Bereaved Spouses

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


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Comment by Sheri Dettman on November 12, 2018 at 10:13am

Hi Mary Jane! I haven't been on here much at all for a while. I actually met someone about 6 weeks ago and long story short, haven't seen him since then but he's coming to see me on Thursday for 4 days. Lives in TX and I'm in CA. Needless to say, my attitude has changed quite a bit as I feel like now I have something and someone to look forward to. I've been writing on my blog busy working. We are planning on going to see that movie this weekend. Glad you enjoyed it. Looks like fun.

Comment by Mary. Jane on November 12, 2018 at 10:06am

OMG..where IS everyone? Maybe y’all are having MAJOR, numerous random crap messing up your lives at the moment, like I am? Since one week before Halloween, I have been unindated with everything going wrong. Starting with the removal of two pillars and a rail on my front porch...which were so rotten, I had to remove them b4 kids came to Trick or treat, and got injured, to a bunch of other stuff..including talking to real estate people, and lenders...removing Bobs name from or DEED..(DIDN,t know I had to do that) something wrong with my plumbing...a bunch of other stuff...culminating last Thursday with discovering I have a busted drain pipe leading from the clean out thingy in my back yard...and ending up IN MY NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORS YARD! That is where they will have to dig to repair it, remove park of her fence, redo her yard..and this morning it is SNOWING! It hasn,t snowed here for 3 years. WTF is going on? Oh yeah, and I am totally responsible for paying the entire thing, as my home owners insurance only covers inside the walls of my house. There goes any down payment on a new home.

For 2 years nothing happened, now EVERYTHING happened in 2 weeks.  But, it could b worse..if this is all God throws at me I am blessed. It could be fires or floods...

so, I hope all of you are safe, but the silence here the last month is weird. So, that is why I haven,t been here..but I missed coming here, so I thought I would bore y’all with my life. 

LASTLY...went to the movies yesterday..GO SEE BOHEMIEN RAPSODY!!! I wanted to rock out in my seat..but looking around, I DIDN,t see any others I stayed still as possible but when it ended, and the credits one CLAPPED!!!  So I decided I DIDN,t care, and started clapping loudly..and to my DELIGHT..when I DID..a second went by, and then the entire audience clapped with me!!!!  That was SO COOL!!!

Comment by Mary. Jane on November 4, 2018 at 3:48pm

Oh, Deb..NEVER think yours or anyone’s posts are the same thing. Your posts are special, even tho you might think they are the same...each day is a different challenge..and they are always special. 

I hven,t been here awhile cuz I am having moving, house, plumbing, structure problems, u name it...and actually...I just haven,t had time. Everything seems to happen at once. I will type more later, but my cat is trying to open the BRB..and YESSSS, I had to log in again..and I got a warning this might not b a secure place. As if that would stop me?

Comment by deborah peck on November 4, 2018 at 10:39am

I didn't have any trouble getting on Steve, so glad to hear you are doing good. It has been quiet here, I usually check every morning but don't post a lot anymore as its always the same aand figure every one is tired of hearing it but I think of all of you alot

Comment by Steve G. on November 3, 2018 at 1:25pm

I am doing are correct, it has been unusually quiet.

When I clicked on your link it only loaded the last 4 comments, the page looked different.  The comment box and add comment button was missing.  I signed out and back in and got the same thing.  So i found an older comment from you on the 24th and clicked the link and got the page we are all used too.  Hope they are not redesigning the page...hope this day finds you well and feeling some peace today.



Comment by Sara Murphy on November 3, 2018 at 12:44pm

Hi Friends...I thought I'd check in and see how everyone is doing today.  We've been quiet over the past week or so. 

Comment by Sara Murphy on October 24, 2018 at 11:24am

No worries Mary Jane.  I wasn't the least bit offended and knew what you were chuckling about.

Comment by deborah peck on October 24, 2018 at 11:17am

Happy birthday Ken, I know he is having a huge celebration in Heaven and wishing you a good day Sarah

Comment by Mary. Jane on October 24, 2018 at 10:24am

I too, think of this site and all of you wonderful0people several times daily. When ever I hear omeoje has lost their partner, I write down this site and refer them. I don,t think any of my referrals have been we don,t seem to have any new people here..I try so hard to convey how wonderful this place is, and the people on it  who have basically saved my life...and how coming here, and even just READING posts would b so therapudic..but my referrals are usually to third party people who probably toss the paper out, or dismiss it as something they don,t want to get involved in..

Sara..My laughter wasn,t meant to b cruel..I thought it was awesome that in the midst of your pain, you could quip..about the Red Socks, and I thought that was wonderful. It made me laugh out loud, which is a good thing. 

Steve I think about you several times a day..positively..that u will b ok. I refuse to even entertain the THOUGHT you won,t. are so cute...when u aren,t here, something is missing. 

Comment by Steve G. on October 24, 2018 at 9:38am

In honor of Ken's Birthday,  go Red Sox...take care Sara, I know how we all tend to wonder about special dates and occasions.  They just tend to drive home how much we miss them in our lives.  All of us quietly go from day to day, tending to ourselves as family and friends wander in and out of our lives, having no clue how much we ache inside.

We do have each other on this site, all of us are with you,

sending you hugs and positive thoughts today as well.  Thank you to everyone on this site, I think of each one of you daily.



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