Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Sara Murphy on January 8, 2020 at 11:45am

So Monday will be the 4 year anniversary of Ken's passing.  I can't even believe it's possible that 4 years have passed.  I sill feel like it was yesterday most of the time.   The past 3 years I had taken the 13th off from work but this year, I'm planning to come in.   I can't help but feel guilty about that.  I know that Ken would know my working in no way means I'm over him or any such thing but yet it feels wrong.  I'm trying to not be paralyzed by that day.  Does anyone else deal with these feelings of guilt?  I know life goes on but some things seem more wrong than others.

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 8, 2020 at 10:17am

I echo what everyone has said here...and I know you will be Fine Steve...I have, absolute faith that we all met for a reason we could remind each other that we were knocked down, and were so alone..yet somehow we found this place..and even if we don,t always post replies, I KNOW all of you know we READ all the posts, and our silent prayers reach their intended goal. 

I don,t think I have EVER experienced this in any other aspect of my long life...and no one outside understands how powerful this site is...but I feel that my support and prayers are FELT by each of you, even if I only THINK them.

So, Steve...I know you will be ok...I just hope you aren’t in pain...and your recovery is fast! Luv u guys... 

Comment by Marsha H on January 8, 2020 at 5:41am

Steve ...  Be a good boy or I'm going to have to come out there and be nurse Rachet.  You won't like it!  LOL

Love ya


Comment by Marsha H on January 8, 2020 at 5:40am

Deborah P ...  Prayers are said from me to you and I'll continue to do so to give you the strength you need.  I know how you feel because my girlfriend's husband passed away on the very same day my Ernie did April 27th.  She is having such a rough time and not getting much support from family so we talk a lot on the phone and I've been out to visit her.  In some ways it helps me forget about my loss and help her.  Telling her what feelings are normal and sometimes making her laugh.  Other times it does bring up memories of what I went through caring for Ernie to his final day and I shed a few tears, but again, helping her is good medicine for me as well.  She is so lucky to have you and I think she knows it.



Comment by Marsha H on January 8, 2020 at 5:37am

Chuck ...  I am so very happy prayers were answered (still praying for the both of you) and that Steve is recovering nicely.  Give him a gentle hug for me.  You know how men can be when they are not well.  LOL  Tell him if he misbehaves I'll have to fly out on my broom and come kick him in the butt. 

Love to you both and praying this year is a much better one for you both.

Love & Hugs


Comment by Sara Murphy on January 7, 2020 at 11:38am
I'm glad to hear Steve's recovering nicely. It was funny to see you write "Nurse Ratchet" as there were a few times Ken referred to me as such but always light hearted as he knew everything I did was always in his best interest.
Comment by Charles E. Nelson on January 7, 2020 at 1:40am

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to wish all a Happy New Year, filled with peace  in our hearts and good health especially!

Steve is getting his strength back more every day, and his pain is tolerable. I am doing my best to take care without hovering, and have only a few times had to throw the switch from Florence Nightingale to Nurse Ratchet when I fear for something he is trying to do.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the love, prayers, and support that you have been sending our way - believe me that I truly felt it while sitting in Steve's  hospital room those 24 hours following surgery. You guys are the best family I have or could hope for - and this site has both saved and changed my life in ways I never would have dreamed possible.

My prayer for us all is that our good days far outnumber the bad, that our memories bring smiles along with the tears, and that we all keep in touch with each other when we need comfort and support - that's what got me through the past week for certain!

Love and many hugs,


Comment by deborah peck on January 6, 2020 at 9:47am

So happy to hear everything is well Steve, now relax and let Chuck baby you

Comment by Steve G. on January 5, 2020 at 11:43am

Surgery went well.  Now healing begins!

Got home late Saturday afternoon, hospital took good care of me and Chuck.  There was a couch he slept on in the room, they gave him pillows, blanket, sheets and meals in the room when they brought mine.

Thank you all for your prayers.

Comment by deborah peck on January 5, 2020 at 11:03am

I decided this New Years Eve to go to my daughters to play games with her and her girls, had a lot of fun and ate way to much junk. As 11 approached I started to get the now familiar panicky feeling in my stomach so I went home, didn't want to see the new year in as it just brings pain that Its another year without my Greg, so I went home and got in the jacuzzi with the loud jets on so I couldn't hear the fireworks going on, like it was not going to happen if I didn't hear it. This May will be 3 years for me and at times it seems unbearable although the initial drowning feeling is no longer there all the time so that is good. I think trying to help my sister who lost her husband on Dec 1st is throwing all the feelings back in my face or so it seems. I packed up her husbands things for storage as she is moving down the street from me and then was up all night replaying Gregs death,, not sure how to distance myself from all those flashbacks and be there for her at the same time. She was the one sister that was nt there for me when Greg passed as I kicked her and her husband out of my house for fighting (arguing) when Greg was at home on hospice, he passed that very day, I just couldn't tolerate it, here I was losing my love and they were fighting over petty things that weren't important. But I want to be there for her as I know how important it is to have that support so please say a prayer for me that I find strength for this new journey. I hope everyone has happiness and love in this new year


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