Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Sara Murphy on January 7, 2020 at 11:38am
I'm glad to hear Steve's recovering nicely. It was funny to see you write "Nurse Ratchet" as there were a few times Ken referred to me as such but always light hearted as he knew everything I did was always in his best interest.
Comment by Charles E. Nelson on January 7, 2020 at 1:40am

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to wish all a Happy New Year, filled with peace  in our hearts and good health especially!

Steve is getting his strength back more every day, and his pain is tolerable. I am doing my best to take care without hovering, and have only a few times had to throw the switch from Florence Nightingale to Nurse Ratchet when I fear for something he is trying to do.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the love, prayers, and support that you have been sending our way - believe me that I truly felt it while sitting in Steve's  hospital room those 24 hours following surgery. You guys are the best family I have or could hope for - and this site has both saved and changed my life in ways I never would have dreamed possible.

My prayer for us all is that our good days far outnumber the bad, that our memories bring smiles along with the tears, and that we all keep in touch with each other when we need comfort and support - that's what got me through the past week for certain!

Love and many hugs,


Comment by deborah peck on January 6, 2020 at 9:47am

So happy to hear everything is well Steve, now relax and let Chuck baby you

Comment by Steve G. on January 5, 2020 at 11:43am

Surgery went well.  Now healing begins!

Got home late Saturday afternoon, hospital took good care of me and Chuck.  There was a couch he slept on in the room, they gave him pillows, blanket, sheets and meals in the room when they brought mine.

Thank you all for your prayers.

Comment by deborah peck on January 5, 2020 at 11:03am

I decided this New Years Eve to go to my daughters to play games with her and her girls, had a lot of fun and ate way to much junk. As 11 approached I started to get the now familiar panicky feeling in my stomach so I went home, didn't want to see the new year in as it just brings pain that Its another year without my Greg, so I went home and got in the jacuzzi with the loud jets on so I couldn't hear the fireworks going on, like it was not going to happen if I didn't hear it. This May will be 3 years for me and at times it seems unbearable although the initial drowning feeling is no longer there all the time so that is good. I think trying to help my sister who lost her husband on Dec 1st is throwing all the feelings back in my face or so it seems. I packed up her husbands things for storage as she is moving down the street from me and then was up all night replaying Gregs death,, not sure how to distance myself from all those flashbacks and be there for her at the same time. She was the one sister that was nt there for me when Greg passed as I kicked her and her husband out of my house for fighting (arguing) when Greg was at home on hospice, he passed that very day, I just couldn't tolerate it, here I was losing my love and they were fighting over petty things that weren't important. But I want to be there for her as I know how important it is to have that support so please say a prayer for me that I find strength for this new journey. I hope everyone has happiness and love in this new year

Comment by deborah peck on January 5, 2020 at 10:45am

Steve, I hope your surgery went well and you are now home tucked in your own bed, praying for a speedy recovery

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Comment by Mary. Jane on December 31, 2019 at 11:15pm

Happy New Year everyone...and Chuck our hearts will be with you...


Comment by Steve Cain on December 31, 2019 at 11:59am


Wow, not a fun way to start the year, surgery on just the 2nd day of the year! I know the feeling to some extent as my wife will be facing intestinal surgery sometime in February, after having just had hernia surgery August 30. 

Best wishes for a speedy recovery with as little pain as possible. Keep us informed how everything is going when you feel up to it.

Comment by Sara Murphy on December 31, 2019 at 11:39am
Steve.....I'm trying to catch up on my reading as I fell behind trying to deal with the holiday's and I see you're having surgery on Thursday. Sending my positive thoughts your way and will be praying for a speedy recovery. Chuck, I'll also be thinking of you on Thursday.
Happy New Year to everyone!
Love, Sara

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