Condolence Messages: Best Words of Sympathy

How to write a condolence note and comfort the bereaved

When someone you care about is grieving, it's hard to find the right words. What should you say in a condolence message? What common sympathy expressions should you avoid? What else can you do to comfort a bereaved friend? To help you support a grieving colleague, friend or family member, offers advice from condolence experts. Click on the links below to learn more about how to write condolence notes, what notto say and more.



How to Write a Condolence Note

Why Write Sympathy Notes?

• Guide to Writing a Condolence Note 

• Writing a condolence note to a Grieving Child or Adolescent

What Makes a Condolence Note Memorable?

• Is a Sympathy Note Always Necessary?

Timing Your Condolence Notes and How Late Is Too Late?

• Belated Condolences

• It's Okay to Wait

• It's Never Too Late to Write and Reminisce

• Choosing the right Condolence Stationery


Condolences for Specific Situations

When Loss Hits the Workplace

• Notifying Coworkers, Friends of a Death

• Sending Condolences from the Group

• What to do When You've Never Met the Deceased or When an Acquaintance Dies

• What to say When Someone Dies Suddenly

After a Suicide or Teen Suicide 

When a Baby Dies

How to Be Supportive After a Miscarriage, what to say to someone Grieving Miscarriage

• What to say to a Grieving Spouse

When Someone's Ex Dies or there was a Rocky Relationship or Difficult Relationship 

• When Someone Dies After a Long Life

• What to Say to Someone Who Is Dying


How to Write an Obituary or Eulogy

• Sharing the Gift of Obituaries

Celebrate Life with Obituaries

• Writing an Obituary

• Obits 101

• In Memoriam Ads

• Giving a Eulogy

Star Eulogies

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Comment by Micah on May 26, 2012 at 11:38am

Here's some articles I know should be added to the above list:

Comforting the Terminally Ill

Comfort for Grieving Parents

Coping With the Loss of a Loved One

and for young ones:

How Can I Cope with the Death of a Parent?

I know you'll find these comforting and beneficial if you are suffering loss. 

Comment by Marinalva Sickler on April 14, 2012 at 1:06pm

I just joined the group now, however, I have found some comfort for the loss of my husband on Feb. 11 through the and My Memorials and my FB friends. I feel almost unbearable to live without Paul. The emptiness and the senseless surround me and I feel lost and wandering around the tasks and chores of each day.

Comment by Mary on August 15, 2011 at 3:15pm
Lost my mom a yr ago and my dad 10 yrs ago. It feels harder this time with the loss of my mom.  Maybe because they are both gone now or maybe it was just as hard 10 yrs ago when my dad went home and I forgot how hard it was.
Comment by Rachelle Manzi on August 15, 2011 at 11:40am

You were my Husband, My Lover, My Best friend, , May you Rest In Peace . My Condolences go out to the Family....He was Truly A Great Man  . You will be Missed !


Rachelle (Cheli) Manzi

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