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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Thank you Sara. It is very early for me and what a journey it's been. When I woke up this morning I thought to myself "Gee, a year ago today Tommy and I would have been snuggling right now." (5:30 am). He used to walk over in the early hours and we'd snuggle and chat and then get up and get our day started. Little did I know that would be my last snuggle ever and boy did that hurt.
The folks I see out and about are the couples. The ones holding hands or just together. Last week I was near a couple in the grocery store and the wife says to the husband "Honey I'll be over in the cereal aisle." I almost broke down in tears. Nothing is the same anymore. But the worst is the ones I see fighting and bickering over crap.
Two weeks ago at the garden center I saw a couple going at it like pit bulls over what color geraniums they should buy! The wife was the worst. I felt like telling her "Do you have ANY idea what you have standing here in front of you?!??!" but of course I didn't. I just thought, what a waste. Not that Tommy and I never argued but the wasted time I see now really makes me sad. I see this stuff a lot and just shake my head.
I planted dahlias by Tommy's grave on Saturday and then put some by his little sister who is a few plots away. They were his favorite flower. He used to take care of Annie's grave so now I'll do it for him. She was only 32 when she died in 1987.
His mom passed last Monday and his sister called me to tell me. I feel awful for her. She and Tommy were very close as was he with his mom. She was a sweet lady.
Sara, thanks again for your sweet words. This is a bad week. Here's a hug 0
Sara, it was indeed a loooooooong weekend and you took the words right from my mouth. I should have been celebrating like I did last year with Tommy but I didn't. Friday will be one year and seeing people out and about together is getting harder by the day, especially on holidays. And at the garden centers :(
Mary Jane - Following the latest on your weather down there for the past couple of weeks makes me so sad, it's incredible. I'm so glad you and your kitty are ok but like others said, please see if you can't get someone to help you take her to the vet. She's relying on you :) I hope you find all the peace you deserve in California and I'm glad you have family there. A definite plus when moving.
I hope anyone else living down there is safe and sound and stays that way. I guess Steve and Chuck are down there? I don't know since I only started reading here less than a year ago so I'm sort of in the dark. Deb P, it sounds like you've had your share of horror with the flooding and I hope you and your family are all ok.
Aside from this disastrous weather I hope everyone is hanging in there as best they can. Keeping you all in my prayers.
Mary Jane your life sounds truly chaotic right now, We have had numerous tornadoes hit done here in Missouri, thankfully none next to me but the sirens all the time and storm warnings are very scary here, the weather here is crazy too, they just took the barricades for flood water down on my street and now they are back up again. Moving across country is very intimidating but it sounds like its just about over for you, Im very proud of you for continuing with this quest of yours and am sure you will be much happier to be near your daughter mine are my life line. Life can get messy but you are doing it be PROUD,
OMG, that is enough to scare anyone of us. Please never apologize for posting, we have all had to do that more than once. For me, posting and venting is like a pressure valve, may not change things around us, but it does help to calm us.
North Texas and the pan handle have been in the sweep of all the tornadoes. Where we live, some of the storms have been severe, but not anything like what we see happening to Tulsa and other states. One night a few weeks back, we were under a Tornado watch, hail warning and possible flash flooding. Chuck jumped up and went from room to room, I causally asked, what are you doing and he said "looking for my Ruby Slippers, we can't go to Kansas with them.
Praying that your home sells fast so that you and Kitty can get back to California.
Mary. Jane. ... Wow! What a time you are having. I feel so badly you have to go through this and where I live in B.C., we don't have anything like that ... yet! Records for weather are being broken all over the world.
I am so happy where you live you have been blessed, but it must be terrifying for you and your kitty to hear all that noise.
I am so happy to hear that you found a house in California. You must describe it in your next post. At least they don't have tornadoes there.
Mary, please ask a neighbor to drive you to the vets because anal glands that are infected are very serious. Either that or see if a vet can come to your house (will cost you extra of course) but your kitty can't go on like that. I know, one of my kitties had the same thing. It's also very painful for them. I was lucky at the time Ernie and I drove her to the vets.
Never apologize my friend for venting or long posts. That's what we are here for and you're family so here I am! LOL
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