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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Latest Conversations: Sep 29
This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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My dear friend Trina ... I am so sorry I alarmed a few of you, but I'm still not getting any of the posts in my 'in box' so I thought it was just quiet or others had gone over to Facebook. I have missed many of you.
Thank you as always for the wonderful compliments you always give me and I so appreciate them. Right now I have been very busy with 4 friends with cancer which keeps me hopping. Lets say I sure pray a lot these days.
I am so happy that video with the beautiful music and nature's pictures helped you through a bad Saturday night and I do play it before I leave the computer to go to bed. It's soothing. I actually do go on many nature walks with my dogs and it does help mentally and of course physically. Silence is golden and I am in awe of the beautiful scenery where I walk and all the wildlife around it.
I too try to plan the weekends the best I can and it can get one down at times. Mostly, I am successful having a girlfriend come over or going out to a movie or dinner. Even one day out of a weekend doing this helps.
Never think I have ever forgotten you or others as I always bounce back when you least expect it. May peace be with you my dear friend. Joseph is right there as is Ernie with me.
Sara you are so kind to think of me. Honestly, for some reason no postings were coming into my 'in box' and not even jeanette's post. Have no idea why.
I haven't forgotten any of you, but thought everyone had gone over to Facebook.
I hope and pray you are doing well dear Sara.
Dear Jeanete: I am so sorry for your loss. We all grieve differently, you grief for loving memories of your husband, while your son grieves for his father figure and unfortunately the way he passed. I would suggest that you calmly talk to your son and ask him if he would sit home one night with you and if he agrees let him talk first. Ask him how he is coping with his father's death and talk about it, hug, cry together and then you tell him how you feel. End the conversation by saying that being honest with each other's feeling will make you both stronger and it does! If he shouldn't want to talk to you then suggest he seek some grief counseling or at least talk to a good friend. Perhaps he has a friend that had a great loss as well. Please don't worry because grief takes time and it will work out in the end.
Absolutely yes, your grandchildren need child counseling because they experienced the trauma. If your grandchildren are 18 or over you can't force them to seek help, but at suggest to them to talk it out with a friend and ask if they have a friend the can converse with.
I hope this answers your question and again, grief takes time (that ugly word) and time does heal the aching and longing for that person although none of you will ever forget him.
Hugs because you need one
Today I made the mistake of taking a nap. I felt depressed and very alone. I dreamt of being depressed and alone. Called my son and unloaded on him. Now I feel bad for adding to his pain. I am also worried about my grandchildren. Two of them were with my husband when he had his accident and saw everything. they won't talk about it. They must have been traumatized. Anyone else have experience with this? Should I insist my son get them counseling?
Steve.......I, like Mary Jane, can't entertain the thought that your cancer has returned. I assume you've stopped taking the Humira. The commercial I saw for that tonight was Crohn's disease so apparently it's prescribed for more than one issue. Needless to say, you and Chuck are in my prayers. I wish I could give you both a hug in person but I'll have to settle for sending a virtual hug.
Marsha....It's good to hear from you. I've been worried. I've been wanting to post and ask if you were okay but figured if you weren't coming to the site for some reason, then you wouldn't see it. I guess you can't trust your email :)
Thank you for your kind understanding of my feelings. As always, you share so much of yourself with us, and it always helps me past the point words can convey. I had been wanting to say something to you weeks ago when you were facing you own anniversary, but couldn't corral my thoughts into anything even remotely coherent. I am sorry for my silence at that time, but my love and prayers were with you .
Making sense of my thoughts and feelings right now is becoming challenging at best - sometimes impossible. Tomorrow, August 27th, was the date in 1983 that I sat in a restaurant with Larry, my brother, and two friends in Massachusetts. We had been to visit my mother in the hospital that afternoon. She was in the final stages of her battle with lymphoma, and my father wouldn't leave her side to join us. After the main course, waiting for coffee, I stood up, looked into Larry's eyes across the table, and asked him if he would do me the honor of spending the rest of his life with me. To my amazement, he didn't hesitate and answered "yes".
What led me to such a bold move, and what transpired in the following days are things I want to write as a story the way I used to post awhile back. I hope the newer members will forgive my indulging in using a third person format in my memoir. Until later -
Steve...I will not even entertain the thought that your cancer might have returned. Humira is a HORRIBLE drug...and one of my closest friends has psoriatic arthritis..and she was given that...but I cannot remember if it was by injection..and she had a terrible reaction. I will ask her the details tomorrow. The only thing she can take for that condition are steroids, nothing else works for her pain...and since they are bad for people the Drs don,t want to give her too much...so she just sucks it up and lives with it.
I think it is terrible they don,t test these designer drugs like they used to...they just cave to Big Pharma and use us as quinie pigs. Stay strong, my friend we will all be praying for you.
Thinking of you today and sending prayers for strength and courage. I know exactly what you mean by hearing the news about Senator John McCain. For you especially, as your beloved husband passed from glioblastoma.
All day yesterday this news brought back the day when Joseph and I learned of his terminal condition. I can only imaging how it must be for you with your husband Bill's anniversary of passing today. So many things trigger the extreme pangs of pain and loss.
May you have the strength to make it through the day. And may the good memories you shared with your husband bring comfort and relief.
Very sorry for your loss. Losing one's beloved spouse/life partner is one of the cruelest and toughest of all human experiences. I wish you strength, courage, and forbearance as you try to grapple with your irreparable loss. The "What ifs" make the bereavement even more painful. There are no answers, unfortunately. Perhaps for some there is?
Take care of yourself and visit this forum to find support and understanding.
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