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Comment by Catherine Johnston on December 15, 2009 at 2:12pm
I lost Christopher, my nephew, just 6 months and 1 day ago. There is not a day I haven't cried. I learned this morning that I don't have support from my husband of 23 years - he was questioning why I needed to go to my first support group meeting (we haven't discussed Christopher's death since the funeral). I don't have friends that I can speak to about this - I mention it and they act as though I haven't said a word. My mother-in-law, probably my best friend, tells me I should be angry with Christopher, tells me to quit being sad.

I am falling deeper and deeper into depression. Help...
Comment by SUE on December 5, 2009 at 10:07pm
Cheryl,
Your loss so recent,and x-mas around the corner..I dont blame you for feeling this way one bit. You didnt mention who Greg was to you...but I wanted to offer you my condolences. If I may, I would like to share this with you as well. My step-mom /friend was murdered 2 weeks b4 x-mas. The family didnt really feel like celebrating, but we all got together at my house for x-mas dinner and got thru it. I thank god we did because as it turned out it was also my brothers last x-mas as he committed suicide 10 months later. I am forever grateful for that day, and the picture we took,that I will cherish forever.
Sue
Comment by CherylHarper on December 4, 2009 at 9:12am
I lost Greg on August 26th and I'm still lost. I'm not looking forward to Christmas when all eyes will be one me and nobody will know what to say, and my tears will start and it's going to be ugly. I hate to say this, but this year, I'd love to skip the holiday season altogether. And on New Years Eve which is my worst time anyway - I'm going out to play Bingo.
Comment by SUE on December 3, 2009 at 2:44am
Tessa Im so sorry. 17 is so young,please start a thread about your son in the the discussion forum. I would like to hear more about your son and how you are doing. Let me welcome you to this board. Im so so sorry for your loss of him.
Sue
Comment by tessa turk on December 2, 2009 at 9:34am
I lost my 17 yr old son to suicide on Feb 5th 2008.
Comment by SUE on December 1, 2009 at 12:38am
gypsymama,
I am so sorry. You are in shock which is only natural given the circumstances. This is so early in your grief. Please let me reassure you...there is absolutely nothing you could of done to change this for him. Nothing. We can sometimes prolong but only the person themselves can ask for and get help. Something was broke inside him. It wasnt you. I get the pain after a suicide I really do. Please dont be hard on yourself. Seriously just breathe. Do be gentle with you. Find a councellor or therapist to help you heal or see your doctor. Keep talking it helps immeasurably. I am awfully sorry to welcome you here, but you are safe to share here whatever is on your mind. My brothers death not pretty, my step-moms murder horrendous...I understand. Im here for you,let me know if I can help.
Hugs
Sue
Comment by gypsymama2009 on November 30, 2009 at 11:59am
I lost my boyfriend yesterday to suicide in a very violent way. I never saw this coming, he had talked about it, but never thought it would actually happen. We were great together, which was a nice change from my past relationships. The night he took his life he was with me and then went home and did it. If i would have known I would have never let him go. It has been very hard for me to deal with, and I am feeling so many emotions right now and Im not quite sure how to handle them all. I have never had to face something so drastic in my life and if I had one wish it would be for this to have never happened, I am waiting to wake up from this horrible nightmare. All the pain he felt, he has now passed onto others. It did not solve any of his problems, it only made things harder. If I could have taken away his pain I would have, and now I am lost in it, and wondering why, and what if, I dont know why this had too happen, and I am so sorry it did. I wish I could go to him and make things ok for him, so he would not have had to leave me so early in his life, he was only 25 and had a 7 year old boy. now a part of my heart will always be broken for him and his family, why would someone take their life as he did in such a violent way and so early in his life? why?
Comment by SUE on November 24, 2009 at 4:27am
Pat,
I dont think he was saying goodbye, I really think he was trying to hold on...maby to the dream. Just a thought. I replied to your other post and again I know how much this hurts,but do know how much your love loved you back. He just couldnt fight his pain any longer.
Comment by Trish on November 23, 2009 at 10:02pm
2 1/2 yrs. ago my friend and lover took his life. I loved him very much and when I told him this he suddenly stopped taking my calls, changed his number after I left dozens of calls. One month before he took his life he called out of the blue. I was so happy, during our conversation he said I love you Pat. He also said I will be coming down to Fl. to live and we will be together. I was so confused. He was actually saying goodbye. If only I knew, I could have done something. This is hurting so much inside.
Comment by SUE on November 16, 2009 at 9:59pm
Debi,
Seems like you and your sister have had more than your fair share of loss as well. I appreciate your sentiments, Im not an overtly religous person, more rebel really. Thanks for your comments Im sure others here appreciate the thought as well.
Sue
 

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