Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Basia on June 24, 2010 at 7:04pm
I am having an awful time today. I don't know why , yesterday went so much better than usual. Today I just want to crawl under a rock. I hope you all are better than me. Have a peaceful evening everyone.
Comment by kathleen caylor on June 24, 2010 at 4:55pm
Mark,My husband died on 9/13/09.The same week our best friends were leaving to go to St.Augustine.Well of course thet posponed they're trip.S I asked if I could join them when they went in October.I was so glad I did!I just had the best time and it was a distraction for a short time.Of course when I came home I was slammed with reality.But it was a good diversion.We will have to live with this the rest of our lives.Take a short break if you can.
Comment by mark on June 24, 2010 at 4:09pm
Summer is here now 3 month later; this would be our time to plan a vacation as we did every year . not sure what to do this summer ? go somewhere new or not @ all or some place we loved ???? Mark
Comment by Patti Baker on June 23, 2010 at 9:07pm
I just survived (if you can call it that) the anniversary of our 56th wedding anniversary. My husband was taken from me one year and 47 days ago. last year I was numb this year reality set in, I cried all week and all weekend. it was also father's day, my girls were sad --their daddy was everything to them and to me too. I miss my husband so much , my heart will never heal....Keep your chin up if you can do something fun and think about all the good times..Hugs.......
Comment by Peg Otley on June 23, 2010 at 11:38am
If anyone should want, I am on facebook. If I see your name I would accept you. This way if you'd like, you can see all of the pictures I have posted of the whole family. I don't mind at all. The Father's day balloon launch is also on there.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 22, 2010 at 11:03pm
Just wanted to say hi to everyone and give hugs. Hugs are good. Only on this site do we all understand our misery and torment. I never got to say goodbye to my wife but we didnt need to. I only have the flashback of hearing her die and seeing her dead during a nap. I never got a chance to give her the birthday card that night. I have it here at the computer.
It day an angel came to I married her. Little did I know she would become one.
Forty-four years married..but I wanted more. Hang in there everyone, thats all we can do. Its not good I know, but try anyhow.
Comment by Peg Otley on June 22, 2010 at 7:45pm

I thought I had already written this but I didn't see it so here I go again....(You all know what this does to the mind)
The first Father's day without my beloved Harry was very rough at times. My children came over with their families and my parents and sister, brother-in-law and brother were here. 16 of us. I made a nice stuffed shells dinner with salad and garlic bread and of course desserts. After dinner, we did our balloon launch. I called my sister-in-law who lives in La. and she did it with us over the phone. We had white and silver balloons. Some wrote messages and some chose not to. My 9yr. old grandson broke my heart all over again. He wrote...Pappy, Please come down and play hockey with me! Love, TJ.
The little ones drew pictures. We launched them at 6:30p.m. DST and the wind was at a perfect angle to send them up over the house across the street and send them perfectly straight up so that we could watch them for about 10 min. until they disappeared into the clouds!!! It was really nice. The sun was shining and with they weregone. Everyone was thrilled that it went so well and want to do it again next year. After everyone left, there I was alone. I crued just a little and then when I looked t his picture, it was as if he smiled......and so did I.
Comment by lindarunion on June 22, 2010 at 7:05pm
its beenalmost 3 monthsnow since my red went to be wirh god 1have strong faith but this has knocked me to my core i'lget by just fine so long as i have my kids and my sistersto cout on and allof you to talk to.
Comment by Fernandohulya on June 22, 2010 at 4:07pm
Father's day was so painful for me to go through but for the kids it was imaginable hurtful. My daughter told me the day before she wished the day would just go by so her pain would not came back because she wanted give her dad a hug. My son had the hardest time with his silent starring at the grave and wanted to leave. The only thing made it bearable were the ballons and the little trinkets I bought to lay on his bed/grave/home. I have not got time for people anymore and avoided them like hell before and till now. What a nightmare! I totally understand what everyone is saying that we all grieve differently with our soulmates pas... I am so lost without him my eternal live. I am not trying to think of anything and take each day at it comes. On the 25th it will be four month since he .... I just do not know what each day brings and do not see a futrure for me but for my kids I see the world their oyster. I have a gap till September when my daugthers and husband birthday are ten days apart then three weeks later our anniversary. Basia, I am telling you when you expect things to happen nothing does but it always happens unexpected when the truck hits you. I am still under the truck and feel run over a million times. Love you all and I am thinking of all our pain and sorrows. with lots of hugs as Randolph suggested it .
Comment by Janice Kelly on June 22, 2010 at 2:35pm
Hi Kathy.......I had suggested to my grown children that we all be together for Father's Day. It is the first Father's Day without my husband, Ed. Once I had said it, and they all thought it would be a good idea, I immediately began dreading the thought of it. I didn't know how I was going to be the supportive mom while I was in so much pain. (I lost Ed just this past Valentine's Day.) Then I remembered a suggestion that a friend had been given for the first holiday after her husband died. "Why not bring a single white rose, to help everyone visualize that their father, grampy, and husband was there with them?" I decided to give it a try, and was very happy that the idea was so well received by everyone. In addition, my daughter-in-law had purchased balloons for each of the grandchildren so that they could send a note to Grampy. We let them all go before everyone left, and we all watched them float up. When I said that I couldn't see them anymore, my 9 year old grand daughter said,"Of course you can't see them anymore because they are up in heaven with grampy." Even with all the sadness, it turned out to be a very positive day with lots of......"remember when dad said......., or remember that time when......." I thought that this idea might be comforting to someone else............Jan

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