Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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Comment by Nina on June 16, 2010 at 11:15pm
I recently saw one of the Nurses Aids that helped take care of my husband John while he was in the hospital, she asked me how I was doing, & I started crying again. We shared some good memories that John created with the staff at the hospital. It meant alot to me for her stopping & taking the time to talk to me & for letting me cry on her shoulders. This morning before I left for work, I went into the bedroom where my husband slept & I talked to him & told him how very much I still love & miss him. It's now been 3 1/2 months since God called my beloved husband home to be with him. Some times I lash out at God for taking John away from me & for the pain & hurt that I feel over this lose, and then I apologize to God for my anger. God wanted another Rose for his Garden so he picked John to add to his Garden of Roses. When if ever does the pain start to cease?
Comment by Liz Minvielle on June 16, 2010 at 3:08am
I need to find a group for Widows!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*****Please, help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*******Robert Minvielle, my loving-compassionate husband recently passed and I could really use some company going through this process too!!!

I can be emailed at or and again, if anyone out-there has an extra minute or two, please,
look at Poetic Marketer via Google's home page.

Thanks for being their!!!
Comment by Liz Minvielle on June 16, 2010 at 2:44am
Introducing myself: My Husband passed into his next life in the very early morning hours of March 10th, as I anxiously awoke only to find him stiff. Quickly tried to revive him, but nothing worked. I phoned Hospice. It took about 45 minutes for them to arrive at that point his nearest relative, one of his brothers had arrived. At that point he had gone into rigamortous.
It's Hard-as-Hell, we were such a Loving-compassionate couple, we were planning to spend the rest of our lives together, you know grow-old together!!! He was only 58 & I'm just 49! We were a perfect match!!! I have so many fantastic memories and I really, truly don't want to believe it!!!
It seems to be getting harder, as our Wedding anniversary approaches, which is/ was the 24th of this month!!! Any & all replies are welcome!!!
Also, please look at "Poetic Marketer" from Googles Home Page for more info!!!
Liz Minvielle
Comment by Basia on June 15, 2010 at 11:14pm
I am so mad today. My dad said a stupid thing to me and the kids today. He said "that it's a good thing that the kids lost a father instead of a mother because a mother is more important." My mother in law said that I need to nod and and let it go, and people will continue to say stupid things 'cause they don't know what else to say. Sorry for rambling. I am just mad!
Comment by Connie on June 15, 2010 at 9:32pm
Tom, I am not sure what brought you back but it is good to see that you are back with us again.
Comment by Dorcas Cummings on June 15, 2010 at 8:07pm
My name is Dorcas Cummings I lost my husband last year on July 4, 2009 Independence Day of all days. It's almost a year and I'm still trying to adjust. Also my children have lost their father. Father's Day is going to be pretty tough. I'm just learning how to take one day at a time.
Comment by Suzanne on June 15, 2010 at 7:27pm
Dear Tom,
Now I feel like it was 3 people I have been either directly or indirectly responsible for leaving. If so, I'm so, so sorry. I would miss you if you left but wish the best for you. Come back soon.
God bless,
Comment by Connie on June 15, 2010 at 1:31pm
My neighbor who hasn't said 2 words to me since Phil passed in November, spoke to me for the first time last week. The conversation was casual at first and then she said "And how are you?" I couldn't help it but I said to her "How do you think I should be, I feel like h__l." She was kind of shocked by my reply but I am tired of telling everyone that I am ok because I am not. I think maybe if we just tell people how we actually are and not what they want to hear either they will stop asking or if they ask, they will sincerely want to know. Just my opinion!!
Comment by Connie on June 15, 2010 at 1:27pm
I think I need to apologize again. For one thing, please understand that I have been going through a really bad time recently - worse than usual. Tom, you have not offended me. If you need to do something different, I think that is great and I sincerely hope that it works for you and helps you because I am sure that you are devastated being without Loni. It is just that I don't want to bring anyone down by the way I am feeling. I feel like h--l lately - again. I think Father's Day is affecting me badly and we have a lot of birthdays with the grandchildren right now. It is a lot of things that really make me hurt more because he is not here. My daughter has a house at the Jersey shore and wants me to come for the weekend. I would love to go but that would mean that I could not go to the cemetery on Father's Day and I really feel like I can't miss a day of being near him. Please understand and don't get down because of the way I feel. I really treasure the people that I have met on this site and the help that I have gotten from it. We are all going through the same thing but we are all individuals and even though the hurt is there, some people react differently to it and that does not mean that anyone is right or wrong by feeling what they feel. I hope that you all understand my rambling but I so appreciate all of you and I don't want anyone to misunderstand what I said. Thanks Guys!!!!!
Comment by BoLynn on June 15, 2010 at 12:12pm
I cringe when I'm asked if I'm ok. What do you say? No, I want to die and be in heaven with my husband. I think that is one of the stupid questions because they know the life as you knew is gone. Your soulmate is never coming home. Yes, sad to say, they only want to hear you say that you're doing I lie and that's what I say. It makes them happy to hear that, but it makes me angry.

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