next to me whispering...You can do it.. especially wound the many technology issues that have risen up this past year. I feel her closer by me as the days move into months into a year. She will always be a part of me... As you said so wonderfully. Bridgett too taught me to how to love, how to as i say "sit and stay" in a relationship. For 24 years i sat, i stayed and i am so so happy i got to have her in my life for as long as i did.
Six years have passed since my best friend, soul mate and the one person that taught me how to love and trust someone so completely, Mark William Cava. He is now at peace and in my heart forever, now I remember all of the good memories with a fondness that I never thought I could.
I found this poem during the first year of his passing, it puts into words exactly how I feel this day:
For those who believe:I wish I could tell you of all that God has plannedBut if I were to tell you, you wouldn’t understandBut one this is for certain though my life on earth is o’reI am closer to you now than I was ever beforeAnd to my very many friends, trust God knows what is bestI’m still not far away from you, I’m just beyond the crestThere are rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climbBut together we can do it taking one day at a timeIt was always my philosophy and I’d like it for you tooThat as you give unto the world so the world will give to youIf you can help somebody who is in sorrow or in painThen you can say to God at night my day was not in vainAnd now I am contented that my life was worthwhileKnowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smileSo if you meet somebody who is down and feeling lowJust lend a hand to pick him/her up as on your way you go.When you are walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind,I’m walking in your footsteps only half a step behindAnd when you feel the gentle breeze or the wind upon your faceThat’s me giving you a great big hug or just a soft embraceAnd when it’s time for you to go from that body to be freeRemember you’re not going you are coming here to me.I will always love you.Anonymous
The way I greet our newcomers is as sorry as I am that you had to find us, I'm glad that you did find us. When I started this group not long after I lost Kris, I figured there might be 5 or 10 people who would join. To see how large this group has become humbles me, as much as I wish it only needed to be a group of 5-10 people, but as we know, such, sadly, is life.
As Mary Jane said so well, you will start to heal. My Mom told me after she lost my Dad, you never "get over it" which is true, however, you become a new person because of your journey that several years from now when you look back at what you are saying, thinking and doing you will be amazed at how far you've come.
After I lost Kris, I became very disoriented in my life, which scared me because I was a very organized person, sometimes possibly overly so. I learned that for me, this was normal and OK. These are phrases you will probably hear a lot, especially from us. What you are going through is normal for your journey and how you are thinking and feeling are right for you. Never let anyone, family or friends, tell you how you "should" grieve, although there are those who will, sometimes well meaning, sometimes because they will be uncomfortable with you displaying any emotions. Do not let them get to you, this is your journey, not theirs.
Another piece of advice I always give is to contact your local hospice. Many of them have programs that you can sign up for. During my initial time I had a companion who came by weekly during the first year, then monthly during the second. He was a great help, especially when I figured out that my then stepson had managed to hack into our bank account and was stealing from me. They also put me in an excellent group, which really helped because I realized that I was not alone, there were other people going through what I was going through, which gave me, oddly enough, a sense of security.
I thank you for putting your trust in us, I hope we can continually earn that trust.
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