Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Steve G. on May 3, 2019 at 1:53pm

Very beautiful and peaceful looking Deborah.

When I decided to place Mark's ashes in a planter with a small sapling of Crepe Myrtle last year, I was unable to move it inside the nights we had below freezing temps in the teens.  I was sure it did not survive, so I place some pansies around the bare sticks that was his tree, and decided that if Mark was happy (along with Bella's ashes) then it would come back.  Which it did, and it is growing ever so fast with all the spring rain.

Glad that you made it through Greg's birthday and that you are doing as well as possible.  

Take care dear friend and know that we are all here for you anytime.



Comment by Charles E. Nelson on May 3, 2019 at 11:03am

Dear Deborah,

What a lovely photo, and an even lovelier idea to have Greg's ashes kept nearby in the lighthouse overlooking the pond. This is one of the most beautiful ways of keeping our spouses with us I have heard. 

I'm glad that the day went well for you all - that your sister sent you flowers on the day is especially touching.

Thank you for sharing this photo, and have a peaceful day - 

Love, Chuck

Comment by Mary. Jane on May 3, 2019 at 11:02am

Very pretty...

Comment by deborah peck on May 3, 2019 at 10:46am

Gregs pond and lighthouse, we decorate it for all the holidays or just because

Comment by deborah peck on May 3, 2019 at 10:11am

well it is May 3rd, the day after Gregs birthday and I survived as I knew I would, I think the anticipation of these dates makes it that much harder, it was a nice day with only a couple of breakdowns. once when my sis and her hubby sent me flowers and then when my little grandson was showing everyone a card he made for his paw-paw. But the dinner went good and we even played games so it was a good day. did I tell you all that Gregs ashes are in a light house at his pond so he can always look out for us and that s where we put any cards or decorations we have for him. I will post a picture of it. Thank you all so much for your support

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on May 1, 2019 at 7:55pm

Dear Sara,

Thank you my friend. Yes, wouldn't we all give anything for another road trip, or conversation, with our lost loves.

It's amazing to me that whenever Steve and I are in the car, him driving always, I have to restrain myself from giving my comments regarding speed, cars behind us, etc., just like I did with Larry most of the time. Back then, I had a habit of slamming my foot on the nonexistent brake on my side of the car, which made Larry very mad and resulted in him sometimes threatening to let me out so I can walk home "safely".

Steve, on the other hand, just quietly tolerates my "assistance" until he finally says "Why don't you relax and let ME drive for awhile?" That always makes me smile and do just that...seems you actually can teach an old dog new tricks.

Be well Sara - 

Love, Chuck

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on May 1, 2019 at 1:39pm

Dear Diane C,

Thank you for your kind words about my post - I have taken a while to get back here and reply to comments, but your thoughts are so much appreciated!

Be well, and have a peaceful day - 

Love, Chuck

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on May 1, 2019 at 1:34pm

Dear Deborah,

I know how difficult this month will be for you. Your plans to have dinner tomorrow with your girls to remember Greg's birthday sound like a very good thing to do. Every year when Larry's birthday approaches I find myself getting anxious and trying to find ways to mark the day. I hope you all have a special evening together - I'm sure Greg will be with you and that you will all feel his love.

I send special support and strength your way as the 12th approaches - the days marking the loss of our spouses are always going to be difficult and fraught with challenges of memories and emotion. Time for me at least has not honestly diminished those feelings, but I have perhaps become more prepared for their arrival and have developed better coping skills. For that I have everyone here to thank - you have all given me such compassionate support, guidance, and encouragement that I find no words to express my gratitude and appreciation.

Be well, Deborah, and know I and all of us will be thinking of you, and here always to hear your thoughts and feelings.

Love and peace,


Comment by Marsha H on May 1, 2019 at 4:20am

Janeo ...

Janeo ...
I think of you often and I love ya girlie!  Of course I will do everything I can for your friend.  Please email me and let me know how you are doing.  I really miss you.
Love & Hugs
Comment by janeo on May 1, 2019 at 4:11am

Marsha, thank you and God bless sending love and lots of hugs


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