Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Carol Kayser on August 21, 2014 at 10:08pm
Good luck Janeo:) you will be fine and let me know. Absolutely don't spend a lot of money!! xo.
Comment by janeo on August 21, 2014 at 8:08pm
Carol, thank you so much. I made so many wrong decision s about the house and who I hired which I trusted them and got taken. Don't want to use bad language. I have a hard time trusting lately. Thanks to you at least I know now things to look for. I don't want to spend a lot of money on this house cause I'm not staying in it for long.
Comment by Carol Kayser on August 21, 2014 at 7:18pm
Janeo, I had a flood too a while ago. Thankfully it was covered under insurance. All the carpeting had to be thrown out. It really was a matter of trusting the carpet person to suggest the right carpet. I think it is more based on cost also, ie the less pile/thickness the carpet can be less expensive, like twill. A heavier softer pile would cost more. It also depends on the usage of the room too. If it's downstairs it may be ok to have the lesser type, more durable rug.

Just my thoughts....take care.
Comment by janeo on August 20, 2014 at 6:46pm
Thank you so much for your help. My son and I ripped it up ourselves. A lot of work. We don't have family close and he has to take care if his mother. Richie did everything so I don't know what to do. We checked the carpet and it was bad so we had to throw it out. Plus it hurts cause little by little the things he did is disappearing. How do I know which carpet is good or bad to buy. Again thank you so much.
Comment by Barbara Sullivan on August 20, 2014 at 4:33pm

Dear Janeo -- This past winter, a pipe burst in my garage-converted TV room.  My daughters helped me and we used a Shop-Vac, plus a rug shampooer to suck up as much of the water as possible from the rug.  Then we pulled up the entire rug and padding.  We discarded the padding and purchased new from a local carpet store.  Before laying the new padding, we had to thoroughly clean and dry the cement floor.  We used a mold-killing detergent to clean the floor, then used fans and electric heaters to dry it -- it took 3 days.  During that time, we rolled out the carpet on our porch and inspected it for damage.  Since it was still in good shape, we air-dried it for the 3 days, hanging it over our long porch railings.  we also used fans and electric heaters to dry the carpet backing.  With the help of our teen-aged grandchildren and their friends, we laid down the new padding with new adhesive and the dry carpeting, re-tacking it to the original tack strips.  It was a huge under-taking and we could not have done it without the help of everyone in the family.  A plumber repaired the broken pipe and we inserted an air vent in the wall to allow warm air from the room to prevent the pipe from freezing again.  I know your circumstances are quite different, but I just wanted you to know how our family, working together, was able to overcome the disaster.  In fact, the TV room was originally converted, by my wonderful husband, to be a bedroom for my mother.  Both my husband and my mother are gone, now -- but, I thank God that we are still a family that works together.  My husband could build anything and he taught us all so much about being self-sufficient.

When I first saw the water-soaked carpet in my TV room, I just felt so helpless, frightened and alone -- but, family came through for me.  I wish you success with restoring your flooded apartment, and will remember you in my prayers, dear.

Love and hugs,


Comment by janeo on August 20, 2014 at 11:42am
Hi to all
I had a flood in my basement. I live in Long Island where we got 13" of rain in a 24 hour period. We had to rip up the carpet in the basement apt this we won'tget mold it was soaked. Now I need new padding and carpet. Richie had put in commerical carpets put in . I dont have any idea what to look for when buying a new rug.
thanks in advance
Comment by Marsha H on August 20, 2014 at 3:26am

Hi Frank ...  It's great to see you post again and you have been greatly missed.  We're all still here (sometimes some of us off and on, but still watching this forum) to pick up those that fall as we had have our journey in the unknown future, but we will survive!



Comment by Marsha H on August 20, 2014 at 3:24am

Wilela ...  That was absolutely beautiful and I don't think better words could explain how most of us feel regarding the loss of our spouses and the memories left behind.

Big hugs


Comment by Frank Andrews on August 19, 2014 at 9:10pm

Dear Diane, 

  I have not posted much since I just have not progressed much in almost 2 years and am depressed.  I do, however, read posts and extend my deepest condolences to you and your family over losing your much loved father. Just know that all on the forum share the heartache of your loss and are very aware of the mountains you must climb in your daily life before the pain eases a little. Faith and hope keep us going and life will....and has to get better.  Hugs.

Comment by janeo on August 19, 2014 at 7:41pm
I signed up on that site quite awhile now.I get emails all the time. Great site !

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