Bereaved Spouses

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


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Comment by Charles E. Nelson on May 4, 2020 at 9:24pm

Dear Marsha,

Count me among the many who were worried about not seeing you here - I'm sorry about you losing your friend. Also, with the anniversary of Ernie's passing and worries about another friend you indeed have much to deal with. I'm just glad I wasn't forced to go to extreme measures to force you out into the open - but seriously, I'm relieved that you are alright. Sometimes we don't realize how much we count on people being there for us until confronted with the possibility - or worse the tragic reality - of them not being there at all.

Stay safe, and know that from a far distance away Steve and I are sending big hugs and prayers -

Love, Chuck 

Comment by Sara Murphy on May 4, 2020 at 8:27pm

Deb...I'm sorry you have such a tough month ahead of you made even more difficult by the physical distancing.  I've been wanting to plant a tree for Ken.  I may put that on my list of things to do this year although more specifically, it'll be on my list of things to have someone else do for me.

Lean on us to help you get through this month.  Take care of yourself and stay safe.


Comment by Sara Murphy on May 4, 2020 at 8:18pm

Hi Marsha...Good to hear from you.  Glad you're hanging in there despite all you have going on with your girlfriend's recent passing, your other friends' difficulties and of course, the anniversary of Ernie's passing. 

I live in Mass which will be one of the last states in the U.S. to begin opening back up.  I'm grateful to be able to work from home.  It's keeps my mind busy during the day.

I'm thinking of everyone and hope you're all doing well.

Sending virtual hugs


Comment by Marsha H on May 3, 2020 at 4:21pm

Dear Deborah P ...

I am so sorry you have so much to grieve for, but very proud of you for planting that tree for Greg and I always feel they are around us and know what we're doing for them.  Like you, I get out in the garden and it seems to calm me down.    This virus has magnified everything in our lives and certainly gives us more time to think of our loved ones.  

I've been trying to keep busy, but find having to stay home more often I'm losing energy.  LOL  We've had rain so that just piles on more for staying in.  Today thankfully has sunny breaks so will take the dogs for a walk.

Hope you are feeling a bit better and know we're here for you.  I am finally getting the posts in my 'in box.'  Hurrah!

Take care my friend.



Comment by Mary. Jane on May 3, 2020 at 1:44pm

Ok now it is the same as usual...

Deborah..I know u can get through it..I remember last year, when this same date was coming..we will be here for you..

Comment by Mary. Jane on May 3, 2020 at 1:41pm
Oh Deborah..that really sucks. But we are here to help you get through it..

(ok is it me, or is everything here DIFFERENT? The layout, font, size if lettering..everything looks like old html words etc .
Comment by deborah peck on May 3, 2020 at 10:42am

Yesterday was Gregs birthday, I kept busy by planting him a tree and then I cleaned flower beds and did a lot of other planting, May is a hard month for me anymore, Its his birthday, then the day he passed, mothers day, the day my mom passed, then my first hubby and mine anniversary, so wish I could just skip this month. But yesterday I just kept busy and I try to remind myself that they are just dates. I will be glad when we can be out and about freely again although I plan to stay home for awhile and see what happens after everyone is out again. Stay safe my friends

Comment by Marsha H on May 2, 2020 at 6:12am

My dear friends ...

I am so sorry I haven't posted, but not getting anything in my 'in box' notifying me.  Had this problem before.  I checked a couple of weeks ago and no one was posting.  I appreciate all of you caring as to how I am.

I know this virus has been tough on everyone.  We are a little more fortunate in British Columbia than parts of the U.S., but still line-ups to get into Costco and a few other grocery stores; all restaurants closed, but people can have food delivered from their kitchens and places like Tim Horton's you can use the drive-through.  Numbers are going down as to how many people are getting the virus (most survive) and it's the nursing homes that are hit badly.  I live alone with my 2 dogs and it can get lonely even though I get numerous phone calls.  Thankfully I have good neighbors to the right of me that keep a look-out for me and I do the same for them.

I also just recently had a very close girlfriend pass away unexpectedly and it was a big shock for me.  I knew she had cancer, but from what she told me she was winning the battle.  Unfortunately, because of this virus her memorial won't be until all is safe from this virus.  My other dear girlfriend had her husband pass away last April 27th and the odd thing of it is that her husband passed away on the same month and day as my Ernie did.  I have been very supportive for my girlfriend and we talk often on the phone.  Then she got the bad news that her 47 year old daughter has cancer and it's one problem after the other and it's not looking good so I'm there for my girlfriend as best I can.  

Still take my dogs for a walk and go grocery shopping and I'm dizzy from all the arrows pointing here and there up the aisles and generally it's not the aisle I want.  LOL  I've been talking to my dogs a lot and good Lord, they are talking back to me and with attitude!  Rain or shine they want their walk.  I can't tell where my hairline and my eyebrows are anymore. :)  I've been eating so much I've had to change the light in my fridge twice!  Gotta keep walking my dogs.

I'm tough, I'll be OK and thanks to my angels for caring.  I hope all of you are coping well and I do think of all of you.

Lots of Love & Hugs


Comment by Mary. Jane on April 30, 2020 at 1:13pm

I Don,t have  the patience to look for a word that might be a no no, etc..which prevents our posts. 51 days stuck inside..I am NOT mellow any longer.   

Comment by Mary. Jane on April 30, 2020 at 1:11pm

Hi Steve and Trina..this site is acting up again..wrote longer post, but it kept blocking it..I couldn,t get itnto go through. 


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