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Comment by Peg Otley on April 13, 2010 at 5:41pm
Today is 4 months since I lost the love of my life. I am just walking around in a daze. The loss is devastating. Harry had just retired the year before and was in good health until he started getting back aches and refused to get it checked. 5 months later' he was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. The 6 months he lived afterwards were lived doing as much as he could with the family....especially the grandchildren. We were going to watch them grow up together and now I'm alone. It is just devastating.
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 13, 2010 at 12:52pm
What a blessing to have your parents and sons.Maybe that's why you are so kind!!
Comment by Yvonne on April 13, 2010 at 9:59am
Today I am going to my Mom and Dads to help Mom transplant seedlings in her greenhouse. New life and hope. Mom and Dad have been my rock. I am so grateful to them. Dad is 80 and Mom is 77, but look and act at least 20 years younger. When Larry passed away, Mom just took over our house and looked after us, now Dad is making plans and recruiting help for some projects that need to be done at the lodge. They are the only ones besides our sons that want to talk about Larry. I can never thank them enough and you know...they don't expect to be thanked, it's just how they are.
Comment by Sara on April 13, 2010 at 9:27am
I hate the word "widow" too!! I often think it's because I am only 41, and I NEVER thought I would be dealing with so much at my age as well as our daughters who are only 16,13, and 11..I just wish our life could go back to the way it was 8 months ago.
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 13, 2010 at 6:59am
Trust me Tom,I hate that term too!Sorry it conjured up such bad memories.I promise not to use that term again,MeCulpa!Glad you spoke to that old friend.Probably did both of you some good.
Comment by Yvonne on April 12, 2010 at 7:45pm
I understand Tom. It is something that none of us have ever wanted. I hate the term "widow". I don't know why...it is just a word. I guess it is because I never wanted to be one and truthfully had never given much thought to. There I was blindly thinking we would always be together. I guess I never expected to lose him so soon. Larry was only 57. Some days I feel so cheated, then chastise myself for being so selfish. We were married for 38 wonderful years and I should be grateful for that. I want more!!!!!!!! I am so lonely and feel lost without him. I am very capable of carrying on by myself but some days it is very hard. I am so grateful for everyone on this site, here we can vent, cry and feel safe because everyone understands.
Take care Yvonne
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 12, 2010 at 9:47am
Jan,Welcome to "Our Club"!One we never wanted to join!Sorry about your loss.If you just need an ear to bend or Ask a Question,this is the place.Bare your soul if you need to.There are some very insightful people here.They have helped me alot.And it is nice to share without being judged.
Comment by Janice Kelly on April 12, 2010 at 7:56am
Hi...my name is Jan and I lost my husband of 46 years on this past Valentine's Day. I just found this site, and am looking for help anywhere I can find it. This seemed like a good place to start since every one of you know what I am going through. I'm not even sure if this is where I am supposed to introduce myself. If it isn't, then I apologize, and maybe someone could direct me to the right spot. (I'm not real good with the computer.)
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 11, 2010 at 6:19am
Tom,no tee shirts but I have some nice paintings on velvet!!!
Comment by jan on April 11, 2010 at 2:55am
Dear Sheila, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband of 32 yrs in dec to cancer. He was the love of my life and we had a great marriage. we have two sons one lives with me. The other comes to visit and gets upset when I cry I think he thinks I should be done with that now..unless you have been thru it you have no idea. As far as your family just hang in there can u tell your sisters its too much for you now. You need to take care of you now. Its hard but you can do it. Keep your chin up. Better days are coming.....at least that's what they tell me!!!!! Jan
 

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