Condolence Notes: What to Say

Advice from Legacy.com experts on what to say in a sympathy note, how to express condolences


When someone you care about is grieving, it's hard to find the right words. When should you send a condolence card? How do you write a thoughtful and memorable condolence note? What common sympathy expressions should you avoid? To help you comfort and support a grieving colleague, friend or family member, LegacyConnect offers advice from condolence experts. Click on the links below to learn more about how to write condolence notes, what not to say and more.

How to Write a Sympathy Note

Why Write Sympathy Notes?
Writing a Condolence Note
Writing a Condolence Note to a Grieving Child or Adolescent
What Makes a Condolence Note Memorable?
Timing Your Condolence Notes
Condolence Stationery
Speaking of the Deceased
Leaving a Message

Condolences for Specific Situations
When Loss Hits the Workplace
Condolences from the Group
What to Say When Someone Dies Unexpectedly
Supporting the Bereaved After a Suicide
Youth Suicide: What You Can Say and Do to Help the Survivors
When a Baby Dies
Grieving Miscarriage
How to Be Supportive After a Miscarriage
What to Say to a Grieving Spouse
What to Say When Someone's Ex Dies
What to Say: Rocky Relationships
Expressing Condolences for Difficult Relationships

What NOT to Say
What Not to Say
People Want to Be Helpful, But...
Is It Ever Appropriate to Question the Bereaved?
Making Amends for Something You Said

Ways to Show Sympathy and Support
The Gift of Listening
Why Is It So Hard to Listen?
7 Ways to Listen Better
6 Distractions That Hamper Listening
6 More Distractions That Hamper Listening
The Importance of Empathy

How to Write an Obituary or Eulogy
Giving a Eulogy
Star Eulogies

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Comment by Adam John on December 4, 2012 at 2:50pm

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Comment by freida hendricks on November 26, 2012 at 8:03pm

This is in reference to Carolyn Baskeyfield she was surrvived by 2 sisters Debbie Music who was the mother of Cory Music her nephew and her sister Freida Hendricks and her 2 sons Shawn Hendricks and Richard Krick. As well As her husband Glen spraddlin we all miss you Carol we will see you in heaven soon. And not to be forgotten her granddaughter Tattiana

Comment by Rebecca Newth Harrison on November 7, 2012 at 2:20pm

Dear family of Dan Dubois. My family lived next door to the Dubois family on Sablain Parkway Drive from probably 1947 to 1980 something when my parents died. I send my condolences to you. It is so hard to lose someone you love. I personally feel sad to feel him not with us. He was such a good person. Let us hope for who he always was to continue to be with us. Becky Newth

Comment by Julie Watkins-Wherley on October 7, 2012 at 9:04pm

Kathryn Oliver I am so sorry for this loss i know family really well relly sorry she will be sadly missed she was an awsome lady very sorry for any loss

Comment by Furman L. Oxendine on September 12, 2012 at 9:24am

 

Dear Bert, David, Hamp, Francine, Julie and Mary Ruth:

We send our deepest sympathies and sincere condolence on the passing of your beautiful Mother to be with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  Mrs. Oliver was a wonderful Christian lady, teacher, and friend.  I will always remember her for her kind, gentle and caring spirit. May God continue to bless and keep you all and your families during this difficult time.  Our Lord will give you the strength and peace to endure, and joy in knowing that we will see her again when God also calls the rest of us, to our permanent home in Heaven.

The Peace of Our Lord be with you all,

 

Furman L. Oxendine

Kabul, Afghanistan 

Comment by Marion Berdette Stults on August 15, 2012 at 11:26am

To the family of Mike Torres I wish to express my sincere condolenses. I met Mike when I visited in Ft. Wayne to see his wife Fran Cille. I had known her from the days of my youth. I found Mike to be a very cordial person whom I learned to respect. To his and FranCille's children: You have lost both parents. Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and you can never go wrong. I don't know if you remember me - it has been so many years ago. But I will always remember Fran Cille and Mike as dear friends.

Comment by Vannah Kay on July 25, 2012 at 6:40pm

To the James Family Of Lansing Michigan

Joshua R. James

19, of Lansing, student, died July 20. Services 11 a.m. Friday at Tiffany Funeral Home.

I did not know Josh's family, But i did know Josh ever since middle school. The memories with him were always a great time with our friends. My condolences go out to his family, geena, and his beautiful baby boy. r.i.p ! gone but never forgotten. You'll be forever missed & forever in my heart.

Comment by Tamara lynn king on June 27, 2012 at 4:02pm

MR.SZYMANSKI,

I AM KEEPING YOU IN MY PREYS SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS ,

IT IS VERY HARD TO LOSS A CHILD PARENTS SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO PUT A CHILD TO REST BUT ONLY GOD KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR US , KEEPING YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AND PREYS ..

FROM YOUR FRIEND AND NEIGHBOR ..

Comment by Anna O'Connell on April 8, 2012 at 9:19pm

To the Myjak family of Lompoc, California:

 After having arrived from a foreign country in 1972, Barbara Jean Myjak became my first and best friend in elementary school. 

I remember she had the most beautiful golden blond hair. Barbara allowed me to brush it frequently while we talked for hours. We listened to The Beatles and The Monkees and even snuck into her big sister's room to listen to "Benny and the Jets" several times.

Barbara and I walked most of the streets of Vandenberg Village with our shorts and flip-flops buying candy, junk food or silly jewelry. We rode our bicycles together as we got older to the old mission with our lunches in our back packs. One day we daringly pedaled all the way to Solvang as well!

As if that wasn't adventurous enough, one summer day, when no one was at my house, I pierced her ears with just 2 plain ice cubes and a sewing needle! Her mom was not amused :0)

As we continued to grow up, our mischief became worse and we parted ways.  

As an adult, I searched for her on the net occassionally. I finally found her about a week ago.

I wanted her children and grandchildren to know how much Barbara meant to me as a young girl in a new country. I loved her so much. I am very sorry for your loss.

blessings to all of you.

Comment by Stacy Bowers on March 9, 2012 at 7:37pm

To the Kirsten family,

Henry was a great man with a huge heart. We will never forget him and the memories we shared with him at the Dolphin. It will never be the same without him. He was loved by many and will be truly missed I am so sorry for your loss.

Comment by Melissa Drummond on January 1, 2012 at 10:27pm

I just want to say how much my Father-in-law Larry M. Drummond will be missed. He was a very wise man, and the 21 years of being with my husband; I learned quite a bit from him. One thing I learned that I did always follow through with is too, never put all my eggs in one basket!!! I will never forget the wonderful times we had together as a family!!! We love you Dad, and miss you so very much!!! Love Alan, Missy and Wade <3!!!!!

Comment by Greg Nowlan on December 21, 2011 at 1:18am
A most comprehensive site and support centre.
Comment by Susan E. Navickas on November 27, 2011 at 7:10am

I was both saddened and shocked to hear the news of Michael Sypniewski passing. I met him only a few times, and was a really nice person. I met him through his sister, Sandra, who I've known for many years. My heart goes out to Michael's family. God Bless.

Comment by Susan E. Navickas on November 27, 2011 at 7:10am

I was both saddened and shocked to hear the news of Michael Sypniewski passing. I met him only a few times, and was a really nice person. I met him through his sister, Sandra, who I've known for many years. My heart goes out to Michael's family. God Bless.

Comment by loretta rosane cobb on November 16, 2011 at 1:53pm

i was saddened by the news of the passing of Mr. Leo Norris. my heart goes to the norris family for he was a saved man of god. he has helped so many people by notarizing papers or just praying at the church.he will truly be missed. my heart goes out to lancyna, lavie, tommy,mother norris and the entire family. i love you all and may god bless and keep you in his perfect peace as you prepare to put him at rest. remember god is able to hael all hurt and pain. be strong in the lord for he god all the time.

Comment by Tina Carter on September 8, 2011 at 4:08am

Our condolences to the Coppola Family...my husband and I would have wanted to get to know Donald Coppola and family; however, we were unable to locate him until after his passing.  May God bless his family and give them peace and memories to cherish forever.  Sincerely, James Donald and Tina Carter   

Comment by Joseph M, Anzalone on August 14, 2011 at 2:20pm

Life dealt its blow to bring you to Heavenly Father...I along with sevaral hundred brothers of your at BoysTown,Nebraska...None of will every forget yuor egagaing nature..even back in High School  you always said hello good morning like you meant it...May God keep at his side forever and ever.Joseph Anzalone 1967

Comment by diane briseno on July 7, 2011 at 10:02pm
mom here we are a year later an it just hiitin me hard im so sorry i left u if i stood u still be here oh mom why why did u leave i wont ever get over this or for give my self i love you an one day will be togather agin il  let u pull my hair an chase me homein ur house coat give a sing that ur 9ok love you momy i wont say good bye its ILL SEE YOU SOON!!!!!!LOVE ROCKIE
Comment by helen e hixon mckay on May 29, 2011 at 8:16pm

To my brother Ronald L. Hixon. Ronald I wish think were differnt and i could tell u one more time how much i love u. And now I have to say how much i will miss u. You were my baby brother and we were very different but the same. We have the same mother and father and the same brothers and sister. Ronnie I wish i had only new . We could have one more day one more phone call. I want u to know I love u with all my heart. And someday we will met again and i cant tell u how much I love and miss u. love always ur sis helen

Comment by helen e hixon mckay on May 29, 2011 at 8:16pm

To my brother Ronald L. Hixon. Ronald I wish think were differnt and i could tell u one more time how much i love u. And now I have to say how much i will miss u. You were my baby brother and we were very different but the same. We have the same mother and father and the same brothers and sister. Ronnie I wish i had only new . We could have one more day one more phone call. I want u to know I love u with all my heart. And someday we will met again and i cant tell u how much I love and miss u. love always ur sis helen

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