By Elizabeth Harper Neeld, Ph.D. A widow with two small sons recalls: I began to observe the boys and how they were about the death of their daddy. One day, several months after Lee’s accidental death, the boys and I were pulling into the driveway and the four-year-old suddenly asked, “Mama, what does accident mean? What’s an accident?” Before I could answer, Jeremy, who is seven, said, “I don…